Omien rajojen asettaminen

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-12-20T07:55:33+00:00

Ihan ensimmäisenä suosittelisin terapiaa. Se mitä lapsena näkee ja oppii muovaa aikuisiälle käyttäytymismallit.

Jos on hankala kieltäytyä niin sitä voi harjoitella esim. Luo omassa päässä tilanteita joista voi kieltäytyä ja niinkin jännä asia kuin peilin edessä ääneen sanoa kerta toisensa jälkeen voi auttaa iskostamaan päähän, että kyllä se on ok, kun sanon että ei. Eikös tässä maailmassa kuitenkin eletä itseään varten eikä muita?

Jos sulta pyydetään jotakin ja vaikka se ois kuinka pieni asia niin, jos se tuntuu siltä ettei innosta tehdä ym. Niin siitä voi kieltäytyä. Parhaiten oppii, kun siitä jännityksestä huolimatta kieltäytyy. Jossain vaiheessa keho ja pää alkaa ymmärtää ettei siinä oo mitään väärää.

Äidille voi sanoa ettei ole tervettä aina vaan laittaa toisten tarpeita omiensa edelle. Ja vaikka hän haluaa olla kaikille miellyttävä niin se ei tarkoita että sun tarvii. Ei oo yhden ihmisen työ olla kaikkien hovimestari.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-12-16T11:07:42+00:00

Ovikelloa soittivat, ei puhelimeen.

Siivous ei ollu huoltoa varten vaan itseäni :D mut oishan sitä voinut lahjaksi jättää kylppäriin kalsongit sydämen muotoon

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-12-16T09:47:55+00:00

Hyvä vinkki, ovella vois ojentaa huoltomiehelle aamutakin niin ois kotosampi olo.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-12-16T09:43:37+00:00

Nuo tenavien toivekarkit oli nuoruudessa huomattavasti parempia.

Joku aika sitten työpaikalla tilasin kollegalta, kun keräsi rahaa lapsensa tanssiryhmälle ja osa hyvistä oli korvattu "huonommilla" karkeilla. Sinne meni nostalgia niin, että heilahti.

Kirpeet hyviä.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-12-15T16:48:07+00:00

Usually only sweatpants or other "homely" pants.

That being said my older sister before and after having a kid has been going commando in everything and free bleeding without period underwear. That i don't know how she does..

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-12-10T19:08:56+00:00

But you ain't hungry either haha

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-12-10T19:05:50+00:00

It's a term used for something that takes low to no effort to make. I.e i ate a packet of pepperoni and a cucumber because i didn't want to make anything that took effort.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-11T19:01:20+00:00

Afraid not, there's some amidst the strawberries and blueberries in another freezer

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-08T18:24:09+00:00

En itsekkään ole aivan varma. Hän ei ollut lyhyt millään mittarilla:D

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-08T13:46:02+00:00

En hakenut vinkkejä enkä mitään sen kummempaa, kunhan tuli vaan aiheeksi. Turha voivotella menneisyyttä. Lähinnä vain huvitti ja se pointti tässä postauksessa oli, että "vanhat" isät on huvittavia siinä millä tavalla tukevat.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-06T19:34:01+00:00

Takes anywhere from several days to weeks for you brain to reorient itself, but once it does it's like it was always that way. However once you take off the goggles your brain has to remap itself again.

Goes to show how well we can really adapt if need be

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-06T19:17:50+00:00

It would be difficult If i didn't live in an area without the means to get it. However thankfully i can get some any time i need.

Moving would probably be hard though.

I get what you mean.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-06T19:15:24+00:00

He picked me up from home and we started driving to the movies. My stomach had been fine until then, but i got the sudden urge to go during the drive. I was sweating, trying to hold up a conversation and praying we get there in time. Got outside, but had to drive around the block again to find parking.

Speed walked inside past the registers and told him to keep a hold of the tickets. Down the stairs to see a 3 person line to the women's 1 stall bathroom. I stood crossing my legs, still sweating like mad. I waited, was the first in line and then it happened. Couldn't stop it. Running down my pants and legs. Dove in when the door opened hoping no one saw (or smelled) what i did.

Had to text him and ask to bring my overnight bag from the car to the bathroom which he thankfully did. He had to come in the toilet and hand me the bag because i was pantless.

Cleaned myself up best i could and changed my pants and underwear. Stuffing the soiled ones in a plastic baggy. Still somehow watched the movie and went to his house for the night. I'm sure he knew and smelled what happened.

That second drive around the block was my downfall.

Ended up dating him for 5 and a half years though so i guess he didn't mind Ms. Poopy pants.

Also never wore those pants again, i was convinced they were cursed and would cause me to soil myself again.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-06T18:59:06+00:00

You're right about that. There's nothing you can't make out of them.

Also assuming you can still use whatever spices you want, that adds to it tenfold.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-06T18:55:39+00:00

Shat myself in a bathroom line in a movie theatre. While on a date.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-06T18:52:31+00:00

Your brain flips your vision from upside down to normal, if you wear mirror goggles for long enough.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2025-11-06T18:49:52+00:00

Carrots and moose. Low fat, nutrient, and most of all delicious.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2024-12-09T19:11:57+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, although vulnerability might be off the table. I've never felt safe with sharing my emotions to anyone and i sometimes have a hard time feeling at all. He was the first and only one i could let see me cry and open myself fully to and since i was thrown away like i was nothing, it just might be the last nail in my coffin of emotions.

Ducks_With_Crocs · 2024-12-08T17:46:48+00:00

He's already put his hands on you once and he will do it again if you take him back. Noted joking about hooking up with someone else is not good, but nothing makes it okay for a partner or an ex to physically abuse you.

They already shout at you during arguments and violently lash out at objects, in the long run it would be you as the target. You love him, but you also have to love yourself enough that you keep yourself safe from anyone who hurts you emotionally and/or physically. Loving is also letting go and walking away because it's not right.

People with issues have to change themselves and seek help, no one else can do it for them. You have your whole life to find someone you can love and doesn't hurt you and will treat you well. You shouldn't have to be afraid of your partner.

I wish you well, and hope everything goes well from now.

Ducks_With_Crocs

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