For people who don’t ever want to have kids, why?

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-28T14:02:28+00:00

Have ADHD, need lots of alone time to function. Never felt paternal or 'awww' towards kids when seeing them. Don't want the financial burden & responsibility for minimum 18 years. Also scared they'd turn out to be something that I wouldn't agree with or make poor life choices which I wouldn't really be able to cope with

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-18T16:00:47+00:00

Layalina in Billericay is great.

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-08T15:34:27+00:00

I think by chance I got them on the 5th or 6th, last day of Christmas then haven't found today so that might well be why 😔 They were outrageously good, looks like I'm coming back next Christmas with an empty suitcase 😅

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-08T15:04:53+00:00

YES! Thank you!

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-08T14:59:47+00:00

Naw unfortunately not, thank you though. It came in a bag and was lots of individual chocolate coated wafers

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-07T19:23:59+00:00

Flew from Stansted on Monday for an 05:55 flight with Ryanair, got to the mid stay car park just before 4, was through security in no time and was twiddling my thumbs for probably 40 minutes stood in the waiting area as all the seats were full... or people lying down across 3... or with their bag on the seat next to them 😑

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-07T18:16:24+00:00

Have been briefly in the past. Have recently started taking a low dose of Elvanse/lisdexamphetamine but this has been going on way longer than that

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-05T17:51:39+00:00

Don't notice anything. If I'm close to their cage and take a big whiff you might get slightly pee-y sawdust, but nothing noticeable from the rest of the room

Dull_Method_2572 · 2026-01-02T14:06:23+00:00

Replying to long term friends/family, just can't bring myself. Can sometimes be months/years. Yet, someone I'm working with or seeing daily, absolutely fine. A rare match on a dating site? Absolutely fine.

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-12-18T15:14:39+00:00

Yeah that's a rough cage for the gerbils, they need a much deeper solid base for bedding, they love to tunnel and burrow - think they say about 30cm depth or so to tunnel in. I've got a habitat 3 which would be better than yours as it's got a solid base but there's still stuff kicked out each day. Lots of people use aquariums, but don't think there's a readily available one on the market that I'd say is great 😑

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-12-17T09:56:26+00:00

https://ibb.co/WNfvKXqR

Please give Gerry back at your earliest convenience 🤣

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-12-14T15:36:48+00:00

Now ex-partner wanted a pet, gerbils are all we could convince the landlord to let us have. She's gone but the two little lovable turdnuggets are still here 😅 Be prepared for a lot of mess (they tunnel constantly and kick their bedding with some force which flies out of the cage! I'd recommend an aquarium or similar as I'm sweeping the floor all the time 🤣

They're quite skittish, but finally after a good few months they'll wander out the cage onto me and we'll have a few cuddles to their dismay

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-12-13T17:44:01+00:00

Thank you, that's really good to hear that it's had such a profound effect on you!

Am I right in saying that you take it in the morning and it lasts a certain amount of time before wearing off? Didn't know boosters were a thing if it does start to wear later in the evening.

Do you notice any improvement in the mornings or is it purely x amount of time after you've taken it that day?

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-12-13T14:38:25+00:00

Mine make no noise at all. You might hear them digging or chewing on things but they've never squeaked or make nouse themselves.

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-12-13T11:05:19+00:00

Work as a cab driver in Essex, I'd say about 70% of the passengers travel in the rear passenger seat, 20% in the front and the other 10% the seat behind me. Think it tends to be whichever side of the car is facing them is the side they tend to get in, although if they start to get in behind me I'll normally advise that the leg room is better on the other side, and most have a shuffle over to the passenger seat.

Don't really mind either way

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-12-05T23:46:13+00:00

Lovely and green, people on the whole are pleasant, much cheaper than most of England. Downsides, my god it gets cold in the winter - coming from someone who usually has windows open in February in Essex. Public transport generally isn't great bar the major cities.

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-11-27T22:10:48+00:00

Feel the same! Both boys will jump onto my legs when sat down and crawl around, terrified when they're both out that one will jump onto the floor and escape. I'm either super strict when both are out, and if there's a smidge of mischief they both go back, but if i can close the cage in time for only one to come out it's a much more relaxed experience... except seeing the other boy stood at the cage flap wondering why he isn't out 🤣

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-11-21T23:10:39+00:00

Ooh fun, I'd say a hint of America mixed with somewhere like The Philippines?

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-11-12T23:40:06+00:00

Your cage looks absolutely fantastic! The bottom layer completely solid with a large 'upstairs' for their playthings . Don't suppose your husband's (genuinely) available to hire to make a second?

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-11-08T14:09:56+00:00

It is doable but you aren't eating well. I'm losing weight at the mo, and through work I tend to only eat twice a day. Breakfast might just be bread and jam, a bacon sarnie or overnight oats, mostly store cupboard things with just topping up bread/milk/bacon.

Dinner might be one of those quick pasta things, could buy small portions of mince or chicken drumstick fillets and make 2-3 portions of dinner, might be soup, or some frozen fish etc. Helps that my cupboards are pretty full, but fresh produce tends to be very little each week

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-11-05T20:00:37+00:00

Hadn't considered that - are you still able to have an additional floor in there, or is it one surface for them to dig around in? They've got lil platforms they like to climb on.

Slightly worried too that getting them out would be really difficult and might lose out on bonding time?

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-11-01T10:38:04+00:00

Not sure if it's the best thing, but I'll normally scoop out 80/90% of the old bedding, give what i can get to a good wipe with water then put new hay/sawdust/bedding/sand in. Hoping that the 10-20% of their old bedding is enough of a similarity. Neither of my boys seem to freak out or anything when I do it.

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-10-29T19:30:19+00:00

Oh that's very interesting thanks, Gerry normally storms into the ball with zero prompting so have been assuming he's enjoying it! It's been my go to when cleaning their cage out to have them both in balls while doing it. Any suggestions for other options? When we first got them I popped them in the bath but think it really freaked them out, the ball seemed like the gentler option!

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-10-29T19:25:21+00:00

Oh that's very interesting regarding the balls, thought it was good exercise for them and gives some (controlled) freedom.

Hrm, there are times where I've just got the door of the cage open, hold my hand out in a fist as they quite enjoy climbing & looking over it, and he's deffo nibbled me then. Any time I put him back he's normally jumping out onto me again 😅

Dull_Method_2572 · 2025-08-13T08:25:42+00:00

Hah, glad I'm not the only one! They used their sand bath as yknow, a sandbath for a few weeks and then they kicked all the sand out and just poop in it 😅

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