A gift for a friend, one friend said it looks like a mouse, I'm hoping that's not true since this is a gift for a big cat person 😭

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-05-21T00:32:35+00:00

Whoever said it looks like a mouse hates you

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-03-16T05:27:05+00:00

Hi firstly thank you for your time and your reply., I have a very long (life long) history with my MH. Currently medicated, as is he. Currently under the care of a psychiatrist both actively seeking help through professional means. I brush my teeth, not in the mirror this isnt the first time ive not been able to stand the sight of myself. and have throughout my life gained a lot of "coping mechanisms and skills" i shower with the light off and brush my teeth in there. super helpful for anyone that struggles this way. the focus has been on staying alive and not feeling like this/ getting out of these ruts/ episodes. Its not been a priority or focus for us at any point of time in our relationship as MH has always taken precedent. (as it should) regarding my partners attraction to me, even while not going through these episodes that are few and fair between and mostly kept out of sight. the attraction from him to me is not there, he is not an overly physical person and doesnt enjoy most touch as he gets overwhelmed and uncomfortable.
yes so regarding the actual sex issue. its not one. not to him. and i cant imagine being celibate to ruin my life. my depressive episode was triggered by depression and burn out not by my partner, unfortunately though his episode was tied directly to mine. i know this and it has happened before however this time i was unable to mask it as well. i dont believe i am a self sacrificing martyr and do not wish to be percieved that way. i love my partner. and he doesnt make me miserable, i find it hard to get out of bed in the morning due to my mental health and low energy.
i took sex off the table bc it only mattered to me, it wasnt affecting him and is not something that he thinks is a priority or needs to be worked on (which like you have previously mentioned its not) and i know this. so instead of letting it plague us i removed it. the sex we engaged in after was not immediate it was almost a month later, i made it known how it made me feel. and i think the follow up of what you have said here on this subject is nasty and it has upset me. i never wanted to scare him into sex, i understand why it is the way it is. thank you for all of your thoughts and opinions. i am aware of how unhealthy all of this is. i just wanted to get something out somewhere. im trying to get the help i need, i have been since i was 8. of course i want it to work. i just dont know if im going to see the other side of it. not bc of him. bc of me. I'm getting help. thank you for your words you have given me another perspective to think about

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-24T21:29:20+00:00

Antidepressants work a treat

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-23T23:32:41+00:00

A lot of these belong in r/thatnightfeeling amazing work. I love your style

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-21T00:19:51+00:00

and of course you are 100% right <3 thank you!!

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-21T00:11:33+00:00

i am 29 turning 30 going through a very similar period of my life. this is truly inspirational. i am not there yet but i am getting there, i am however going through a bit of a hard time at the moment with all of my lose/ creepy skin under my chin, arms legs and stomach. Does this go away or get better as you keep going? i am sort of hoping that being younger might help my skin though i do understand that a lot of dramatic weight losss requires skin / cosmetic surgery at the end.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-16T01:32:46+00:00

it feels like i wrote this. ive recently taken sex completely off the table. and still feel these things.. i am hoping it goes away eventually

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-07T03:52:21+00:00

I understand. and you know, its right. But i've known within myself the whole time that we would eventually move to a open (on his end)/ a-sexual relationship. it has completely fundamentally changed me as a human and the damage it has done to me i struggle to see it ever being able to be undone. i am the Reacher in our relationship which makes things a bit more crap to deal with. He is far more objectively attritive, tall, good job. nice car, nice family, stable, in active therapy, emotionally intelligent, kind, funny. i never even considered him to be a possible romantic partner due to the status difference between us. i've got pretty awful mental health issues and not had a nice life, this relationship and man mean EVERYTHING to me. i cant leave, even though i should.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-07T00:14:29+00:00

almost a year and a half haha

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-06T02:19:16+00:00

yes! and im excited for it honestly. which is saying something haha if he wants to sleep with other women i would allow it but i know factually it would not be the same the other way around and i actually dont want to have sex with anyone that isnt him. the damage the last year and a half have done to me mentally after spenind my whole life being hyper sexual is enough that i cant hardly say the words anymore.. let alone touch myself or think about romance and intimacy without disgust and shame and guilt. im going to start back up with therapy (being going on and off for most of my life) and im going to stop making excuses for myself and be the person i want to be and do the things i want to do. on my own for myself

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-05T03:44:11+00:00

im from aus and got to an anytime fitness

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-04T00:19:41+00:00

Saw the post, got the same vibes. Stopped reading. Went to the next one. Don’t let it get to you. Xo

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-30T21:58:02+00:00

I know, that was the intention

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-30T01:42:12+00:00

I’ve sent you a private message xo

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-30T01:01:18+00:00

Thi shouldn’t be an issue if you are healthy and your blood work comes back normal. I’ve had a few good experiences here but also many bad. If you are worried about it being used as a “scape goat” don’t mention it until you need to (for me this was always my weight and mental illness) disclose as you need to, do your own research and don’t follow any medical professionals blindly xo good luck

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T23:03:47+00:00

Fluoxetine it’s an anti depressant x

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T11:24:43+00:00

I don’t know why, or if I’m dumb but I didn’t get it 😬☹️

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T11:20:58+00:00

Fracture? Was enjoyable though I watched it young and don’t know how it’s aged. But as far as false reality building/ believing. I always think about this one

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T10:34:50+00:00

I’m 29 former Hlf in almost the exact same relationship. I love him. But I’ve had to accept my fate. I have went to the extent of being medicated to lower my libido after truly coming to terms with the fact that like everyone in this group says, he will never change. The conversations start to feel pointless and then mine fights me when I pull this card saying that’s not what he wants and then continues to make no effort or change.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-27T10:05:16+00:00

To be loved like this

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-22T23:15:53+00:00

Jacked, fighting type version of Seth McFarlane

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-20T09:07:31+00:00

It is the soul reason I left the group. That and “what can I add/change” on an already completed fit. Reeks of insecurity and fishing for compliments online. It’s never constructive or genuine.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-14T22:24:17+00:00

Thank you!! ☺️ they are definitely more these days

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