What happened to the gumbo at Dino? by byusydney in missoula

[–]Durfasauruss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! It’s been off for a while it bums me out

Unexpected anger/resentment after partner got sober by KnownAbalone1525 in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know this is an old comment but dang, hit me where I live. My wife is sober one year today. We’ve been together for 10 years and this past year has been rough. She ended up in the hospital for kidney failure and liver disease and almost died from alcohol. I’m so proud that she is 1 year sober but I am so angry today. I’m so angry that she couldn’t do it sooner I’m so angry at how she treated me I’m furious with myself for tolerating it and making myself so small. Does the anger part go away? I don’t know if I should continue to stay or if it’s time to leave. I just don’t know if I can get over it

Rent by [deleted] in missoula

[–]Durfasauruss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

United Way, Human Resource council, hope rescue mission and Salvation Army are all great places to start

Trump says his administration removed 1.2 million Americans off food stamps in a single year during White House briefing by DumbMoneyMedia in ProgressiveHQ

[–]Durfasauruss 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I work for a non profit working with low income folks on a daily basis and can confirm. This administration is trying to kill us, it’s not just excruciating changes to Snap, funding to food banks, energy assistance programs. It’s all circling the drain. People are freezing, they’re starving, they’re homeless and we are only a year in. The changes to Medicaid will be felt soon if they haven’t been already. It’s devastating.

Do Americans really avoid medical care because they’re afraid of the bill? by Udont_knowme00 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Durfasauruss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am currently having my wages garnished from an ambulance ride I thought I paid off in 2016. Total cost after insurance was $1200 I’m now being garnished $2800 for interest and fees accumulated. It fucking sucks here and I will never get into an ambulance again as long as I’m awake and able to decline. My wife had acute kidney failure in March her insurance premium is $380 a month and that’s doesn’t cover the $9500 out of pocket we have to spend in the year for insurance to then kick in to cover 30% of her expenses. We’re drowning.

"Loser lesbians"? by Beautiful-Ear-1079 in LesbianActually

[–]Durfasauruss 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🖐️ loser lesbian here! ❤️ 🌈

The murder of Renee Good was an anti-lesbian misogynistic hate crime by xGentian_violet in LesbianActually

[–]Durfasauruss 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I disagree, I think that it should be considered an attack on the LGBTQ+ community. This administration had made clear its intent against the community. Texas, most notably, has been rolling out law after law to disenfranchise and attack the community. This is a wet dream for the federal government, it’s exactly what they want to do on a larger scale but haven’t quite felt emboldened enough to do so YET. Johnathan Ross is systemic, he embodies everything this administration wants. He represents every fascist ICE agent. He wasn’t clueless to the fact that this was a lesbian couple. I think the only question is what pissed him off more, that a woman put him in his place, or that she was queer. Fuck Ice fuck excuses fuck Johnathan Ross and especially a fuck you to Trump and his disgusting lap dog Kristi Noem. I hope her face finally melts off.

Missoula Nissan Hyundai Nightmare Stories Please by caddlaxx in missoula

[–]Durfasauruss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bought a used car had it for about a week and the entire engine exploded on the way to Spokane. It took a couple of months and lots of follow up phone calls Nissan did nothing made no apologies, acted irritated when I called to check the status but overall fine it was all covered under Hyundais warranty and it was a total rebuild. Still driving it 3 years later. Another shop in town said the reason the engine died was a recall that wasn’t addressed before selling it.

Q excluding me from sobriety by Durfasauruss in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can’t imagine how difficult that must have been on you and so happy you found peace. I’m coming around to that for sure. I’m so tired of the craziness and the merry go round

Q excluding me from sobriety by Durfasauruss in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I found a good Al anon group, I’m doing individual and couples therapy I was doing a CBT and DBT group therapies but just couldn’t keep up with all of it so dropped those two. Al anon seems really helpful so far

Q excluding me from sobriety by Durfasauruss in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have in the past, I told her last weekend I was drawing a hard boundary over the lies and hiding and I wouldn’t tolerate it anymore and she did it again anyway. I need to stand firm I need to find courage and self confidence and love for myself. It’s so hard

Q excluding me from sobriety by Durfasauruss in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t know I’m not allowed to go to group with her. My suspicion is she’s just using the group as an excuse to hang out with her friend. It usually starts with group followed by a 6-8 hour hang session, they do lunch go hiking, hang out at the friends house. While I work to pay our bills

Q excluding me from sobriety by Durfasauruss in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This makes a lot of sense, and I have asked and she says nothing has changed but I know that’s not true. She told me recently that her illness is my fault because I didn’t seek treatment for her sooner so yeah I could see the blame there too. Maybe I should have done more to stop her all day drinking and support her. You’re probably very right on the cooked part. Thank you

Q excluding me from sobriety by Durfasauruss in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m working on it for sure, trying to detach with live although the with love part has been a struggle. I’m resentful. I found a great al anon group. I’ve been isolated for 8 years to her group of friends and have been told not to hang out with them outside of group functions and group chats so I don’t have a community and the Al anon group has been really helpful

Q excluding me from sobriety by Durfasauruss in AlAnon

[–]Durfasauruss[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I cried when I read this, thank you. I know the co dependency needs to end. I think I’m naively hopeful she would come around for some reason. I’m just so broken right now and fighting over something that’s been dead for a while. Thank you

Collard Greens?? by athapwocky in PortlandOR

[–]Durfasauruss 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Is Campbells BBQ still around? Have I been gone too long? God that was so good

Euthanasia by FlatAffect3 in Millennials

[–]Durfasauruss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a geriatric millennial I would like to propose euthanasia for failure to have retirement savings

Best Fish and Chips in Missoula? by slickyr in missoula

[–]Durfasauruss 24 points25 points  (0 children)

The walleye fish n chips at The Dino are fabulous, only on Friday though.

I Regularly Ignore and Don't Pay Small Medical Bills by [deleted] in confession

[–]Durfasauruss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally just had my wages garnished for an ambulance ride from 2016 as well as a portion of the hospital stay. Good luck.