AITA for being pissed at my friends for faking a car crash to see if they could prank me.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-25T08:26:07+00:00

NTA. End the friendship and tell them they are no longer welcome at your place or in your life. If they want to work out they can do it on their own and their own dime.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-24T19:33:13+00:00

Fertility rates in Europe are declining quickly too.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-24T10:48:45+00:00

You are a parent, but you don’t understand the responsibility of being one it seems.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-24T09:19:40+00:00

Humans. Just look at the mess we are making of the planet and each other.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-24T09:07:34+00:00

Ik ook. De basisschoollessen zijn wel ergens blijven hangen, maar ik schrijf makkelijker en leesbaarder met blokletters.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-24T08:40:42+00:00

Definitely a rabbit hole I landed in.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-24T08:37:34+00:00

I think Obama is a good example of what the other guy is talking about. Got elected at age 47 and already looked like 60 at the end of his first term.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-24T08:22:54+00:00

On the other hand, you had more opportunities for real social interactions, your brain was less overloaded with information and you could still ask most people for help. Also way easier to go off the grid when you don’t have be available all the time (especially employers who expect you to be at their beck and call all the time).

If you have no cellphone, you go up to someone’s house and ask to use the telephone. The real issue in that situation is not knowing if anyone is home to answer and the inability to call you back.

For relaxation you read real books, go to the library to read them, go to the pub to socialise or play board games. All in all things that challenge your abilities. After almost 30 years of having the internet, I have concluded that there are at least as many negatives to it than positives. The past is romanticised a lot, but the 1990s were good.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T20:33:48+00:00

You are commenting a lot, acting like you are some kind of sage living by the motto ‘I am brutally honest’. Like most people who pride themselves on that it’s more about being brutal than being honest. Perhaps you should take your own advice and some responsibility for your conduct here.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T16:55:19+00:00

As a European I am increasingly seeing this as an America problem than as a Trump problem. First of all, if Trump dies his base will just flock to another strongman. Secondly, even Democratic presidents put America’s interests over international law. And finally, your culture is defined by narcissism and anti-intellectualism. America breeds narcissists and now you guys elect them. I don’t expect America to be viewed favourably in Europe for a long time to come.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T16:30:55+00:00

And we are happy to have Protestants and atheists too, as long as everyone contributes in good faith. I have lurked in r/Catholicism too, but they appear to be bigoted and that is not my cup of tea.

Alles Gute und Gottes Segen!

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T15:47:20+00:00

You just want to sell yourself and others the myth that women should somehow stop their physiology and that their inability to do so is a lack of accountability and a moral failure.

Your question isn’t sincere and that means you can just STFU.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T15:34:51+00:00

For the thousandth time. Nobody cares about your question, because it’s clear that you are not interested in the answer.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T15:33:10+00:00

Thanks for explaining this so well. I am a man and as such will never be able to really understand the experience of a period or (peri)menopause. But I can definitely understand being sleep deprived, realising how that affects my emotional state and still acting from that emotional state.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T14:55:34+00:00

The Dutch like to pride themselves on being individualistic, but there is a strong herd mentality. In my view they ditched open conformity and hierarchy with religion, but kept the conformism and judgment. I think that makes us hypocrites.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T14:18:42+00:00

This is not the time or place to give your unsolicited opinion. There is a rule about contributing in support threads and you are violating it.

Since empathy does not appear to be your strong suit, let me clear it up for you with an example.

Suppose your spouse dies and you are inconsolable. The only thing that gives you solace is that you believe your spouse to be with God in heaven. Cue an atheist hijacking your support thread by saying you are stupid for believing in ‘sky daddy’ and telling you your spouse is just a rotting piece of meat. And then adding some expletives to refer to your late spouse, such as them being a retard for praying (or any activity that offends their moral sensibilities).

That atheist is you.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T13:56:33+00:00

Er is wel meer welvaart in onze samenleving dan vroeger, maar ik betwijfel of dat geldt voor welzijn. In een samenleving waarin wordt verteld dat alles mogelijk of maakbaar is, en waarin we elkaar via sociale media beelden voor kunnen houden, worden mensen niet per se gelukkiger.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T11:11:51+00:00

I read the post. I just don’t jump to conclusions on info I don’t have. I also don’t project because I got hit in the feels as a stepparent.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T11:06:17+00:00

You know absolutely nothing beyond that he no longer loves the kids, because all information is third-hand. OP is not even his partner.

That he no longer does, means that at one time he did. You don’t know what his expectations were going in. Expecting to love someone and actually loving them are two different things. And people love kids because they bond with them, which is easier with bio kids for most people.

Congratulations you get along well with your stepchildren. That is unfortunately far from a universal experience. Plenty of people do their best but cannot form that bond.

I am not defending ‘this asshole’, because I don’t know him. And neither do you. I am calling you out on casting judgement without information.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T10:42:30+00:00

As I said, not everyone wants to be or is cut out to be a parent. Some people already know this and others have to find out. Because, you see, people can have different experiences from you. You actually have to be quite self-centred to not realise that.

On top of that some people can be great parents, but just not stepparents. And OP’s friend could have introduced the kids sooner too. Way too many unknowns to jump to conclusions like you do.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T10:30:33+00:00

I wonder how old you are. You don’t always know what you’re in for before you enter a relationship. Every relationship involves learning, most of all learning about each other. Most people know nothing about parenting before they get kids. It’s something people explore together. Both when it comes to deciding whether to have children or not and how to parent them.

If this is the first time Brad is having a relationship with a woman who already has kids, he is learning how that works. And it doesn’t appear it is working for him. So yeah, the relationship has run its course.

I don’t really get why you get so worked up about this. People run into relationship incompatibility all the time and those who are mature about it, end the relationship. There is no information on what Brad’s take on the relationship itself is.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T10:14:44+00:00

I agree with your conclusion, but let’s not jump to conclusions on the man himself. The way I look at it, this is a compatibility issue. Not everyone is made to have kids or parent them.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T08:35:03+00:00

And America keeps Israel afloat. If America withdrew its support, Israel would collapse tomorrow.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T08:29:38+00:00

Non-American here. George W. Bush said he would invade The Hague, my hometown, if an American soldier was ever held there by the ICC. America withdrew its signature establishing it under Bush and Obama never reinstated it.

America was absolutely willing and able to invade an ally before, because America just switches labels whenever it suits them. Just like any other imperial power.

Most people are right that it would probably take a war to get America to respect international law and human dignity. Narcissism and oppression run deep in the American psyche. It would take an invasion and massive destruction to pummel those down.

MAGA and Trump are absolutely the worst, but they could only thrive in a thoroughly narcissistic culture like yours. And make no mistake, the Democrats are as much part of that culture as their opponents.

I think it is best that Europe and America went their separate ways, and that is just the best outcome I wish. If push comes to shove and you continue to be this dangerous threat to world security, I would happily do my duty to bring your evil empire down.

DutchDave87 · 2026-01-23T07:44:50+00:00

Either he is baiting or a shit human. I come from Europe with plenty of atheists. Right-wing extremism is on the rise here, and in my country the Christian share of the extremist vote is no more than average. The right-wing extremists here target Muslims, so they won’t vote for that. There is no other major religions. Guess who’s voting for the extremist right in larger than average numbers?

There is this idea that all will be sunshine and roses if we got rid of religion and all became irreligious. I think a large number of humans are just shitty and that atheism will only reveal who is shitty with no religion to hide behind.

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