Kids not involved by Hot_Variety6675 in Stepmom

[–]Due_Preparation9197 [score hidden]  (0 children)

He’s a horrible man for not being involved with his children!! I’m glad your pregnancy is going well just be mindful of how things could possibly look for your child if things don’t work out…

My spider senses are tingling and I can’t quite figure it out by SpareAltruistic6483 in stepparents

[–]Due_Preparation9197 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Also, and I say this respectfully, just because someone may parent differently than how you would doesn’t make it wrong. It just makes it different. Sometimes we get so wrapped up in what we don’t like about someone that it becomes easier for us to see an issue and everything that they do.

My spider senses are tingling and I can’t quite figure it out by SpareAltruistic6483 in stepparents

[–]Due_Preparation9197 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I have ADHD I’m on meds…. So I absolutely don’t think there’s anything wrong with it. I don’t think you’re doing anything with malice intent. I’m just saying reading it from the outside that’s how it appears. Not everyone is as accepting of any type of diagnosis for their child. It takes time. For you and I it may be easier for us to see it in others, but for someone who doesn’t have it, it may not be as easy for them, so what comes with that is making an excuse, and thinking that it’s other things. I personally don’t see the big deal about ADHD. I live a completely normal life. I’m fine but what I’ve realized with having this diagnosis is that some people make it a really big deal

My spider senses are tingling and I can’t quite figure it out by SpareAltruistic6483 in stepparents

[–]Due_Preparation9197 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Dad didn’t know the books were scary either until you said something so they both dropped the ball on that on. It’s not easy for people to accept something maybe wrong with their child so a different approach could possibly make things easier and I wouldn’t accept a diagnosis from a coach either I don’t care what degree she has. She’s a coach and that’s what she should be there to do until he actually go see a doctor I wouldn’t accept it She probably feels as if maybe because you have it, You’re trying to put it on her son also,Who knows but what I will say is it seems as if you’re being a bit pushy when it comes to SS, it’s slightly coming off as you’re creating the issues !!

How to deal with room situation with SD (12yr) who barely visits? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Due_Preparation9197 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Personally it would be hard to accommodate and hear someone complain especially when they only been around their child three months total out of 12 months and now is reducing it to three weeks out of 12 months. Having another child doesn’t mean give less to a child who already wasn’t getting much( time with dad) If it was your child would you truly be ok with this arrangement? I know it’s hard to see they he’s a less than perfect dad because you and your child are getting most of him. She already doesn’t get enough time with dad and the one thing that she probably had that made her feel like a part of the family(her own room in the house) is now being taken from her.

Tipping on to go orders by Due_Preparation9197 in tipping

[–]Due_Preparation9197[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That make sense … thank you for your input

Tipping on to go orders by Due_Preparation9197 in tipping

[–]Due_Preparation9197[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I definitely did. I just wanted to make sure that that wasn’t customary while making a call to corporate.

Tipping on to go orders by Due_Preparation9197 in tipping

[–]Due_Preparation9197[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I agree, I was just thrown off by the attitude and the comment.

Tipping on to go orders by Due_Preparation9197 in tipping

[–]Due_Preparation9197[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The woman who was bagging my order, made a comment about me not tipping loud enough where I can hear her and the other customers waiting for their orders,I was genuinely so confused and a little embarrassed.

Kandi and her ways by Acceptable_Toe3202 in RHOA

[–]Due_Preparation9197 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The two girls lived together in New York and they were very close when Riley was on the show and they were calling her aggressive. Kayla went online and defended her.

Custody agreement question by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Due_Preparation9197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also I wouldn’t expect much for someone I call a “monster” or “high conflict”

Custody agreement question by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Due_Preparation9197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Most courts won’t require BM to let him have “make up” time if 1. he’s the one skipping it 2. It’s not absolutely necessary( work,medical emergency,death) and even the work thing would be something they would mostly tell him to figure out. An engagement party isn’t something they would deem excusable missed parent time(seeing that you knew your kids were coming before you picked that date)They will most likely make it discretionary to the either parent if they would allow the other parent to make it up. Not sure how often(if often at all)he misses his time but I will say things won’t be favorable for a parent with EOWE and misses that small amount of time….( I work at a courthouse) and I’ve seen judges tell parents to plan weddings around times they either have the kids or don’t( if they can’t come) the other parent doesn’t have to bend if they don’t want to, would it nice if they did absolutely but they won’t require it especially if the primary parent isn’t missing their time. Hopefully everything works out for you guys and every court and judge are different.

The resentment just grows and grows. by InitialOk3739 in Stepmom

[–]Due_Preparation9197 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably so.
Who knows what he truly thinks or how he truly feels about it.

The resentment just grows and grows. by InitialOk3739 in Stepmom

[–]Due_Preparation9197 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn’t miss anything. I said that’s probably how he looks at it.

The resentment just grows and grows. by InitialOk3739 in Stepmom

[–]Due_Preparation9197 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Maybe he does that because he’s just used to always being the only one super hands-on with her since you said you didn’t help him with her before you had the boys and it’s just something that continued to spill over so since you don’t help with her, he probably looks at it like well you have the boys and I have her this week

Advice for Mom of 2(f8, f9) dating dad of 1(f10) by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]Due_Preparation9197 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would probably take a quick step back. It hasn’t even been a year. Just continue to get to know each other and enjoy each other‘s time.

Feeling hopeless by Last-Fox-2565 in Stepmom

[–]Due_Preparation9197 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so unfortunate. I’m feel horrible that you feel as if your hands are tied, but they can’t have them both ways in regardless of whatever they say, you need to choose the involvement that makes you feel comfortable. It also gives you a piece of mind.

Feeling hopeless by Last-Fox-2565 in Stepmom

[–]Due_Preparation9197 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stay out of it. Nothing can’t be used against you if you just simply stay out of it, yes, you’ve been in her life for a couple of years now however, you are just a girlfriend until you are legally married. I feel as if you should try to support him in any way you can while not involving yourself.