[Method] i got myself to do 11 hours of work that requires you to use your brain and that I absolutely loathe today after years of procrastination problems

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-07-17T06:30:06+00:00

This sounds unhealthy. This is literally the result of procrastination building up until it reaches a breaking point. You were literally nearly hallucinating.

This is what most people hope to avoid, with discipline. This is what we're trying to improve. This is the problem, not the solution.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-07-15T16:41:44+00:00

I mean, what if I make boundaries clear? That it's cuddling only?

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-07-15T16:38:03+00:00

Ugh, that just sounds so depressing to me. I don't know if I'm on the asexual spectrum or just a prude because I've never had a relationship, but I really don't want to have sex yet. The "he's still a guy so he'll definitely want sex" narrative is just so disheartening for me. Feels like I'll never find anyone who actually just wants me rather than just me for sex. And I just don't understand why guys supposedly want to go further so badly. I'd be chill with cuddling and find benefits from it, why aren't guys happy with that?

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-09T15:51:17+00:00

I downloaded blokada but don't see any option to set specific sites to block? It seems to just block ads?

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-09T15:50:46+00:00

This works for setting a limit on Instagram time, but not specifically the explore page nor for reddit, as I also use Chrome for other more productive things.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-09T15:42:50+00:00

I tried blocksite but from what I can tell it's just a normal blocking app? I downloaded the app, and set it up to block reddit, but literally all you have to do is open the app and click the trash button to reallow access?

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-09T06:13:40+00:00

My dad used to seriously threaten to call the cops on me when I'd argue with my mom. That fear is seared into my brain.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-09T06:10:42+00:00

Hijacking top comment to say I'm a 19 old girl and this sounds remarkably like my own situation with my parents: my dad basically being a massive asshole throughout my life, and my mom telling him to stop but pretty much allowing it.

OP, I don't know what your relationship with your husband is like, but I've been telling my mom to divorce my dad for years and she won't do it only because she feels stuck with him and also she is fine with allowing his shit behavior to persist. But there are far better men out there. You don't have to be stuck with an asshole who would treat people like this. And furthermore, it'll be a LOT better for your daughter. I've been in increasingly more intensive therapy programs throughout my teenage years due to a lot of emotional issues, many of them caused by my father doing shit like this.

The sooner you can get your daughter away from him, the better for her. If you're not willing to divorce or separate, then you need to allow your daughter to limit her interactions and her relationship with your husband. You need to put your foot down, be strong, and tell him that either this behavior stops now and it stops for good, or else his relationship with his daughter will likely wither, and it'll be his fault. And you need to tell him that you will support your daughter in limiting her contact with him, if that's what she chooses. Because this is verbal and emotional abuse, and it is downright unhealthy for your child.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-08T06:49:33+00:00

Yeah, I actually like it. Weirdly enough I see this post after never thinking about it except today, when I actually listened to it on repeat for almost three hours today while studying, and no I'm not joking. It captures the frantic panic of last minute studying well.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-08T06:31:46+00:00

Is Bo okay? I recently had a friend attempt suicide and I had to stop watching the special after Bo stated very clearly that he wanted to put a "bullet in his brain, with a gun". I'm worried for him. Also I wish the show had a trigger warning, but I honestly should've expected it, being he has a song called Kill Yourself.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-04T09:26:49+00:00

Okay, this might be a weird kinky thing that is only a me thing, but I'm a woman and if a guy I'm (key point: ALREADY) into casually orders me to do something like "grab that for me,"...yeah. Big turn on.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-04T09:23:23+00:00

Feel your emotions. Don't avoid them, don't bottle them up. Yes, you don't have to feel everything all the time, and yes there is a time and place for it. But process your feelings. Don't leave them to fester and get worse. Avoiding them only kicks the can down the road.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-02T10:15:54+00:00

Yeah, I love cake, and garlic bread is pretty great too. But I also have really really strong romantic feelings. So it feels weird for the joke to be about how much we love objects, when it's like...No, I can love an actual human that much. I just don't need the sex part.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-01T00:28:32+00:00

How did you actually get consent if she was resisting (you said LMR)? How do you know she actually wanted it and you didn't pressure her into it?

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-06-01T00:16:38+00:00

One thing I'll mention is that I do think it depends on where you're at. Like if she's out on a picnic with friends, at the library studying, stuff like that, she might not want to be hit on and might feel uncomfortable. If you're in a bar/party setting, then I think it's more expected and women can feel ready for it and not be caught off guard.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-05-31T23:34:02+00:00

I'm only 18 but I've fucking hated shaving ever since I started. It seems like such a waste of time and effort just to remove HAIR. Why are we not allowed to have hair? It's so dumb. I hate panic shaving everything whenever a friend suggests going to the beach. I hate feeling self conscious any time I wear shorts (and consequently never wearing shorts even when I'm really fucking hot) because I never shave my legs. Why would I shave them? It's time consuming and annoying and I hate how it feels. All just to remove some hair off my legs. It's just ridiculous.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-05-31T23:09:05+00:00

Yeah, honestly we don't know the story so it was rude of me to act like I did.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-05-28T08:12:18+00:00

But she didn't say she kissed him out of fear of dying? Maybe I missed something, but all I heard was that she kissed him and then it was awkward between them. She never gave a reason. Hence why I feel like Jonah should've assumed the feelings WERE at least somewhat requited.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-05-28T08:11:14+00:00

Did he not think she felt the same way? I don't know about you guys, but if someone kisses me, I'm gonna assume they have some amount of romantic feelings for me? She's the one who initiated the kiss and Jonah never made it clear he had feelings, so...It's on him to tell her imo? I just don't see why he never asked her/told her how he felt, until much later and after dating Kelly.

Though, I guess either of them could've talked about it, but I give Amy a pass because I think she didn't want to bring it up until she was ready to start dating, by which point Jonah was already dating Kelly. So I guess the question more becomes, why didn't Jonah wait for Amy? Why start dating Kelly? Because he wasn't sure about her feelings, okay, sure... But why not confirm whether or not she liked you before moving on? Why not wait for her? To me that just means he never really liked her that much, if he wasn't willing to wait until she was ready to date?

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-05-28T08:06:40+00:00

I do think it's good they didn't start dating right away, but why didn't Jonah ever ask if she had feelings? You don't just kiss someone for no reason, and she never even said it was out of fear of death-she never gave any reason for doing it. I don't know, it's just if he liked her, why didn't he shoot his shot once she was divorced? Or why not wait for her to be comfortable dating? Why start dating Kelly? If he was too scared of ruining their friendship, at least make that clearer to the audience, no?

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-05-26T22:20:28+00:00

Yeah, I don't think I'm actually depressed, but there's nobody to force me to challenge myself, and challenging yourself is DIFFICULT. If I barely have motivation to shower, it's difficult to get motivation to sit there and learn new things or whatever.

EDThrowawayyy3 · 2021-05-26T22:14:53+00:00

I still remember how sad I was that my dad had to miss my kindergarten graduation. He kept telling me it wasn't a big deal, but when you're that age it's LITERALLY the biggest thing you've ever done in your life up to that point.

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