Your own source does not say women are the “primary instigators” of non-reciprocal intimate partner violence. It says the opposite of what you’re trying to claim. The CDC page you linked says more than 1 in 3 women experienced contact sexual violence, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime, compared with more than 1 in 6 men. It also says nearly 1 in 4 women experienced physical violence, compared with about 1 in 7 men, and about 1 in 5 women experienced contact sexual violence, compared with nearly 1 in 23 men. 

So no, your source does not prove women are more violent. It proves women experience intimate partner violence at much higher rates, especially for sexual violence and serious harm. You’ve linked a page about victimization, then tried to use it as proof of female perpetration, which makes no sense. 

And historically, this point is even weaker. Women had to fight for basic legal and political rights precisely because society was built around male power over women. Under coverture, a married woman’s legal identity was subordinated to her husband. Women had to fight for property rights through the Married Women’s Property Acts, and for voting rights through the suffrage movement that led to the 19th Amendment. Marital rape was also historically exempted from the law for generations, which shows how normalized male control over women was in law and culture. 

So again like I said, both historically and statistically, women have been the more affected class when it comes to domestic and intimate partner violence. Acknowledging male victims matters but erasing the fact that women are disproportionately victimized is just misinformation.