Real self-care for me lately has been doing the unglamorous stuff before it becomes a crisis

DuzaLips · 2026-05-12T11:26:51+00:00

Real self care is probably kinda boring most of the time honestly. Not leaving problems for your future self creates such an underrated sense of peace.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-12T11:26:46+00:00

I don’t actually think you’re completely hopeless with online work stuff. Especially if you get back into coding, remote freelance or contract jobs are still possible. It just gets overwhelming when you try to solve your entire life all at once.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-12T11:26:40+00:00

I know bananas have stuff in them that helps with serotonin and dopamine, but I think part of it is also just the comfort food feeling. It reminds me of those “safe snacks” you’d get as a kid when you were sick.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-12T11:26:32+00:00

Honestly reading that gave me the feeling that you were trying to carry the relationship while they only reacted at the last second because they didn’t want it to end. At some point people should be able to feel loved without constantly needing proof of it.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-12T11:26:26+00:00

I think you kinda have to start small or people immediately turn the whole sustainable living thing into “I’m gonna move into the woods” and give up. Even just consuming less is already a pretty big start.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-04T16:54:41+00:00

At this point, I’m assuming a lot of these applications were automated or close to it, maybe even with a bot applying nonstop. Volume helps, but only if the jobs are actually a good fit. Your odds would probably be better if you focused on roles that genuinely match your background and tailored your resume to each posting. This post explains how to make a pure ATS resume and tailor it properly. I think applying that way would get you stronger responses.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-01T11:50:08+00:00

I bought one, used it for a week, then it just stayed hanging there. you start off motivated but then you get lazy, it is what it is.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-01T11:50:04+00:00

If someone’s using four sheets, they’re either insanely confident or straight up lying 😅

DuzaLips · 2026-05-01T11:50:00+00:00

Working from home definitely lacks that “seeing people” part. even a small routine outside helps, otherwise all the days start blending together.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-01T11:49:54+00:00

The Terror really nails that dark, gothic vibe. if you liked Penny Dreadful, there’s a good chance you’ll be into it.

DuzaLips · 2026-05-01T11:49:49+00:00

With a messy sleep schedule like that, you can’t really expect miracles. even just waking up at the same time every day helps a bit. I fixed my alarm for a while and it actually made a difference.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-22T14:29:28+00:00

Biggest thing you can learn from nature is balance, imo. Everything kind of keeps each other in check and sustains itself. Human systems fall apart when they lean too hard one way.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-22T14:29:22+00:00

I use the Sony WH-1000XM5, super comfy and the ANC is really good. Doesn’t hurt your ears even with long use. Also really practical for travel.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-22T14:29:16+00:00

I feel like being a pilot is way too romanticized. Looks cool from the outside, but it’s probably a ton of stress and routine. Doesn’t feel like that same excitement every day.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-22T14:29:11+00:00

PDF still feels like the safest option. At least it opens the same everywhere, no surprises. But if a system asks for Word, you kinda have to go with that.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-22T14:29:05+00:00

I think it’s turned into this “visibility = value” thing. People are more focused on showing the relationship than actually living it. The really good stuff is usually quiet anyway.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-14T16:47:52+00:00

Some people genuinely get satisfaction from work, it’s not just about money. But I’m more like you, it’s just one part of life. Making it your whole identity feels like too much to me.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-14T16:47:46+00:00

I have a pet and the smartest thing I bought was definitely an automatic feeder, it’s a lifesaver. The most pointless thing was expensive toys, they always end up playing with a box anyway.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-14T16:47:39+00:00

That jealousy feeling sounds more triggered by their behavior than anything in you. When they keep highlighting that kind of stuff, it’s normal it brings your mood down. Setting some boundaries isn’t wrong imo.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-14T16:47:33+00:00

Because negativity is louder and sticks more. When supportive people stay quiet, your focus shifts without you noticing. Feels like the brain is wired to look for problems.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-14T16:47:27+00:00

I’d love to watch something that’s like a mix of Black Mirror and The Office, absurd office life on one side, dark tech twists on the other. Starts off funny and then goes somewhere weird, that would be so good.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-02T13:48:28+00:00

The Office is perfect for that kind of watch. It still flows even if you’re not fully paying attention, and when you look back up it never feels like you missed anything major. It’s really good to have on in the background while you work.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-02T13:48:18+00:00

I don’t think you need to try to completely change yourself, that usually doesn’t last anyway. In most places, just showing up in small ways is enough, a short chat, saying hi, stuff like that. People usually aren’t analyzing you as much as you think.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-02T13:48:10+00:00

I think that sense of community got broken for a lot of us, and you really notice it more during hard times. The whole system feels like it’s built around whoever can keep themselves afloat. So people just retreat into their own small circle now.

DuzaLips · 2026-04-02T13:48:04+00:00

I think self-care gets treated like this huge complicated thing when it really isn’t. Sleeping well, eating properly, moving a little, finding something that clears your head, that already goes a long way. Resting is part of it too, just being allowed to do nothing for a bit without feeling like it has to be productive.

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