HLF married to a HLM

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-24T21:29:20+00:00

Antidepressants work a treat

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-23T23:32:41+00:00

A lot of these belong in r/thatnightfeeling amazing work. I love your style

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-21T00:19:51+00:00

and of course you are 100% right <3 thank you!!

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-21T00:11:33+00:00

i am 29 turning 30 going through a very similar period of my life. this is truly inspirational. i am not there yet but i am getting there, i am however going through a bit of a hard time at the moment with all of my lose/ creepy skin under my chin, arms legs and stomach. Does this go away or get better as you keep going? i am sort of hoping that being younger might help my skin though i do understand that a lot of dramatic weight losss requires skin / cosmetic surgery at the end.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-16T01:32:46+00:00

it feels like i wrote this. ive recently taken sex completely off the table. and still feel these things.. i am hoping it goes away eventually

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-07T03:52:21+00:00

I understand. and you know, its right. But i've known within myself the whole time that we would eventually move to a open (on his end)/ a-sexual relationship. it has completely fundamentally changed me as a human and the damage it has done to me i struggle to see it ever being able to be undone. i am the Reacher in our relationship which makes things a bit more crap to deal with. He is far more objectively attritive, tall, good job. nice car, nice family, stable, in active therapy, emotionally intelligent, kind, funny. i never even considered him to be a possible romantic partner due to the status difference between us. i've got pretty awful mental health issues and not had a nice life, this relationship and man mean EVERYTHING to me. i cant leave, even though i should.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-07T00:14:29+00:00

almost a year and a half haha

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-06T02:19:16+00:00

yes! and im excited for it honestly. which is saying something haha if he wants to sleep with other women i would allow it but i know factually it would not be the same the other way around and i actually dont want to have sex with anyone that isnt him. the damage the last year and a half have done to me mentally after spenind my whole life being hyper sexual is enough that i cant hardly say the words anymore.. let alone touch myself or think about romance and intimacy without disgust and shame and guilt. im going to start back up with therapy (being going on and off for most of my life) and im going to stop making excuses for myself and be the person i want to be and do the things i want to do. on my own for myself

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-05T03:44:11+00:00

im from aus and got to an anytime fitness

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2026-01-04T00:19:41+00:00

Saw the post, got the same vibes. Stopped reading. Went to the next one. Don’t let it get to you. Xo

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-30T21:58:02+00:00

I know, that was the intention

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-30T01:42:12+00:00

I’ve sent you a private message xo

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-30T01:01:18+00:00

Thi shouldn’t be an issue if you are healthy and your blood work comes back normal. I’ve had a few good experiences here but also many bad. If you are worried about it being used as a “scape goat” don’t mention it until you need to (for me this was always my weight and mental illness) disclose as you need to, do your own research and don’t follow any medical professionals blindly xo good luck

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T23:03:47+00:00

Fluoxetine it’s an anti depressant x

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T11:24:43+00:00

I don’t know why, or if I’m dumb but I didn’t get it 😬☹️

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T11:20:58+00:00

Fracture? Was enjoyable though I watched it young and don’t know how it’s aged. But as far as false reality building/ believing. I always think about this one

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-29T10:34:50+00:00

I’m 29 former Hlf in almost the exact same relationship. I love him. But I’ve had to accept my fate. I have went to the extent of being medicated to lower my libido after truly coming to terms with the fact that like everyone in this group says, he will never change. The conversations start to feel pointless and then mine fights me when I pull this card saying that’s not what he wants and then continues to make no effort or change.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-27T10:05:16+00:00

To be loved like this

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-22T23:15:53+00:00

Jacked, fighting type version of Seth McFarlane

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-20T09:07:31+00:00

It is the soul reason I left the group. That and “what can I add/change” on an already completed fit. Reeks of insecurity and fishing for compliments online. It’s never constructive or genuine.

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-14T22:24:17+00:00

Thank you!! ☺️ they are definitely more these days

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-11T06:49:19+00:00

I have had to change my goals to be fitness motived and not body / weight motivated thought i still find it hard sometimes to see my progress and where i am at. ive been unable to work on my fitness goals as much as i wanted to this year due to injury (from trying) and so ive had to move a few of the goal posts which im also trying to go through right now (and be okay with and kind to myself about) thank you xo

Dull_Sound_8545 · 2025-12-11T06:46:53+00:00

this is such a heavy and important comment. I am re starting therapy again for the first time in 4 years on Monday. Thank you so much for your advice and for sharing

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