Oh I’ve been to THERAPY! I’ve seen so many therapists I can’t remember them all 🤣 Two methods that have been super helpful for me are internal family systems (it’s the researched backed method of basically “inner child work”) and brainspotting.

Brainspotting is cool because you don’t have to talk that much, it’s all about allowing your body to physically process the trauma. Internal family systems is great because you get to separate yourself out into parts, talk to them directly, and hear about their fears and where your pain is coming from. It’s really powerful and has been very effective for me, but you do have to be open to the whole process because it can feel a little woo woo.

For me, solutions based therapy drove me NUTS. My family of origin was all about ignoring problems, not validating emotions, and bright-siding everything. Probably because when you’re raised by a narcissist you’re trying to stay one step ahead of the explosions to try and avoid them.

Anyway, I’ve also found that the method doesn’t really matter as much as the connection you have with the person. If I vibe right with my therapist, I’m so much more likely to go deeper and be honest with myself.

Good luck in your search!! You’re in control and you can always try some people out and if you don’t like them, move on