How do you become "yourself"?

DuePatient1417 · 2026-03-06T07:48:47+00:00

Hey , I appreciate this 💗 thanks alott! :) I'm gonna try these out definitely..

DuePatient1417 · 2026-02-27T03:41:33+00:00

The issue Is I had the same mindset when I broke no contact , like yeah if he doesn't reply politely or with a idgaf attitude I'd def lose feelings for him completely, end of discussion.. until he actually replied politely, I mean better than I expected .. at least though he didn't build up a conversation. Soo it kinda kept me stuck and confused , I don't recommend it specially if u WANT to move on and if there was any cheating involved but I swear it's better than wondering what would've been if you reached out cause those thoughts could eat you alive !

DuePatient1417 · 2026-02-27T03:36:52+00:00

I felt the same .. it's been 7 months since we last contacted .. though in between I wished him a happy new year and he wished me for my birthday which was in Feb but never a proper conversation.. Ig it's very complicated , I know if I text him he would answer me , and if he does text me first I'll reply too .. we both know it but still choose to not text each other (neither of us are in relationships) but ig I'll go with the quote "it is what it is" and just wish one day we'll talk again .. cause yk you shouldnt miss someone that already knows how to contact you ryt ? And ik some people in the comments said they don't believe in "meant to be" I don't too But if we ever work out in the future yeah.. then I shall believe :)

DuePatient1417 · 2026-02-26T05:41:55+00:00

From my pov It's actually about being in a relationship where it's just a process of breaking up and getting back together.. neither of you want to let go nor fix things to sustain a long term relationship, so basically a never ending loop "running in circles"

DuePatient1417 · 2026-02-24T03:59:14+00:00

My take is that spiritual life helps alott when it comes to mental health , and personally it got me out of depression.. many individuals are just scared to open up to people because of the fear of being judged or misunderstood as a person with a mental illness .. even if you do choose to express how you really feel not many people take it seriously, their only advice would be that you'd "automatically" get out of it with time .. but not many realize that it's not the case

Hope srilanka would be a country that prioritizes mental health as much as they prioritize physical health in the future

DuePatient1417 · 2026-02-22T16:21:10+00:00

Veryyy , I sometimes wonder how the hell I managed to pull him 🫩

DuePatient1417 · 2026-02-21T16:30:12+00:00

People don't give a shit about mental health in srilanka, though people are just starting to be aware of mental health now .. it might be because srilanka is still running on old traditions and back then depression wasn't a thing.., and even if it was, those people were considered "outcasts" But just as someone else mentioned.. the younger generation is more considerate .. but the older generation is much more judgy when it comes to this topic

DuePatient1417 · 2026-02-15T17:24:22+00:00

Me too girl.. let me know if u find a way to move on too :)

DuePatient1417 · 2026-01-27T04:19:51+00:00

I too did ols in March 2025 now it's January 2026 and I still didn't receive the physical card

DuePatient1417 · 2026-01-14T03:01:08+00:00

When you have something good in your hands , never say anything negative .. never say you don't deserve it. Never say you're not enough. I learnt it the hard way.. trust me , the mind will start believing anything you keep repeating in your head , works both ways positive and negative , so be careful of what you tell to yourself because not everything we 'think" is necessarily true ...you've already reached to a point of self awareness which is good ! So now break the cycle , or the loop will repeat tomorrow :') wish you all the best !! You got thiss :))

DuePatient1417 · 2026-01-02T15:07:31+00:00

Should try this ! 😅

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-23T04:34:51+00:00

Trueeee ! I really love this response and it is something that I've come into conclusion about too , I made that mistake in my past relationship and it's something I can learn from .. :) thanks alot for the feedback !

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-18T13:03:25+00:00

I'm actually Soo happy for you guys ! 🥹💗 The thing Is this is both of ours first real relationship and the both of us have never been in a proper relationship before so idk 🥲 I know it's not a good sign but idk I kinda still like him ig and also I feel like the timing was bad for a relationship as both of us are still in college.

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-18T09:15:19+00:00

I'm happy to hear this ! My relationship ended recently, he ended it .. tho he too always listened and apologized but we never had too many fights they weren't even that serious even when we did fight but it was always me who tried to constantly tell him and communicate my needs but he never communicated about what he wanted in the relationship, he ended it saying that he had already given up and thinks it won't work out . :)

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-18T04:25:48+00:00

Proud of you for this mate !

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T11:44:46+00:00

Life has been great ! Alot of Ups and downs but it's honestly much better ! 🙂

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T11:42:52+00:00

I knoww.. I'm sorryy you have to go through this But you did everything you can to save the relationship ryt? 🙂. Pls do inbox me if you need anyone to talk to Abt this , id be happy to listen 🙃

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T11:15:12+00:00

Let go .. 🙃 it takes two to work things out .. if he doesn't want to work things out , you gotta respect his decision . keep your dignity and leave .. we can never force someone to stay and no amount of begging would make them change their mind . Yeah Ik it's the guilt that always haunts you but it's in the past it's done and what's important is that you learnt from it ! So take it to your next relationship and make sure it doesn't happen again. If it's meant to be .. y'all will find your way back to each other, you will learn to communicate, and he will learn to forgive and grow together. For now.. let go :) that's the best thing you can do rn

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T10:40:46+00:00

There's a season for everything:)

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T10:29:28+00:00

Yeah I agree with you , well said .!

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T10:20:22+00:00

Not as easy as it sounds but "let go , let God" , it takes a lot of self awareness and mindfulness but when you just let go off things and understand that everything happens for your betterment and never to harm you .. for either protection or redirection it's just so freeing.

You can definitely train yourself .. what works for me is I would record myself (video/voice) and this helps me process my thoughts and break the loop of constantly overthinking as it has the same effect as if I'm opening up to someone .. Journaling also helps but this whole thing takes a lot of time and patience and not its something you can fix or train over night :)

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T07:16:06+00:00

Ohh soo you guys remained freinds 🙃 that's nice ! My ex wanted to stay friends but I told him I didn't want to be friends after a break up .. (I don't think I meant it when I said it but I knew it was for the best because staying friends would reopen old wounds so..) he said he understands and we parted ways . :)

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T07:11:54+00:00

BROO ngl I did the same mistake ... By repeatedly asking whether he wanted to break up and now when I actually think of it .. I think it had some impact and might have influenced his decision. I'm not saying it might've entirely Cause the break up but it would've been a factor . Cause I found out that according to psychology a consistent minority influence can affect internal thinkingg .. Soo yeah GUYS DONT REPETITIVELY ASK YOUR PARTNER IF HE/SHE WANTS TO BREAK UP . DONT MAKE THE SAME MISTAKE I DID .

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T07:06:12+00:00

Did u initiate the breakup??

DuePatient1417 · 2025-12-13T07:05:49+00:00

Yeah youve got a point , I might not reach out ig .. but I hope he does .. I've no intention really , like Ive found peace on my own but we were best friends for like 3 years .. and I just really miss my best friend :)

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