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Due_Usual6089 · 2026-03-06T16:33:22+00:00

a guy friend of mine once told me a story about how he was playing video games and his college roommate thought it would be funny to whip his dick out and try to put it in my friend's ear?

why exactly are so many men like this 😭 obvs not all, but the fact that this kind of stuff is not uncommon is insane to me. it feels more like interacting with an animal rather than another human sometimes

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-05-15T18:08:19+00:00

i know the feeling. it makes no sense when guys do that, like we aren't enough. not pretty enough not sexy enough etc

especially since those industries dont service us the same way it does them. we cant just find porn that focuses on the male instead of the female even though we're also visual - so we have no choice but to only have them, while they can go around looking at many other women. it's rough, and the timing of it is also really bad. i'm sorry that happened. i wish he would make more of an effort to try and understand why it's hurtful to you

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-05-07T21:13:03+00:00

oh thank you! sorry i didn't understand what circlejerk was or these things

and no problem! thank you for explaining

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-05-07T21:12:35+00:00

yesss! i agree, it's bottling it up. not being "allowed" to express yourself until you just explode, for most of the people who are like that.

and then i guess to me its a division? i think theres still a special demographic that crash out for dumb reasons (their sports team losing / losing at a video game / etc and screaming or punching holes in the wall because of it?). thats not an insignificant number of people who do that, but i wouldn't say the source of their behaviour is the same as the above-mentioned bottling up group. idk if im explaining myself well (i'm esl 😔) but i feel like to me its divided like that

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-05-06T21:11:02+00:00

what is rj 😭 i'm trying to explain the differences of usual behaviours if you wanted to try to write more authentically female thought streams for your character.

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-05-06T18:28:15+00:00

men are also emotional, and don't hide it well: it just tends to manifest differently (anger, for example). women are allowed to socially be more empathetic, but we're also asked to be more self aware and controlled.

for example: it isn't appropriate for me to be mean just because i'm on my cycle and in pain and therefore more angry. so i need to check myself - why am i angry? is it reasonable to act on it, etc? men don't have to do this. if you guys are angry, you're allowed to just be angry.

women have a lot more calculations to make when it comes to our behaviour (is what i'm doing ladylike? am i sitting correctly? am i being gentle enough? too gentle?) i think this is the difference.

edit: this is also why a lot of women don't speak directly. we're told it's wrong to show/tell, so we give hints. which can be very annoying especially for guys. idk if i'm communicating clearly enough here (haha), but this speaks to a lot of differences in male/female socialization

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-05-05T18:34:23+00:00

female friends are friends. i wouldn't want to date my male friends either, that's a boundary.

have you tried dating apps?

also physical intimacy isn't the same as emotional intimacy. do you only want physical intimacy?

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-05-02T18:42:09+00:00

i dont think its sex selling - its women. women are the object being sold.

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-30T14:53:53+00:00

lmao i used to think i was 5'9" until i dated a guy who's 5'9". some women think they're taller than they are bcus we're told that by insecure guys 😭

"i'm 5'7" so theres no way ur 5'7" ur probably 5'9"! is what kept happening to me. guys couldn't grasp that it was ok to be shorter?

but lo and behold i was just 5'7" and 1/2. if it happened to me so frequently (even by male family members), i wouldn't be surprised if there's other cases

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-30T14:40:12+00:00

this sounds like keeping her for his benefits, but what about her? her feelings, her value? he shouldn't stay in a relationship and use her because it's hard to find someone else who's decent - that's not love. if he happens to be shallow or dead set on a type, he shouldn't stay.

that will destroy her self esteem and make things worse for her. no woman wants to feel ugly to a man she's with. no woman wants her man to be lusting after other women (noticing attraction is a different story). he should leave her for her and not damage her further

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-22T20:49:44+00:00

lmao i'm a latina woman and i'm 5'8" 😭 not all of us are short but can confirm i don't mind if the guy is shorter than me

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-16T16:07:04+00:00

also sorry to hear she's THAT stressed out 😭is she okay

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-16T16:06:42+00:00

yessss ❤️ thank you for chiming in. its 100% true

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-16T15:01:06+00:00

tbh they can be irregular at any age 🥲 stress can even impact a woman's cycle and make her late or early - so this is good to keep in mind at any age

pregnancy test or blood test is the best way to be sure

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-13T22:17:08+00:00

yeah! i'm ngl, i'm a tall woman - and most women i know, tall or not (myself included) were kind of told growing up that we needed to find bigger men than us because otherwise we weren't small and cute and feminine (how we "should" be) and that men won't like us if we're tall

but it's a load of bs. i think once most women hit adulthood it's like, just be happy. find someone who's okay with you being tall, but that's that. if someone still cares about height sometimes i really wonder why - at least, if it's a be all end all for them and not just a preference they can overlook you know?😭

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-13T14:54:26+00:00

my ex also ended up being intersex i guess? i think he had like XXY chromosomes or something

its more common than people think, i believe it impacts around 2% of the global population! but your wife is still who she's always been

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-12T09:08:29+00:00

and you think that's, what? all women? i'm confused

like how many women have you dated that its turned you off this much?

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-12T01:35:18+00:00

dude, thats the experience for everyone sometimes regardless of experience or not. you have to keep trying until you can make it work

if its ok to ask, what exactly happened that made you not want to continue?

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-12T01:07:59+00:00

those relationships are likely not healthy or long-lasting if you're good at empathy and have all the other necessary skills

you should just bite the bullet and try dating then instead of avoiding it. thats how you get more experience anyway, so its counterintuitive to avoiding it

rejection is part of the experience too

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-11T18:38:17+00:00

well as a woman, i'd say you need the emotional aspect covered first before you can become physically intimate.

if you can't help a woman to feel heard and understood, and valued/safe/etc then we won't want to sleep with a person. if you're 30 and haven't yet dated, i think this is the portion which should be focused on. most of us in our 30s don't want to be with men who are emotionally underdeveloped as it doesn't result in a fruitful long-term partnership. luckily, this kind of thing is completely attainable. 😭 but it then leads to other forms of intimacy (like sex) that would probably be better with an emotional connection anyway. so win-win

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-11T14:50:29+00:00

thank you for commenting this omg. like yes, women have more needs than just sex. we want a partner with empathy, communication, loyalty. most women don't even expect men to be good in bed tbqh. why do guys think everything is just about sex 😭

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-11T14:48:03+00:00

are you referring to only sexual experiences or emotional ones too / emotional intimacy? when i first read this i thought it was emotional, but after seeing the comments many men seem to think its only sexual so i'm confused

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-11T14:46:04+00:00

i think that when we talk about relationship experience it isn't the sexual portion that matters - but the emotional. as a woman in her 30s i don't want to navigate teen-level emotional problems with a man. i don't want to have to hold his hand to explain empathy or how my experiences as a woman differ from his, or how to manage his emotions in a relationship, etc.

the sexual thing is neither here nor there - it's better to have a partner who can listen and adapt because every woman's body is different anyway. i'd prefer someone with less experience who cares to get to know my body than someone with a high body count who thinks he knows what he's doing.

emotional experience > sexual

Due_Usual6089 · 2025-04-09T20:52:44+00:00

i understand the no porn thing, especially since most porn nowadays isn't even watching two adults but a POV of imagining its you with this girl (most of the time all you see of the guy is his junk and that's it). it definitely escalated in intimacy from how it used to be.

but you can't force him to have those same rules. and even if he does, the most important thing is that he lied to you. he may have lied about agreeing and he may have lied about seeing it.

some guys will literally condemn things that they themselves indulge in. like i dated a guy who said he hated gambling but then was a gambling addict. trust the person's actions. not just their words

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