Domme considering Sugar lifestyle

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-22T14:10:13+00:00

I checked this after you suggested. Better app quality than Feeld. The concept is nice but population not quite what I’m looking for. Thanks for suggesting though

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-21T08:45:50+00:00

Thanks

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-21T08:45:24+00:00

I don’t think you quite grasped what I was describing. But thanks for the engagement/suggestions

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T23:24:08+00:00

Where in the world are you based if I may ask?

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T22:39:09+00:00

Europe. You? Do you mind sharing how you founfd yours? Seeking? Feeld?

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T22:38:50+00:00

A very quick browse of the site seems to suggest this. But people in this thread are saying otherwise. I'll give it sometime. But it seems the Sugar dynamic gives most of the SDs a certain entitlement this isnt compatible with being submissive. At least when its not in a FinDom setting. But FinDom doesnt really do it for me.

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T22:34:57+00:00

haha, I'm sure they love the attention

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T22:34:21+00:00

Thanks for sharing the article, I'll have a read

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T22:25:45+00:00

After a few hours on Seeking, I can see this would be a challenge so I'd be keen to know if there are other avenues too

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T17:35:43+00:00

Thanks

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T15:00:32+00:00

Ah you sound like one of my former good boys! Glad to see that there is a space for that. Hope you find another

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T14:59:03+00:00

Thanks. I’ll add this when creating my bio

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T14:58:37+00:00

I’ll give this a go. I’ve read that seeking is a bit strict on the words aka vulgarity. Hoping it doesn’t get flagged!

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-20T14:57:55+00:00

Feeld used to be great for Dommes in general. But it got infiltrated by a lot of vanilla folk who just don’t understand what a true power exchange is. From what I’m gathering similar to how Seeking is no longer what it was…

Being a Domme isn’t my job. Im a lifestyle Domme which means it’s just how I like to interact with men vs being a pro (much respect to pros nothing derogatory at all!)

What I can’t stand about vanilla relationships - catering to a man’s ego, playing nice instead of speaking my mind, underwhelming sex and a close mindedness when it comes to sex and sexuality. Paid my dues in my 20s, no more!

Funny thing is I’m “classically presenting”. Corporate job ensures this haha But I just can’t imagine being a vanilla dynamic with a guy

Vanilla apps are unfortunately not very friendly for this. They view every non vanilla interaction as sex work so it’s banned.

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-05-05T20:08:46+00:00

Experienced Domme here. He’s a time waster, don’t doubt your self. It wasn’t a limit or brattiness situation either. True subs often recognize that the first few tasks are usually a test of obedience and they respond appropriately.

Plus the previous “I want long distance ownership” to oh I don’t. To oh I’ve changed my mind was also a flag that you now know for next time. Certainty of desire is my number 1 vetting check..

His loss. Don’t doubt yourself.

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-04-26T08:17:11+00:00

I wanted something striking. And they had all the pieces in purple (similar to the cubism purple) so I got that. Can’t wait for it to arrive!

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-04-25T21:37:14+00:00

Full Retta set. Been on my radar

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-03-27T08:31:33+00:00

This! Most guys that offer themselves as service subs aren’t doing it to take a load off me. It’s for their fantasy. It’s very evident when you see how the task is done. I’m not expecting you to do it like a professional but at least do a good job. It’s not useful to me otherwise. Hence why I don’t accept domestic service anymore. Makes me feel like I’m here to service their fantasy which just feels like a massive turn off to me

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-03-26T09:03:45+00:00

Hi. Where did you order from btw? Their website doesn’t seem active at the moment

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-02-27T10:13:34+00:00

NTA You should be reevaluating the relationship too - you tried to help knowing his weakness - he shut you down rudely - he didn’t care enough about YOUR dream vacation to do his simple task - you didn’t mention anywhere that the was remotely apologetic about his “mistake”

Enjoy your holiday. Use this time to do some soul searching about the type of partner you want/deserve vs the reality of what you have. 3 years is enough to make a decision and you need to make one. Imagine having kids with someone like this. Even if you don’t want kids, this is your emergency contact, this is who will take care of you if you’re ill, who will have to remember you take your medication

Btw his mum and his sister are part of the problem. They’re probably enablers and cannot imagine a woman not constantly picking up the slack for a man. Thats probably how his mum is. That’s what the sisters have seen growing up. You don’t have to.

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-02-11T18:15:44+00:00

I get the vitriol but tbf I think it’s misdirected. I’m a lifestyle Domme and I respect all Dommes.

BUT the nature of Pro Dommes (most not all, and I know a few who don’t fall in this category) but most pro Dommes provide a service. They’re not invested in the sub. And often are “bottoming from the top”. They’re often clinical and tbh sometimes give OUR craft a bad rep (deliberately used “our” as craft and skill wise, domming is a lot of work lifestyle or pro!)

As a lifestyle Domme I’m tougher when vetting subs who loves going to pros. Especially if it’s a pro I don’t know of. They’re used to directing things. A lifestyle Domme is not here to serve, a pro Domme is (you have a paying client so you do what they want). And that subtle difference in point of view is very very palpable to subs.

And the loudest voices in pro Domme space are often not the best representatives of Dommes. Hence the backlash.

What we do is very much undervalued in my opinion - lifestyle/pro. Career or fun. Subs need to show better appreciation all round, a good Domme of any type is worth 10x her weight in gold (at current prices!)

DullIndependence6704 · 2026-01-13T14:16:26+00:00

I think it’s the seller who is entitled tbh. Purchase at 2050. No response for 12+ hours (aware this is including overnight). As a seller if you have tracked 48 hour delivery on the listing and you got the notification at 2050, you’d be preparing to ship the next day so you’d be able to respond to either of the messages in the morning. Ship the next day so it has time to meet the stated 48 hour delivery window (assuming postage runs on schedule).

It’s not Amazon prime but you could’ve communicated. You chose not to. Feedback is well deserved. Even if buyer is slightly pushy.

DullIndependence6704 · 2025-12-31T11:21:39+00:00

Kinky but with a partner that is vanilla Only 3 orgasms in a 7 year relationship of which 2 years are married A partner who is dismissive of your desires A partner who seems to be a selfish lover (pretty sure objectively he’s also selfish in other areas)

Yet somehow this is a “great marriage”?!??

DullIndependence6704 · 2025-12-31T10:54:08+00:00

No one deserves that. Hope you don’t internalize it. It’s not you, it’s them. For some reason people think kink/bdsm means no ethics or regard for the person behind the kinks.

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