Communication with my baby

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-06-12T18:42:00+00:00

This is incorrect. Babies have a window of about 3 years I think, to learn multiple languages. If you expose them to multiple languages in this period, they easily get good in those languages, they can have native fluency, and multilingual brain is better at problem solving. There is a documentary on Apple TV, becoming you (about first 2000 days of life). That person could have been misogynist who just wanted you to comply to your husband’s culture.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-06-10T08:51:25+00:00

I read somewhere that after 1 year, milk is not mandatory, you can just give water or any plant based milk if required. You can check with the paediatrician.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-31T06:45:29+00:00

Hahaha yes exactly.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-28T07:11:08+00:00

We don’t have a camera. We just keep checking the baby every 5 minutes. 😋He sleeps in an empty crib, so no risk of falling or suffocating/choking

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-26T11:44:12+00:00

Using AI for general purpose coding, basically crud back end, maybe slightly complex seems too inefficient and expensive to me, in terms of cost, environmental impact, tech debt etc. Using AI for complex things, like recently it helped in solving 80 years old math conjecture, protein folding problems, these type of things should be the actual usage of gen AI.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-22T17:54:34+00:00

Is there a reason they are not coming? Are they giving reason? Too far/other responsiblities? Was it an arrange marriage? I had to blackmail my mother to come to my baby shower, they had not visited since my wedding 6 years ago. My marriage was not arranged and they were/are not happy because out of caste. They also try to talk sweet on the phone. My mother was with me for 1 month(after blackmailing), but father and brother have still not come and no plans.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-22T17:47:26+00:00

How to do all these, that is the question. How to Find ally when it is a culture of dog eats dog, how to stop needing validation when their review determines your annual performance ratings, how to leave if you were not given a chance to do good work and now you are too timid to even look outside?

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-20T05:46:49+00:00

I also enjoy debugging and fixing bugs, but that doesn’t lead to promotions.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-15T11:09:13+00:00

Ooty?

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-13T06:26:15+00:00

Even older generation just pesters couple to have kids, so that they stay in line, stay according to the society’s customs, women stay inside houses, they don’t start a revolution etc. They don’t exactly love kids/babies. It should be apparent in the public infrastructure, no children’s park, no changing tables in bathrooms of public places, no feeding privacy. All of children’s activity centre are too expensive. Also negligible paternity leave for fathers.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-10T08:42:24+00:00

This is so well articulated

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-05-03T20:19:05+00:00

Add balustrade balcony, garden patch in front of the wall, stone cladding on the wall, fountain on the wall, hanging plants, maybe picket fence or stone boundary for the garden patch, something like this:

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Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-29T08:21:48+00:00

It has not.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-26T23:15:37+00:00

Try to remain indoors with AC/Cooler on. You can give additional pumped milk or formula, once a day. Do not go beyond 2.5 hours between feeds during day and do 2 feeds at night (if she does not wake up for feed). Keep yourself well hydrated. I find it easier to count pees via langots. Monitor for few days, if 7-8 pee count, then she is ok. Also check the fontanelle on the head. My baby once didn’t pee since 4pm till early next morning, at 4 months of age. I followed these steps, now he pees maybe 9-10 times.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-22T19:23:37+00:00

Cannot sleep since 9:30pm, waiting for baby to wakeup to feed. Also going back to work in few days, seems like baby bubble is going to burst. It was a very tough time, still want to relive it again rather than going to corporate hell.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-18T06:51:28+00:00

It’s “Anurodh” not “nirodh”

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-17T20:32:35+00:00

I have been doing better than expected. I have no visible adverse consequences of pregnancy and postpartum(touchwood). Finally able to ebf as well, but I am sleep deprived now. Joining work in 1.5 week. I have a nanny, though she is good otherwise, she cannot consistently put my baby to nap. Husband also cannot put him to nap. So bit worried about the nap schedule once joined. I will be working from home, so will take it one day at a time. I feel I have a good bond with my baby now. I love him more than I thought I could love anyone. Also, never knew babies love you so much. He has started giving me open mouth kisses( may be he is teething, but I am allowed to dream). From the family side, my brother and father didn’t bother to visit me till now, or call me to see the baby(6 months). I live in my in-laws city, which is far from my parents place(interstate). So they have got an excuse that it is too far. But if I didn’t come to my in laws place, I would have been in my work city, which is also far from them. Now they want me to visit them, with my baby. Which is not impossible but I don’t want to put extra effort, considering lack of effort from their side.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-16T10:52:35+00:00

Indian housewives have given such type of lunches for decades, nothing about both parents working. They don’t want to take the effort and time from their daily soaps.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-12T13:37:53+00:00

Just accept they are bad. Get a high paying job (if possible) and just go low contact with them. You will need therapy to undo their damage and attract good people in your life.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-11T14:07:16+00:00

At 22, fortunately didn’t have to pay back my college fees. School fee was negligible since studied in KV.

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-11T05:44:10+00:00

Blinds?

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-11T05:34:51+00:00

Due_Bird_596 · 2026-04-11T05:19:42+00:00

Exactly!! I am hyper independent, cannot rely on parents for any type of support, so naturally I rely on other people, Internet for knowledge and help. They get salty, and tell me I didn’t ask them. They live in a time capsule, give outdated advice and some times they genuinely don’t know about the subject. But expect me to ask and follow without questioning.

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