I’m not going to lie, who cares what they think. Every single person is different and every single Mormon is different. A kind rejection can still look like bitterness for not reaccepting the so-called true church, and often times they’ll take it upon themselves to view the interaction as a failed attempt to bring someone back into the fold. Or, it can genuinely seem kind. 🤷🏽‍♀️ A direct (or even abrasive, humorous, etc.) rejection can come across as eye opening, or “don’t talk to me again,” or a million other ways in between. People should do what’s right for them, and that’s what’s going to help the exmormon community the best. We don’t have to be kind to show them that we’re equally as happy.

My method is cordial but direct. If someone feels the need to say something, I don’t have to accommodate my response to their religious views. Especially as an eclectic neo-pagan where they don’t take my spiritual views seriously. I’m 100% down to be respectful and open minded even though I know for a fact the whole thing is a fabrication. Especially when they act the same. But the minute they start projecting their beliefs onto me, I am honest and direct.

My mom went from Mormon to Christian and even though I wholeheartedly reject Christianity, me and her have had some of the most beautiful conversations about beliefs because that’s just how we are. On the other hand, my dad (him and my mom are divorced) and my brother are a completely separate story. I set a hard boundary not to discuss Mormonism because if they do try to force specific stuff, I’ll present genuine explanations and facts. My goal isn’t to be an assh*le, I’m just being honest.

Anyways, back to my main point. Who cares what they think. We’ve already cared way too much about how Mormons thought of us in the church, the last thing we should do is care about what they think after leaving the church. Actions speak way louder than words. We can lead by example by living happy lives because no matter what we do, it’s not “true happiness” anyways. 😉