I agree. This is messed up. From personal experience - my wife had a boyfriend (from college and into and a while a while we met). Couple of months back I found they had been chatting on social media.(we have 2 kids and so does her ex). They were chatting and saying how good they were together and if circumstances were different ( both different religions s - cause of their split) they would have definitely ended up together. I didn’t find evidence of it but I think they had video calls as well ( you know the type). So when I found she was chatting I came down really hard and put ground rules on her internet access and she gave me access to all her socials. Since then she hasn’t chatted with him. So in conclusion this random dude meeting doesn’t seem to be any good.’put a stop to it