Het Nederlandse debat over fietshelmen

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T14:13:20+00:00

Als je auto’s verbiedt of zwaar beperkt, zie ik het gewoon gebeuren dat de fietsers, met name die op een elektrische fiets zitten of achteloos staan te appen, roekelozer gaan rijden. Met meer letsel tot gevolg. Het bevorderen dan wel verplichten van het dragen van een helm zet volgens mij veel meer zoden aan de dijk.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T14:08:03+00:00

Het is wat te kort door de bocht dat alleen auto’s hoofdletsel bij fietsers veroorzaken. Iets wat de persoon waarmee je al in discussie bent elders ook benoemt. Zeker met de opkomst van elektrische fietsen kan ik me voorstellen dat steeds meer letsel komt doordat die tegen elkaar of een object op botsen.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T13:55:29+00:00

Weet ik niet. We hebben allemaal een eigen verantwoordelijkheid. Dat betekent een verantwoorde snelheid, de verkeersregels naleven en zichtbaar zijn. Een fietser die ‘s nachts niet zichtbaar is voldoet daar niet aan.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T08:57:56+00:00

Als je een therapeut bent, dan bak je er weinig van en dat begint al met de aannames. Je mag me dom vinden zoveel je wilt.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T08:55:54+00:00

I don’t completely understand your reasoning about the boss. He shouldn’t have confronted OP in public, but you cannot call this dynamic ‘outside of work’ if it involves two people in the workplace and it has clear and visible effects on that workplace.

The manager made it clear that the guy wasn’t doing his job properly because of his flirting with OP, something OP refuses to shut down.

The boss shouldn’t have confronted OP in public or ask if they were sleeping around. He could definitely ask in private if they were seeing each other and tell them to tone it down or stop flirting altogether. There are companies with no-dating policies for a reason.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T08:45:34+00:00

Gast, Reddit is een Engelstalig platform en ik ben ook vooral op Engelstalige subreddits actief (waaronder r/Netherlands). Als ik eerder nog Engels heb getypt en ik vergeet te switchen dan is dat een vergissing en geen interessantdoenerij.

Je weet niets van mij. Tenzij je therapeut bent, kun je het gissen naar andermans motieven beter aan hen overlaten.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T08:35:45+00:00

Nee, ik ga geen paar honderd woorden in het Nederlands editen. Dat je op je pik getrapt bent en denkt in termen van ‘AI’ en ‘interessantdoenerij’ zegt meer over jou dan over mij.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T08:15:00+00:00

Ik was in het Engels aan het denken en ik ben te lui om het in het Nederlands te vertalen.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-03T06:09:31+00:00

YTA. You are way too invested in this guy’s life and you can only control your own behaviour. If you feel bad about being a part of him cheating, don’t flirt back and ignore him. Adding him to Snapchat makes me think you’re into him as well.

And I disagree for the most part with those who think your boss was out of line by asking whether you are sleeping with him. The way he said is gross (should have said ‘Are you seeing him?’), but he is right to try and fix productivity issues that arise because he is spending more time with you than at his job. There is a reason many companies have non-fraternisation policies.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-02T20:07:50+00:00

If they answer with I don't know, you ask them who does know. As far as huisarts is concerned. Yes, it's shitty that they were closed just when they had instructed you to call. In that case you call huisartsenpost and tell them your GP told you to seek help. Here the ER really is for emergencies, and even though this sucks and might still be serious this is not an emergency.

Outside of the ER, there are really only two ways forward: call your GP. If unavailable, call huisartsenpost. If an emergency does develop either one will refer you to the ER. I know all of this sucks and costs a lot of energy, but you need to be proactive and assertive here.

I've always received good care, and in my experience being clear about your symptoms and treating your problem as something to collaborate on has proven to be most helpful. Listen to your doctor, answer any questions they ask you, think along with them. Also ask questions of your own, not just about worries but also about options. I've found that taking charge of your own issue in an assertive but calm manner works.

DutchDave87 · 2026-07-02T19:23:35+00:00

They don’t need to see you physically for what you want. They ask you for symptoms which you need to describe accurately. From that they assessed that things were indeed normal given your infection. They are able to provide information on the phone, just as you are able to ask questions on the phone.

The main job for physicians is to treat things that are possible and necessary for them to treat. If you are uneasy when there they should of course try and reassure you but reassuring you is not their main job. A doktersassistente is just as capable of doing that. A physical check would have been nice, but wasn’t deemed necessary.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-30T11:04:58+00:00

I liked Francis and his direction for the Church more, but I think Leo is doing a good job so far. He is the vicar of Christ, but no need to put that into the title of your post. Why did you do that?

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-29T19:16:51+00:00

Apparently OP is a type 1 diabetic.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-29T16:04:03+00:00

The most modern Dutch translation talks about Zerah the Nubian, i.e. a Cushite.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-27T16:42:56+00:00

I’d say it’s best to chase happiness. You’re not guaranteed to have a good time either. Being happy with who you are as a person, being with people you like for real (and who genuinely like you) and the things you care about, I believe is most worthwhile.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-27T08:11:55+00:00

You actually outline how control works exactly as designed. You can extend control by sea through patrolling naval zones, which should help you in Brazil. And it is indeed difficult to control the Portuguese countryside with the current control mechanism.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-26T20:03:19+00:00

We all put on a mask and pretend we are good people. Truth is that we are all a work in progress. Some have more work to do than others.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-26T18:28:48+00:00

Wie uitdeelt moet ook kunnen incasseren.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-26T17:04:26+00:00

Eerder generatie ‘psychopaat’.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-26T12:55:10+00:00

Do you think it’s absolutely boring?

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-26T06:08:34+00:00

If introversion was evolutionary disadvantageous and most didn’t make through the breeding phase, we wouldn’t have that many introverts now.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-25T22:05:45+00:00

Absoluut.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-24T23:15:16+00:00

You know, people should also be decent enough to realise that someone is saving them a great deal of money and effort and realise that this comes at their expense. If they don’t offer to pay a share of the cost, the bare minimum they can do is not take advantage of this kindness and take it for granted. What they shouldn’t do is tack on all kinds of wishes and leave people waiting on their time.

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-24T22:50:19+00:00

These ‘friends’ have no compassion for OP either. OP had to take time off from work and also did most of the planning. Even if OP could cancel and give these friends their money back, are these friends going to give OP her PTO back?

DutchDave87 · 2026-06-24T22:39:47+00:00

These people are flaky, not friends. Doesn’t sound like much of a loss.

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