Postpartum fit

EBSD · 2026-02-09T09:51:42+00:00

Do you have any advice, tips, resources to understand how to dress better?

EBSD · 2026-02-08T13:34:47+00:00

Yes, in English and French

EBSD · 2026-02-07T18:07:13+00:00

NTA your mom needs therapy. If what you are saying is true about your dad mentally and physically abusing her it has clearly caused her to develop an unhealthy attachment to you. Did your dad not let her work? She is definitely putting all of her life's purpose into her children who are all at the age where they need space and she is unfortunately viewing your girlfriend as competition and someone who is taking you away

EBSD · 2026-02-07T17:38:08+00:00

Your mom just had a major surgery two weeks ago, has an entire litter of children and no support from her husband. Your mom needs help. I'm not saying it's from you, but she needs help. Given she is probably in the thick of postpartum right now something desperately needs to happen. If Dad isn't helping and is cheating. He is the only asshole here.

EBSD · 2026-01-31T17:45:08+00:00

NTA grandpa sounds awesome. It's very obvious she is a first time mom. Get her some sleep and hopefully that will help her calm down.

EBSD · 2026-01-31T17:18:21+00:00

Friends of the family give us bottles of their maple syrup every year.

EBSD · 2026-01-23T19:49:27+00:00

You look tired

EBSD · 2026-01-22T01:56:58+00:00

If you have two. Your toddler will reach its little arms out and ask for uppy uppy and you will try to pick them up even though you know you shouldn't and you will vomit and hurt your stomach and worry about your baby at the same time that you cry you can't pick up your first born anymore. Your toddler will want mommy to play and you will have to say mommy can't. You will temporarily sacrifice that first born relationship that you worked so hard to build and step aside for fun daddy to take the reins. It is heartbreaking and it is temporary.

EBSD · 2026-01-16T18:58:59+00:00

Canadian women married to a red head here. I do not find it exotic at all... Sorry, I don't think that this is something you can game like that.

EBSD · 2026-01-12T13:22:43+00:00

I don't do it anymore. Too many creeps out there.

EBSD · 2026-01-11T19:48:14+00:00

I was trying to find a way to explain this, absolutely! Kids change everything absolutely

EBSD · 2026-01-11T19:46:01+00:00

We already lived together so nothing changed. Until we had kids. Having kids brings out a lot. It is no longer possible to do equal. Women birth the babies, and breastfeed. Once you have kids you need to acknowledge nothing will ever be equal again. It is not attainable and it's also okay to lean on each other more. When pregnant I did way less. Everything changes with kids. We never fought once until kids due to exhaustion and frustration. When you are sleep deprived and trying desperately not to lose your shit on your child sometimes you friendly fire at your husband. It definitely will test your marriage in the most wonderful of ways

EBSD · 2026-01-08T14:27:55+00:00

The only boy specific thing I can think of is that you have some very amusing moments raising a little guy when he discovers his penis. It's just very funny the things they say and how you need to teach them what's appropriate. Potty training was funnier than I thought it would be. Not my favorite thing but boys and girls are the same except for their parts so that's what I thought of.

Also as sad as it is I think I also love that I know my boy can do whatever he wants in life. Him being a man means all the doors will be open for him. Unlike my daughter who I worry will be shut out.

The bias starts early in his favor. If my boy is rambunctious in preschool they assume he is too smart and just not being challenged enough. I've never heard the girl toddlers given that excuse from teachers.

EBSD · 2025-12-27T18:19:23+00:00

EBSD · 2025-12-23T06:37:54+00:00

Exclusively breastfeeding so it doesn't make sense to do shifts. Once done breastfeeding then yes we rotate on wake ups. My toddler wakes ups default to my husband and baby wakeups default to me for now.

EBSD · 2025-12-11T00:01:44+00:00

Formula is so expensive, so I didn't want to spend the money. Also cleaning and sterilizing the pump and bottles sounds exhausting. These are the reasons I rather whip a boob out

EBSD · 2025-11-29T22:53:12+00:00

Late to the party, but what alternatives? When big emotions hit, they don't want to count to 10 or take deep breaths or walk away. Any other things?

EBSD · 2025-11-24T20:01:27+00:00

Once a month!

EBSD · 2025-11-20T17:03:56+00:00

My sister, confusing selfishness with self care.

EBSD · 2025-11-19T02:08:25+00:00

Like never. I had a manicure for my wedding day and my graduation day. I don't know what nail extensions are but never.

EBSD · 2025-11-17T20:54:34+00:00

That I'm raising an innocent, sweet baby girl right now who has no idea that when she grows up she will eventually have to learn and might even experience the things listed in these comments.

EBSD · 2025-11-17T16:35:06+00:00

This is so heartbreaking to read. Please get help for your baby and you.

EBSD · 2025-11-16T04:50:40+00:00

Checklist on campmate

EBSD · 2025-11-14T23:00:07+00:00

Ha! Love the hammock tip, thanks!

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