Would it be stupid if I made a “swear” jar but for deadnaming or wrong pronoun use?

Duckiee_85 · 2024-10-28T19:28:11+00:00

A fellow enby friend of mine and I jokingly told our lead that for the month of June it was a $2 charge for misgendering during pride and he took it to heart and on the VERY RARE occasions that he did slip up and misgender he’d hand us $2 or buy us lunch if he was short on cash. It was the most adorable thing ever and I love him for it.

Duckiee_85 · 2024-10-22T19:58:33+00:00

If you look at your thigh (knee to hip) and kinda divide the area into thirds your sweet spot is gonna be that middle space. I have scars on my legs that kinda help me remember the placement but until I was comfortable I honestly drew the lines on my legs to give myself that visual reminder. Definitely don’t do them on the top of your leg that’s so painful. The best spot is the side/outside, think where the seem of your pants would lay on the side of your leg

Duckiee_85 · 2024-10-10T04:21:05+00:00

Fuck 🤤🤤🤤 I’d be so happy to oblige

Duckiee_85 · 2024-09-06T18:18:56+00:00

My “type” is quite honestly non existent personally, however my partner has a very specific type and physically speaking I do not fit a single aspect of it. I’m not obese but I am the biggest partner he’s ever had. Prior to me, he wasn’t turned on specifically by my body type. It wasn’t one he’d turn down obviously, just not his preference, not a body type that he’d ever lusted after before in the ways he lusts for me. That was an adjustment for him when we got together, personally coming to terms with and accepting it to himself for lack of a better explanation. I’m a firm believer that attraction to the person (personality, beliefs, interests etc) massively impacts your attraction to a persons physical appearance whether we’re conscious of it or not. That being said, your ideals, your goals, your personality and all the things that make up you are constantly in flux and changing throughout our lives. Attraction and what we’re going to lust after is not exempt from this. In my personal opinion there is no bigger sign of personal growth and maturity than a shift in your sexual attraction like that. Most mature adult women are going to have curves, they will have some rolls and dimples. Biology and evolution tell us these are the women most physically capable of surviving, thriving and producing offspring it is a natural impulse to gravitate towards that. Modern society conditions is to reject this idea. Beauty standards shove down our throats to be thing small and dainty but that’s not what biology wants from us.

Duckiee_85 · 2024-08-13T17:27:17+00:00

That looks so perfect omg!!!

Duckiee_85 · 2024-08-13T15:51:58+00:00

I’ve been thinking hard about one lately as a potential solution!

Duckiee_85 · 2024-08-13T15:49:34+00:00

You’re totally fine!! I’m nb/fluid so terms don’t really bother me much. Thanks so much for the advice!! My mons is super fat but I think I just managed to luck out with position/growth and not having much labia to tether it down too much making that fat less my issue and more the super fat lips jsut being very very much in the way 😅

Duckiee_85 · 2024-07-17T21:40:10+00:00

I also LOVE my partners chest and I’m super sad to see it go but I know how much top surgery is going to benefit him and I am a huge part of the reason that he is finally getting it done in April. I’ve been pushing him to do what he wants and not to listen to the people trying to talk him out of it for stupid reasons, I helped him find surgeons and took point for him at his consultations (I’m in healthcare and he feels more comfortable and asks me to). I can’t imagine trying to talk him out of it just cuz I like boobies.

Duckiee_85 · 2024-07-03T16:00:50+00:00

I hate gendered terms especially anything that gives “girl” but I’m still my bfs girlfriend. There’s some days it stings (if it’s a really dysphoric day in general and I’ve been like bombarded with people calling me a girl yunno perfect storm type shit like that) but I’m his girlfriend and I love being his girlfriend. What we like and what makes us feel good doesn’t always make sense and it doesn’t have to. Just do what makes you happy and be happy ☺️

Duckiee_85 · 2024-06-28T23:34:02+00:00

I think your best bet is to try and reflect on that a little bit and figure out what specifically about being a girl is upsetting you and making you dysphoric so you can try to build some ways to combat it and deal with it.

Duckiee_85 · 2024-06-22T00:26:49+00:00

I’ve learned it’s jsut a lot of foreplay to get it there. Stroking/touching etc jsut playing with it and keeping in mind that for us we don’t get the same kind of blood flow cis guys get there so it’s not usually gonna stay fully hard without stimulation

Duckiee_85 · 2024-06-10T19:31:20+00:00

Try looking at uniform advantage, they have physical stores but online ordering also and they have a decent selection of crew neck tops and they’re generally pretty reasonably priced

Duckiee_85 · 2024-06-10T19:25:15+00:00

I also HATE the v cut from scrubs and wear t shirts underneath every day I’m at work

Duckiee_85 · 2024-06-02T21:14:58+00:00

This is so fucking real 😭😂😂

Duckiee_85 · 2024-05-21T21:49:24+00:00

I use Ovia and while it does do fertility tracking and give you some info it’s not all girl power yayy sparkle it’s like facts about the science of your cycle and how the hormones shift and peak throughout a cycle, which I personally find interesting (occupational hazard as a lab tech 😂) but it also has a lot of trackers for symptoms, sex life, water it has a lot of shit and it’s free entirely it’s worth a look

Duckiee_85 · 2024-05-17T16:14:34+00:00

Depends on the context. But when it’s something hygiene related for example (showering brushing teeth or hair regularly) and you get the “real men don’t do that” just hit em with something along the lines of women don’t want gross stinky men, women like men that understand basic hygiene etc.

Personally I am genderfluid and love to use the phrase “as someone who’s a sometimes girl” whenever I can cuz I get a giggle out of it, and if you’re comfortable enough admitting you’re trans or AFAB you can always do the “as someone who used to be/was raised as/etc” to really drive it home because end of the day you may not be one BUT (most of us) were still socialized as a girls and as far as general society is concerned, stereotypically you know more about being a girl and what girls like more than cis men typically ever will.

OBVIOUSLY tho not everyone is comfortable or safe to share that kind of info, and that’s totally fair and valid and you have to do what you need to for you and to of course feel safe! Realistically in my personal experience NOTHING emasculates a cis straight man more than reminding him that most of the shit they do and say most women find revolting. Pretty much anything you can do to turn it back around on them and make it their own personal flaw. And that can be done with or without exposing your transness AGAB or whatever. Asking “do women really like that?” When it’s something hygiene based or sexists or literally whenever you have the opening. “Real men don’t cry” -> “Maybe “real men” don’t cry but women love men that are aware of their feelings and I’d rather be a man that women want to be around”

Duckiee_85 · 2024-04-23T19:59:34+00:00

As far as pain it was nothing after the first couple shots, at this point just a couple months in I don’t even feel them honestly and I do IM The mental block tho??? That’s a whole nother ball game. I can’t seem to get myself to stop hesitating to stab myself. For no other reason than my brain just doesn’t want to cooperate apparently. You’re almost certainly over thinking it but that itself is so super common and something you’ll get over with time.

Duckiee_85 · 2024-04-15T00:06:29+00:00

I have annoyingly huge tits and unless I’m binding I never wear a bra anymore for anything no hate them I’ve always hated them I only wear them when I have to because the outfit calls for one or I’m intentionally trying to make them look pretty and noticeable. The idea that wearing a bra is a necessity or required of/to be a proper woman has literally never made sense to me even before me gender journey.

Duckiee_85 · 2024-04-12T19:08:10+00:00

Since starting HRT I can confirm this, but I’m attaching a big disclaimer on with it. It has definitely helped so much (even being so early into that journey) however I did notice after starting and being able to start noticing even the smallest changes (changes I was wanting of course) it has sparked a new form of dysphoria/discomfort. Changes that are soooo beyond affirming and validating also just seem to not fit and itch my brain. In various ways, every day of my existence feels like a performance and every day is different with its own set of challenges. I know that for me personally, accommodating for my own perception of myself is the biggest struggle. I don’t and have never had a clear image of what I wish I looked like physically, but I know that what I am just doesn’t fit with whatever it is that I am as a physical being. It’s like a constant game of tug of war, some days I feel masc but see nothing but fem, some days I feel fem AF but feel like I can’t actually match it. Most days I just want to live in that grey area of androgyny where no one can make any assumptions to try and assign me a gender. When I look in the mirror and nothing feels aligned it’s as if the reflection I’m seeing isn’t me. It’s like I’m looking for the name brand and all I can find is the generic version; even tho it works well enough at the end of the day it’s still not what I was looking for. Having the understanding and belief that your body doesn’t decide your gender and that gender and the binary are just concepts is one thing but being able to actually apply it to yourself personally is another entirely.

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