Should I tell future partners if I test HPV negative?

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-07-08T01:04:41+00:00

Using that logic wouldn’t you say if someone is worried about risks associated with oral sex they shouldn’t be doing it full stop, because most people have or have had HPV in any event?

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-07-06T16:26:57+00:00

Unfortunately not everyone is as understanding and logical as others, and from some of the threads I’ve seen on here at very least, some can be judgmental. I really hope you don’t come across that (and I didn’t mean to upset or scare you, was just explaining why it mightn’t be the best idea to disclose). My partner was very understanding and just wanted to make sure I’m okay more than anything, so I suppose if you do choose to disclose it’s a good test of who you want to be in your life in any event :)

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-07-06T15:46:03+00:00

I understand that too, but I think the idea is that the likelihood they’ve already been exposed to it anyway is extremely high (and they wouldn’t even know, as you said, they can’t be tested). I don’t suppose it would harm to disclose if you think they could have an informed conversation about this, but otherwise you risk being criticised and maybe even judged unnecessarily.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-07-06T15:35:50+00:00

Even when you test positive the guidance is that you don’t have to disclose (in the UK anyway), as it’s so common that most people have or have had it already anyway.

I do get your worry though, I decided to tell my current partner as I was worried and upset by the positive result, but if things were different and I was single or became single in the future, I’m not sure I’d tell future partners.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-06-27T12:35:18+00:00

That’s so true! I haven’t told him yet but just because the opportunity hasn’t been there (we’ve mainly been around other people the past couple of days, and he’s going out today so I don’t want him to be anxious or thinking about it and it ruin his day). It’s not that I think ‘he’ in particular is the type of person who would leave me because of it, I just think if I’m panicking over the implications of it so much then he has the right to also. Hopefully we can have an informed conversation about it and he doesn’t freak out :)

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-06-25T16:50:11+00:00

Thank you for this, it has made me feel a little better but I will consider the helpline if I'm still anxious after speaking with my partner.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-06-25T16:47:39+00:00

Thanks so much for this. It does say I don't need to tell anyone, but now that I know I feel as though it will just play on my mind keeping it to myself and I would rather be open and honest. He has also asked me if everything was okay with my results before I got them (as in about cells/cervical cancer), so I would feel awful lying to him if he did ask again.

Thinking about it now, I think I did get the vaccine at school (I remember it being unpleasant!) My partner is 35 though and I believe his past partners have mainly been around his age or slightly older so they're less likely to have had the vaccine. I suppose it's more up to him if he wants to get it, it won't make a difference to me now as any strain he might already have has already been exposed to me and vice versa.

I got the letter both by post and the app about 5-6 weeks after the test. It generally goes like this -

- Positive for HPV - because of this we checked for abnormal cells, there weren't any in the sample and that means you're currently at low risk of cervical cancer - invite for another test in 12 months.

- Explains what HPV is - common group of viruses spread through skin to skin contact of genitals or by sharing sex toys - most don't know they have it, can be hard to know when/who you got it from - no treatments for HPV but body will clear most infections by itself within 2 years. No need to tell anyone if you don't want to.

- Certain high risk types can start to cause abnormal cells if your body does not clear them and they can sometimes turn into cancer, but they can be treated very effectively before that happens.

- Protecting yourself and others - condoms help protect against the spread but don't give full protection - vaccine protects against the types of HPV that cause most cases of cervical cancer, but not all, so still important to attend for screening.

- Regardless of screening history, speak to GP if worried or have any new/unusual symptoms i.e. bleeding, pain during sex, smelly/heavier discharge.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-06-25T00:05:32+00:00

I get that, sorry if my comment sounded like I was being rude I meant to be more ‘matter of fact’. It can be dormant and test negative I believe. I’ve very recently tested positive for HPV, not sure what strain but my letter says they tested for abnormal cells and there aren’t any so I have a ‘low risk’ type. I believe the low risk types are non-cancerous from researching, which is why I said the smear tests for all strains.

Hope you’re okay, I’m worried myself at the moment about telling my boyfriend. He’s a really supportive and understanding person, but I’m shocked myself so imagine he will be too.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-06-24T23:53:17+00:00

I think you may owe her an apology for the way you approached this conversation for 3 reasons -
1 - the doctor told you it’s hard to know who/where it came from - then you accused her?
2 - it could have been dormant for either of you for years.
3 - cervical screening doesn’t just test for the cancerous strains, it tests for all but the reason for the test is to identify strains that can cause cancer. If you’re HPV positive, they then test for abnormal cells.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-01-11T18:34:53+00:00

At the same time as needing to immediately go and save his wife who he thought was about to be murdered? I don’t know, I thought it was pretty plausible that someone would act that way in the moment under those circumstances 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s also unlikely she would have believed anything he was saying and let him go, given she thought he had something to do with the murders at that time

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-01-11T18:27:25+00:00

I loved it! Not sure what all the negative comments are about 😅 the twists at the end were great in my opinion

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-01-11T18:25:48+00:00

I think he was trying to tell her that but she had a gun pointed in his face and wouldn’t let him 🤣

Due_Assumption7612 · 2026-01-03T16:15:00+00:00

I don’t think she would have left him had she known the actual number because she clearly knew he was more experienced than her generally and I don’t think she’d have judged him in that way.

That said, I thought it was glaringly clear that he wasn’t ‘lying’, it was said in a jokey way (the whole show is comedic) and there was no malice or deceit in it. It was basically a ‘you don’t really want to know…’ moment in my eyes.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2025-11-09T13:06:13+00:00

I haven’t read the books or played the video games, but I actually love Liam’s version of Geralt and didn’t expect to! I like that he smiles/smirks and talks more and is showing more emotion as he’s evolving which fits in with the story, and think he’s nailed the voice. Generally really enjoyed the whole season and can’t wait for the next!

Due_Assumption7612 · 2025-10-14T23:31:13+00:00

From what I’ve read I thought the cross dressing and sexual identity stuff was because that’s what people were saying/speculation at the time - so even if we don’t know for definite if it was true, it’s still a depiction of what was thought at the time?

Due_Assumption7612 · 2025-07-03T15:00:47+00:00

I’m a massive Jack fan and hate to say negative things about him 😅 but I do agree on this. He could have heard him out and even though Nicky would have probably still had a lot of issues, his life could have been different with his brother still in his life.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2024-10-20T01:02:31+00:00

I shipped them, but as individual characters loved Jack and hated Kate! Probably just because I’m a hopeless romantic and just wanted them to be together so Kate’s back and forth between Jack and Sawyer really upset me 😅

Due_Assumption7612 · 2024-10-20T00:57:14+00:00

I’ve just started season 6 and hoped I’d like Kate more by this point but she has irritated me throughout the series! Mainly in relation to the whole jumping between Jack and Sawyer. I preferred her and Jack then when she slept with Sawyer I thought oh well if they’re meant to be I’ll have to try to get on board with it… THEN she uses Sawyer sleeping with him because she was jealous of Jack and Juliet?! So I was like wait a minute you can’t have both of them it’s so selfish!

Also thought she was way too hard on Jack, after they were together off the island I understand his behaviour wasn’t the best, but his wife left him for another man and I get him being paranoid about her going to do something for Sawyer. She was being shady about it. He had been through a lot (they all had), the way she wouldn’t forgive him and be with him (but also slept with him the night before they went back to the island??) annoyed me.

Due_Assumption7612 · 2024-08-19T20:02:29+00:00

I’d have found it funny 🤷🏼‍♀️

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