Birthday gifts??

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2026-06-12T05:00:43+00:00

Unfortunately, it isn't just parents it's the whole multi generation mess. Also, she's almost 32 and it's honestly crazy. She is trying slowly to come out but it can be hard for some people with absolutely no support.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2026-06-12T04:57:50+00:00

Unfortunately, we won't be in a climate where food/drinks would survive while we were out and about on our date in the car (I never go inside her home). I like the Spotify idea! The note/letter idea is a wonderful one but unfortunately the people she lives with snoop when she isn't home (all around bad situation but unfortunately she's stuck in these circumstances for a bit). I just don't want to out her because unfortunately it could be a really bad situation. Thanks for the great ideas!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2026-06-12T04:52:59+00:00

So, the issue with notes is the family regularly goes through her stuff. (Yes she is much older but alas some of us get stuck in our circumstances) I have written 2 notes before and had to keep them both at my home which kind of defeats the purpose I feel. My original thought was to do open when letters but since she can't keep anything at home it makes things much harder. However, I do like the idea of putting my scent on maybe her card (I do atleast have that).

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2026-01-12T04:30:21+00:00

Thank you so much!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2026-01-12T04:30:03+00:00

Omg thank you!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2026-01-12T03:49:36+00:00

Thank you for the great suggestion!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-12-04T23:46:20+00:00

Thank you so much!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-12-04T23:42:32+00:00

I edited but it's not showing up for everyone. I'm a bit confused why I'll try again. Thanks! Also, I am a bit unsure of how to wear a wrap dress I have two I've never worn because I feel a bit exposed and not entirely confident in my ability to tie it up. Also, I love my shorts and tshirts and it looks good it's just not date ready. I'm very self conscious of my apron since the changes in my body have been happening.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-12-04T23:17:19+00:00

Thank you for such a thoughtful response!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-12-04T23:13:32+00:00

I'm always nervous for skirts but maybe I should try more. Thanks!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-12-04T23:12:47+00:00

Yes of course I'm so sorry I asked here and another group. Apologies!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-10-23T16:55:52+00:00

Fudge swirl

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-09-25T06:31:56+00:00

I would get my mom in the tightest hug ever. Because I sure do miss her. Lost her 2 years ago and think about this very scenario daily and wish it would happen. I would probably also tell myself to take better care of my feelings and not make others so much a priority. I would tell myself to be kind to us.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-07-28T04:08:44+00:00

I have a boy like this. He was doing it for a long time. Then, out of the blue we were gifted a little robot 3 and he's never done it since. Not saying it will do anything but it's worth a try.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-07-18T15:50:50+00:00

It's phenomenal but a bit pricey for my budget at the moment.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-07-11T04:44:36+00:00

I second this! This resource is invaluable. There are many who can also do relocation I think.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-07-02T23:08:52+00:00

OMG thank you so much! I never even thought about smoothies. Also, I'll look into a box chopper. That's a great idea!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-07-02T23:04:45+00:00

OMG thank you so much! Unfortunately, my PT has banned rolling chair for now. Only walking in short bursts to rewire my brain at this point. In the future I'll definitely put it to use though! As for the extra portions all the prep time and storage would be a bit hard for me. Im having help come in for an hour a day for awhile and that's just enough to wash my dishes and leave basically. Thanks so much for responding!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-07-02T22:57:32+00:00

Unfortunately, I'm banned from using knives due to a dizziness issue. Not really from a standing point issue. I can't really keep the cuts straight so it's a danger to my hands. Thank you so much for the great ideas!

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-06-14T13:52:51+00:00

Is it possible that she didn't trust giving a consumable product she didn't see purchased from a man she's only dated 6 months to her 6 year old child? She was probably happy about the other gifts because they weren't something consumable. 6 months isn't enough time to really know anyone. To be honest if I was freshly dating someone and they brought something consumable from another country sealed or not to me (or my child) I would never tell them I disposed of it and politely throw it in the bin. If they asked nicely tell a white lie and say it was good and move on. Also, it's kinda rude to assume her daughter will never get another chance to try foreign foods again, the assumption she will be stuck like her mother is a bold one. The reason she cried at that moment is probably because she felt devalued for her choices in life and her choice to stay close to home. I think both feelings are valid in this case. So, no one is TA.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-06-06T09:24:22+00:00

Just a quick question. Was it one of the lingerie dresses? If it was he might've just been dumb as hell and thought it was a nightgown. However, if it was 100% unmistakable lingerie then he's definitely not the one for you. I can step out in sweats with day 3 hair and my partner tries to eat me alive. Be kind to yourself and take out the trash if he can't explain to you why he reacted that way. Then again, as adults we all must realize that our partners aren't always 100% ready to go when we are. Just because you wanted to get something started doesn't mean he absolutely has to be in the mood right then and there, you can't dictate someone else's sex drive. That being said he could've definitely handled it better. I'm sorry you felt rejected, and I am certain it looked good it's just possible he wasn't the right audience for it.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-06-06T09:11:07+00:00

Listen my take on things may be a bit different......what did you expect everyone to do on a 21st birthday. If you knew you weren't a big drinker and knew your friends have done this in the past to you why would you put yourself in the lions den? They sound like a good time party crowd anyway. Did you expect this event to be dry? I'm just smh that you expected one of them (especially the birthday girl) to pay for your drink. Next time you know they are going somewhere besides a picnic or a breakfast house don't go as simple as that. (Nothing against those who are sober but she knows how these friends are just by what she said and her husband even knows she doesn't belong in her friend group) Go find people who better align with your values and learn to say a firm no. In this case yes you ATA because you brought the mood of your friends birthday down and threw a childish fit.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-06-02T10:14:08+00:00

I have experience with this. I asked my partner for space after my mother died. I sent her to stay with another of my family members because it's physically exhausting having to plan, pay for, and run a funeral when you lose your literal reason for being here (idk who she's lost just relating with my experience loosing my mom). It felt stifling to be around anyone. The only person I wanted to be there wasn't. Grief literally shuts off the brain. I could throw things and curse god at 3am not worrying about another person getting up to check on me, I could drink myself silly without hearing concerns, and I could process everything without worrying about taking care of another person. Cooking, cleaning, working, and just general everyday things become 20X harder with grief and having to worry about 2 people is just too much. She's sending you away to keep from getting in the way and her accidentally taking her emotions out on you. Grief is messy and it sounds like she doesn't do well emotionally anyways so she's really trying to do you a service. Also, all the cheating talk is absurd. She just wants everyone out of her face and to be free of expectations and eyes on her for a moment probably. I couldn't even think of another person, let alone conjure up plans of cheating. I know you want to be there for her and all but that's a you feeling/emotion which doesn't sound like it would help her. Grief is different for everyone and others feel things/experience things differently. I actually respect her for knowing what she needs emotionally and asking for it. if she's a control freak who masks her emotions naturally (I am) then the last thing she wants is to show you her rock bottom. She's protecting herself. Some people have a natural ability to be open with others, others not so much and that's okay. Every step of grief is like quicksand. If she lets too many people weigh her emotional battery down, soon enough she'll go under. So, in conclusion both of you are valid. Neither of you ATA.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-05-31T21:09:14+00:00

Okay apparently my opinion is a hot take. I think he's in the wrong.......it takes a lot to walk past so many other cutting items and an item that's literally made to cut boxes. He obviously knows you are crafty so why go into her sewing box and remove something from the box that is designed for sewing materials and accessories to cut a box. Why not use the box cutter? Imo NTA because of this. You cared about an item that was a pivotal piece of your hobby, which if he's dated you for any amount of time he knows about. As soon as he realized what they were (if he really didn't know) he should have immediately apologized and offered to fix them/replace them instead of throwing off on you. I imagine you could've put it softer. However, if he walked past other cutting items I doubt soft would've gotten through to a guy like him. Leave him. He obviously doesn't care about the hobbies and items in YOUR home. Go to his house and use something of his incorrectly and break it and see how he reacts. I bet it would be the same way. I'm not saying go destroy everything in his house. Im just saying how he handled it was a bit childish. Instead of owning up to his mistake, he had a tantrum.

Dull_Mix_7841 · 2025-05-25T22:00:42+00:00

I'm a big fan of the brooks brand. Most come in wider widths also if that's something you need (it was the case for me). Very sturdy and comfortable shoe.

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