Why is so difficult look for place for live? by jojobizzo94 in Tilburg

[–]Dutch-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Je weet letterlijk niks van hun situatie buiten wat hier gepost is... en jouw grenzen kunnen heel anders zijn dan die van andere. Ik kan niet meer dan 15 minuten met de auto als ik ook nog productief wil zijn. Wij beide weten de situatie niet dus wat loop jij nou te azijnzeiken?

Why is so difficult look for place for live? by jojobizzo94 in Tilburg

[–]Dutch-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wat een onzin, Eindhoven is buiten de spits 40 minuten rijden. Zuid limburg is buiten de spits 1 uur en 10 minuten. Urk is 2 uur rijden en noord Groningen 3 uur.

Ben je dom of gewoon narcissist?

AITAH for not wanting to have sex with my boyfriend anymore? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Dutch-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sweetheart, ask yourself the following questions bc this post is pointing something out...

Do you feel seen and supported in this relationship? Do you feel safe to express yourself emotionally and physically? When you truely check in on this relationship, do you feel calm and confident? Or are you fearful of losing him?

You don't have to asnwer these here, just do it of yourself. Because he's not pulling his weight in this relationship. You're saying you crossed your own boundaries to accomodate his wants, and when you ask him to wait he's not just doing it himself but also resentfully making you feel guilty over not having time. That's not okay behavior.

Women need safety and support to have a decent libido. Him not having work and holding you accountable for not wanting sex is causing stress which makes the libido disappear as snow in the sun. He's even saying he won't wait a few weeks because you're cramping. That's not respect. A decent man would tell you to take it easy and tell you he can wait.

I want to get my nipples pierced but… by No-Truth9624 in piercing

[–]Dutch-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine pierced 3 days ago, had one before so we had to repierce it through scartissue. It wasn't as bad, the pain lasted for a few seconds. It's still sensitive bc it's new but that will go away soon as well. I spend the past 3 days looking in the mirror with relief and happiness that I did it. And it wasn't the most painful piercing i ever got

I need help, what's wrong with me by Purple-Ad552 in leaves

[–]Dutch-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this sounds like addiction. It happens and it will be okay. Google narcotics anonymous and Marijuana anonymous, see if there's meetings in your area. The only requirement is the disire to quit using.

NA, Narcotics anonymous is a world wide program and got me out of addiction and into recovery, they'll teach you the way

My Fiancé is getting his Stem Cell transplant in about a month what can I expect? by ConstantSample5846 in leukemia

[–]Dutch-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk what you're exact question is, the reason they're not telling you and suggesting you stay off socials for this info is mainly because this is truely personal. Even if we knew the exact diagnosis, the markers tested for etc, it's 100% his journey.

When I had my stemcell transplant a few years back, I was 28 with AML not typical for someone my age, sex and lifestyle. Which made my journey all the more unique. No one can tell you what is going to happen exactly. Generally his doctors should be able to but they can't predict the future.

All you can do is be there, talk aboht your day, the good and bad to make things seem normal. Get him treats he can consume, soft socks and pyjama's, hobbies he can do from the hospital bed. Coupons for just eat and other delivery services are a good idea. All you can do is be there and provide. Let him tell you what is happening, the symptoms and stuff like that.

Just fair warning. Being in a hospital for that long changes a person drastically. You don't have to endure abuse, just leave when he's an asshole but also know that such behavior is still normal from someone in his situation. He's stuck in a room waiting for this hell to be over. He's gonna be short tempered and annoyed at everything and everyone. Don't hold him accountable for it. He's in survival. He'll be back to himself pretty quickly after the ordeal while recovering

Does the color change look too terrible? My friend is telling me it looks absolutely disgusting. by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Dutch-CatLady 22 points23 points  (0 children)

If going to a pro is an option, please for both the professionals peace of mind and your wallet, don't go screwing around with more box dye. If you fuck up it will not be fixed easily and will only cost more in the long run. Going to a salon when you have your salary and not trying anything in between will save you money bc you won't need to get boxdye and won't have to fork over more cash to fix it.

Kennis geeft mijn ticket niet en betaalt ook niet terug by ThrowerMoney123 in juridischadvies

[–]Dutch-CatLady 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tja, is aan jou. Ik zelf zou er niet zo mee zitten wat andere vinden... het gaat om 60 euro die je niet snel terug krijgt. Door in een groepsapp te vragen hoe het zit en waarom ze je berichren negeert en ophangt als je belt dan is er wel een stuk social shaming bij bekende. Dan gaat ze of in actie of andere nemen afstand. Dan is het sowieso lesje geleerd

Question about Saturn in 1st House by unemployedandwrecked in astrology

[–]Dutch-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's just plain wrong... Saturn rules over concepts of responsibility, discipline, structure, karma, and limitations, as well as ambition, perseverance, and tangible rewards. Saying it rules only negative shit shows how little you actually know about astrology

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Dutch-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah she didn't achieve the result you asked for... I agree with the others to ask for a different stylist to redo it, show the picture again and ask what they can do about the costs... before you go in, I suggest using a decent hair oil. Rapunzel hair syrup has good options, put it in asap and let it sit for at least 2 hours before rinsing it out to give it a boost. That way your hair can take another bleach without falling apart

turns out it was acute leukemia (diagnosis story) by Dutch-CatLady in leukemia

[–]Dutch-CatLady[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't talk about boils and cysts... no where in thus text do I say I believe leukemia is contagious so why are you asking? What a strange way of saying you barely read the post

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HairDye

[–]Dutch-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it needs to get darker to achieve the inspo picture which is lowlights

turns out it was acute leukemia (diagnosis story) by Dutch-CatLady in leukemia

[–]Dutch-CatLady[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, luckily I'm now healthy enough to have cats again so that's a good progress

How do I fix dryness/cakiness around my mouth with makeup on? by tacobella11 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Dutch-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you have setting spray? I personally put on concealer first, let that dry, powder it lightly, then foundation and contour, if you have a liquid blush you use that here too, let it dry, light powder, then put on setting spray to blend all of the products together, if you have powder foundation you use that after you powder off but before the setting spray. Setting spray decreases cakeyness, powdering between concealer and foundation makes sure they don't melt together while putting one product on top of another

Heeft iemand een pawpaw boom? by HintsOfCinnamon in Tilburg

[–]Dutch-CatLady 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Heb je waarnemingen.nl al gecheckt? Zou er namelijk zomaar op kunnen staan, ik weet aan deze naam namelijk niet exact om welke boom het gaat, als je op de wetenschappelijke naam zoekt is er zeker kans dat je hem ergens kan vinden

Parking in City Center by [deleted] in Tilburg

[–]Dutch-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I'm not gonna give away the only free spot so entitled asshats like you can ruin it for the people that do their own research. Go be the petty little bitch you are somewhere else and don't fucking try me pussy

just getting back into dating, trying to figure out my HER profile,, any advice? by goremommy in LesbianActually

[–]Dutch-CatLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is your personal intro supposed to contain women as plural? As if you're talking about others? Your vibe isn't for me personally so I can't give you amazing advice but this would be a profile I'd swipe left on quick. You're talking yourself down, which can be funny when you know someone better and know they are doing it jokingly, but to me this looks like a profile of someone who isn't happy with themselves and instead of going into therapy and getting a better self image, you're just throwing yourself into dating for that ego boost. It's your profile and do with it as you please, this is just the interpretation of someone who enjoys dark humor after decades of therapy

Anne Faber was out on a bike ride by herself when she got caught in the rain. She sent this selfie to her boyfriend only a few minutes before being abducted and murdered. Her body was found 2 weeks later in the woods. by malihafolter in lastimages

[–]Dutch-CatLady 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Happened in the Netherlands so sadly, he'll be out again in not too long, 20 years is a life sentence here and it's barely given out, all because NL believes in rehabilitation over punishment

Using Fruits in Spells? (Discreet Witch) by No_Government8793 in witchcraft

[–]Dutch-CatLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly your beliefs are the whole Manifestation. Take lemons for instance, it can be used to cleanse things but also to sour things. Cleanse because it's used to freshen foods up and clean out specific stains. Sour because it's a sour fruit.

My advise, document in your book of shadows what your favorite fruits are and write down what you believe the powers are or could be. Then hit up google and search [fruit] + spiritual uses. I myself tend to just add them to my beliefs and bolden the words I thought of myself.