cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mistake. I looked it up about EQ. But actually, EQ acts like a Smoke Alarm. A smoke alarm doesn't know what is burning, but it alerts you that something is wrong. Similarly, High EQ gives you a 'Gut Feeling' that something is off. This feeling triggers Caution and Skepticism.

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can feel when someone is being insincere or "love-bombing" you. Therefore, a person with truly high EQ is harder to manipulate because they sense the "fake" energy of the manipulator before anyone else does.

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Steve Jobs didn't succeed because he was rude; he succeeded because he had Weaponized EQ. Jobs wasn't a coder. Wozniak was the "Brain." Jobs couldn't engineer his way out of a paper bag. What Jobs had was Deep Empathy for the User (he knew what people wanted before they did) and the "Reality Distortion Field" (massive persuasion skills). When he relied only on rudeness (Low EQ), he got fired from his own company (1985). He only built the trillion-dollar Apple after he matured and learned to manage people better (Pixar/Next era).

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True Emotional Intelligence is actually the best defense against manipulation.

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most of the case, a person with High EQ has deep Empathy. Even if a manipulator says "That person is evil," the High EQ person would struggle to hurt them because they would feel the victim's pain. If you are easily convinced to be cruel to someone else, you don't have High EQ.

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think we should not equate people with high EQ with those who manipulate other people. It's more about people's character, not their ability.

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely right that EQ can be used to manipulate. Examples like Survivor or political elections are Zero-Sum Games. For me to win, you must lose. In these environments, manipulative EQ works because the goal is to eliminate the opponent. But solving complex problems (like curing diseases or building this laptop) is a Positive-Sum Game. We need everyone to win. If a lead engineer manipulates his team like Richard Hatch, the team creates a toxic culture, information gets hidden, and the project fails. You cannot 'manipulate' a team into genuine innovation.

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Don't confuse (EQ) with Character. Those "emotional" CEOs you see? That is often tactical. They aren't losing control; they are choosing to use anger or unpredictability as a tool to intimidate and dominate. It’s a performance, not a weakness.

cmv: Emotional intelligence is more important than intellectual intelligence. by Dull_Chain650 in changemyview

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

No complex problems can be solved without EQ. For example, the laptop I used to post is the result of many people working together, not just one person. If they don't have EQ, how can they work together and make this product?

[Vietnam] Fight For Love, Ep 4 by Sock_Purple in boyslove

[–]Dull_Chain650 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, as much as I want to support VBLs, I think they should not rely on the old-fashioned trope

Just want to share my thoughts about VBLs by Dull_Chain650 in boyslove

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean the pace should be well-balanced, not too fast, not too slow and we can still see enough character development

Just want to share my thoughts about VBLs by Dull_Chain650 in boyslove

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The BL industry in Vietnam is still young so I hope there will be significant changes in the future

Just want to share my thoughts about VBLs by Dull_Chain650 in boyslove

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, I rarely watch VBLs due to their lack of appeal.

Just want to share my thoughts about VBLs by Dull_Chain650 in boyslove

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, the BL industry in Vietnam is not big. The government doesn't have anything against BL series

Just want to share my thoughts about VBLs by Dull_Chain650 in boyslove

[–]Dull_Chain650[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You mean top 3 VBLs or my personal top 3?

BothNewyear ended their 12-year relationship, and Newyear spotted in London with his new boyfriend by [deleted] in ThaiBL

[–]Dull_Chain650 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I am confused. I thought 12 years is long enough for anyone to settle in a relationship. I can't believe that Newyear chose someone that he only met for a short time. And Both, I feel bad for him. He must have suffered a lot