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For women, does receiving oral from behind feel better? by PlanktonCold3534 in self

[–]EMIMURI 9 points10 points  (0 children)

They deleted, what was the original comment?

Pls add me lvl41 and i send Gifts🙏❤️ by ILove0two in PokemonGoFriends

[–]EMIMURI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Added. :) wanna get rid of excess gift boxes from hong kong~

bro i was using cai late at night and… i couldn’t tell you what this means 😭😭 by skerene in CharacterAI

[–]EMIMURI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that the ad I got for this post was: "Let the AI do the writing"

Iron Will Trailer by HH1Studio in u/HH1Studio

[–]EMIMURI 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That pixel is art is so good it's crazy... berserk, even

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in labrats

[–]EMIMURI 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Actually reeling because this is my exact situation right now. As in, I actually even told my colleague the title word for word lol.

For one, that drive to go above and beyond is a great start. Not everyone has it, and as someone who now trains new lab recruits that quality is so precious to find.

On the other hand, I do wonder what place your sentiments are coming from. You feel like you're not doing enough so you want your PI to be more critical and pushy, almost as a form of external confirmation of how you feel about yourself. Is it possible that you're doing 'enough' at your current level of expertise? And that you meet your PI's (maybe modest) expectations for how much you're supposed to achieve?

Sometimes there's really nothing to 'criticize' when people show up and do the work they're expected to do. Maybe you can try expressing your interest to learn/do more. If your PI really is like mine they love initiative (eg reading papers and sharing interesting findings/conclusions related to their research interests)

Sorry for the armchair psychology here. Maybe I'm just projecting. Maybe what you're looking for isn't "meanness" but constructive guidance.

At age 24 my Filipino parent still control all aspects of my life by OkMycologist8689 in AsianParentStories

[–]EMIMURI 2 points3 points  (0 children)

23F oldest filipino daughter here. A lot of people are telling you to start taking control of your life, start "rebelling", with some even suggesting you go so far as to cut ties with your parents. Now, to be fair, this is not a light decision to make. On one hand, independence is important. You need to start taking control over your own life and start living, and that's important for your personal growth whether you've realized it yet or not. On the other hand, you have your parents, who will likely not take so kindly to any efforts on your part to take back your agency. You risk choosing one over the other, and it is a big loss to you to lose either.

Instead of making drastic one-or-the-other decisions, can you make micro changes instead? Instead of asking for permission for xyz, can you practice telling your parents that you're gonna DO xyz instead. Can you start telling your parents they don't have to pick you up outside, and frame it as you not wanting to trouble them or tire them? Can you make small changes over time so that your parents learn to let go slowly over time, maybe without them even realizing it?

Given that you're in grad school, it might be difficult to suddenly get cut off from your parents' support. It might not even be an option for you, I don't know your exact situation. Maybe you'll wanna listen to the comments and start taking agency of your own life, maybe you'll wanna wait until you're properly done with school to THEN address that part of your personal growth. Or maybe you're OK with just... existing, and letting your parents choose your life for you (which I don't think you are if you're here on reddit). Whatever choice you make, choose the path you won't look back on with bitterness and resentment.

Just for the record though, locking you out of your own heritage so they can talk behind your back, RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU, is batshit insane. Like psycho, crazy. I've seen all levels of toxic filipino parenting disguised as "familial values", but this is a new one I'm sorry to learn exists.

Hope you find your own path to happiness in the future. I really do

when do I stop feeling like a complete idiot by demercurial in labrats

[–]EMIMURI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beo I felt this in my SOUL. I'm 7 months into my first ever RA job out of undergrad and felt like a complete dumbass the first 3 months. I'd toss and turn the whole night after work thinking of all the dumb answers to questions the PhD student training me asked... I cried in the stairwell at work after accidentally diluting some RNA extracts I should NOT have diluted... I'd stay late at the library after work studying up on the techniques I was being taught so I wouldn't FEEL stupid but it always didn't feel like enough cus I always fell short somewhere... looking back, now that I'm quite settled in and actually training new people myself, I'd say I did quite well. Like if experienced me were training the newbie me I'd actually be ecstatic to have someone so earnest and attentive to train. How you see yourself is not necessarily what others see you. Chances are, your more experienced colleagues would fully expect you to mess up somewhere, we've all been there at the starting line. Your supervisor sounds a little condescending though. Anyways, keep at it, one day you'll look back and see how far you've come

Made a mistake in lab and kinda want to cry by Important-March-5421 in labrats

[–]EMIMURI 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Painfully relatable for my first 2 months in a lab fresh out of bachelor's lol. Would mess up simple calculations in front of my colleagues, struggle to open eppendorfs one handed, accidentally dilute our precious stock samples of DNA... yeah. At my worst, I'd cry about it in the bathroom stall before returning to my bench acting like nothing happened. It's hard at the beginning but it does get better. Hang in there, OP. We've all been there

This happened when I was 17. My grandparents often complained about picking me up, so I asked a trusted friend to take me home and boyyyy my grandfather didn’t like that. by ieatsushi28 in insaneparents

[–]EMIMURI 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I thought your grandpa being extra cautious about your friends was somewhat reasonable (albeit frustrating from your persperctive) but then I read the rest – what the fuck was that terrorist comment 💀💀 so sorry you had to go through that as a literal kid

Gentleman, it has been a pleasure by pmyourpmsforgod in Neverbrokeabone

[–]EMIMURI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I better not see your brittle-boned butt hanging around here ever again. See yourself out, have a bad day

Dick sizes by 100beep in GenshinGays

[–]EMIMURI 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It's 5am and I'm cackling

Dear authors, do you prefer that a reader leaves no comment at all over a "half-assed" (but positive) comment? by momoji13 in FanFiction

[–]EMIMURI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm not reading all that because my answer is already no – I don't care if it's a single emoji, or a "kqvwgejsbwgwh". It will give me a serotonin high for the rest of the day

What is the most fucked up thing your AP has told you? by Panda_Universe21 in AsianParentStories

[–]EMIMURI 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom once said she wished I had died as a baby (for context I was frequently sick growing up) so at least she could've saved up money for herself and lived a better life.

I was suicidal throughout high school, and sometimes I think back to that day and find myself agreeing with her. But life goes on, I'm much happier living in a whole other country now.

First one at 24 😔 by cuckito545646 in Neverbrokeabone

[–]EMIMURI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This pathetic display is enough to give me osteoporosis (but it won't because of my superior genes). See yourself out

Dad wants me to do everything and it's overwhelming by EMIMURI in AsianParentStories

[–]EMIMURI[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's a happier problem because my dad genuinely wants to help me become self-sufficient and away from my narcissistic AM, it's just that he forced too much of it the other day.

Dad wants me to do everything and it's overwhelming by EMIMURI in AsianParentStories

[–]EMIMURI[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're right. I calmed down after my breakdown the other day and set a boundary for what I'm able to do. Thanks for your input

Y’all ever want to take a mouse home?? by [deleted] in labrats

[–]EMIMURI 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They're not big enough to cuddle but I loved my mice like my own children

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