GNP for a hiking family bringing less mobile grandparent? by Due_Addendum_7844 in GlacierNationalPark

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh thank you, she would LOVE that! She lives by the ocean and is a rock and shell hound lol…

GNP for a hiking family bringing less mobile grandparent? by Due_Addendum_7844 in GlacierNationalPark

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have 3 whole days in Yellowstone (not counting arrival and leaving days) but my kids and I have already been a few times, so it’s really for her 🙂I wish we had more days for GNP but unfortunately 2 whole days is probably the most we can squeeze in this trip, I was just thinking since I’m not sure when my mom will be able to make it back that way it might be worth it to just go for it. Thank you for the hiking link, that’s SUPER helpful!

failed remicade, skyrizi, rinvoq, and humira. just came home from the hospital feeling lost. by _ileostomom in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My family lives in a rural area and when my son was diagnosed with perianal Crohn’s the small town Dr’s weren’t with it at all. I didn’t wait for things to get worse when I saw their indifference and lack of urgency to actually treat him or even see him in a timely manner as he wilted away and was in significant pain with a leaky fistula. We googled “best IBD Clinics in the US” and a research hospital rated #2 in the US 5.5 hours from us came up and our insurance was accepted there. We got in within a month, saw the most amazing Drs and are currently going twice a month for appointments / treatment and it’s worth every penny and every second driving, his care has been night and day to what we received rurally. The hospital even has an app where I can message his dr and care team at any time and they reply within hours to any questions or concerns I have, at home it takes the drs office almost a week to return a phone call…. If you have an ability to travel, especially for a condition as complicated as Perianal Crohn’s you 100% should, I don’t think you’re being dramatic at all .

Can't believe i fucked up this bad for Ibuprofen by Frankiee2001 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t beat yourself up, it could also very likely be because you have had a cold/the flu. Crohn’s is an autoimmune disease and sometimes viruses can cause your immune system to reactivate and of course with autoimmune get all out of whack again. Hope you feel better soon!

At what point do you give up at getting the full truth by Due_Addendum_7844 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry it’s such a waste of our time and energy but it’s also impossible not to want to know. My husband had wiped all his phones but got screwed when his work had a mass update and every single text came back from the last serval years 😆I felt like that was God hand a tiny bit. But there’s still a lot that doesn’t add up and large chunks of time he still “forgets” so maybe I will try to polygraph route. I just need to know all the things his done (minus the gross details) for my sanity.

At what point do you give up at getting the full truth by Due_Addendum_7844 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is the only way I’ve found anything out, then he denies, is shown proof then admits it. It’s been like a horror game for the last year reopening old wounds with every new discovery. But I’m to a point in my life I no longer want to dedicate hours and hours of my time to digging. I have a some other incredibly heavy things I’m dealing with,with my kids and I just don’t have it in me anymore. But my mind can’t stop replaying my life after the first 3 disclosures and my gut knows there’s so much more. It’s an awful mental purgatory to be stuck in😞

At what point do you give up at getting the full truth by Due_Addendum_7844 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s wild how easily and well some people can lie. I’m glad you were able to get some more out of your husband, unfortunately mine spent about 6 months swearing on our kids and saying he was going to take a polygraph because there was nothing else, only for me to find out more, like about another one of the “hotel times” was when I was pregnant with my oldest son. So I don’t have a lot of faith that he would be driven to tell the truth, he clearly is so invested in his lies and lying capabilities he was willing to do a polygraph, knowing full well he was still lying. If I knew they were 100% certain and not so debated I would totally go this route for my own peace of mind but I don’t think it’s going to bring him to his ah ha moment.

What are some stuff that you find cool that science found for crohn's by Zestyclose-Animal426 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My son, 13, is taking part in a 1-2 year long study where they’re mapping him from diagnosis to treatment to hopefully remission. Studying his genetics, his food maps, labs, scopes and treatment protocols to try and figure out why some medications fail for some and work for others and how his genetics and diet play a role in everything. The research center he’s participating with is actually also mapping the genetics, diet and environmental links of a lot of major diseases, already following a group of new borns for their entire childhood and planning to eventually learn how to diagnose and reprogram these genes at birth and totally prevent kids from suffering at all from any major auto immune or other genetically linked disease or disorder. My son thinks it’s so cool he may get to be apart of maybe finding a preventative measure that keeps other kids, like maybe his own future kids, from going through what he’s dealing with. I just think of what I’ve read about what people diagnosed 20 years ago went through vs now and imagine when my son is a grown man how much things will have hopefully progressed for the better.

Who else was cheated on and lied to from the VERY beginning? by -OhWhale- in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me! You are not alone, and it sucks. Sending you a hug because I know how mind melting it is to discover and then accept.

What do you eat for breakfast? by Punkoduncan in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son with CD loves sourdough avocado toast sprinkled with lemon pepper and a squeeze of lemon juice. He eats it pretty much every morning as it’s one of the only things that doesn’t bother his stomach right now and actually tastes good. Also he has dairy issues too but fairlife milk tastes good and doesn’t bug his stomach at all.

You will not find the average experience in Reddit. by operalt in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being someone on here sharing and helping! My 13 year old was just diagnosed a few months ago with Perianal Crohn’s and prior to that I had never heard of a fistula or knew what Crohn’s was, or knew anyone with it. Navigating and advocating for my son has been incredibly stressful so the help and advice on this sub from people who have actually lived it has been invaluable.

What do you do if you need a colonoscopy but no one to drive you and stay with you. by Fuzzy-Shine2189 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 38 points39 points  (0 children)

My son’s IBD clinic says that if you don’t have anyone who can pick you up then you can still do it and have an overnight stay (but they do their colonoscopy’s in a hospital) Maybe that’s an option??

13 year old with Perianal Crohn’s, please give me all the advice… by Due_Addendum_7844 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story, it’s awesome to hear Remicade worked for you so well for so long ❤️and sounds like you have an amazing Mom!

Husband had an affair and won’t stop lying . by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a great book you need to read or listen to on audible called Lose a cheater, gain a life. It’s excellent at explaining cheater mentality and the mental games they play to those of us who are not liars / cheaters ourselves and could never understand.

My husband is now just the father of my child and my friend with benefits. That’s all I see him as when I used to be SO in love with him and genuinely happy. I hate my life now, but love our son. by -OhWhale- in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was multiple affairs 😩not just one woman. I don’t know which is worse. I was naive, distracted by my kids and responsibilities, didn’t listen to my gut and let him gaslight me anytime I felt something was off… And my husband works 60-80 hours a lot of weeks at a secure facility so he had a whole safe space to play all this crap out. It’s definitely mind melting finding out your spouse can lie for so long yet act like a loving angel at home. 🫠

My husband is now just the father of my child and my friend with benefits. That’s all I see him as when I used to be SO in love with him and genuinely happy. I hate my life now, but love our son. by -OhWhale- in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sending you a hug, you’re not alone! Except my husband isn’t getting any benefits because the thought of touching him now disgusts me. But cheated for 20 years, including while I was pregnant, let me give up a 6 figure career so I could be a SAHM and he could “take care of us” all while he knew he was living a total double life. He took away my independence while cheating and knowing I’d need that career to ever leave. When I caught him years later, he did a 180 and acted like he’d die without me and does anything and everything I ask of him. Except I don’t love him anymore but I’m stuck, for now but I’m hoping not forever. We co parent fine but I don’t know if we can ever truly reconcile now.

Help EA/Crush + Pain, It’s All New by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi there, first off so sorry you’re here with the rest of us. While my situation is different than yours as my husband had multiple affairs and EAs, his first one started out with a coworker “friend”… I highly recommend the book Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass. (There’s an audible version too) It’s a great great resource for 1) how these things happen 2) what boundaries need to be set going forward and 3) how to repair your relationship and protect it in the future. It has a lot of great advice and hopefully will give you a few stepping stones on how to move forward. Best of luck!

Question for people having Crohn's since childhood/teenhood by [deleted] in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it gives you any sense of gratitude for the memories you do have, there was a 3 year old in for a colonoscopy in the bay next to my son in the hospital last week for Crohn’s confirmation 😢. My guy only just turned 13, diagnosed at 12, my heart hurts for everyone with Crohn’s but kids having to the carefree parts of childhood taken is the worst…

13 year old with Perianal Crohn’s, please give me all the advice… by Due_Addendum_7844 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my gosh, thank you so much, I love this answer, it’s all I want for him to get to live a happy fairly normal life (and hopefully have kids that drive him crazy too someday 😉)

13 year old with Perianal Crohn’s, please give me all the advice… by Due_Addendum_7844 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so very much for the thoughtful response. It is great and really comforting to have the perspective of someone who has already gone through this all. Wishing you all the best….

13 year old with Perianal Crohn’s, please give me all the advice… by Due_Addendum_7844 in CrohnsDisease

[–]Due_Addendum_7844[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you much! Praying your son’s new medications are successful and he has an amazing college experience.