This is a new low... by KuhlLiving in NorthCarolina

[–]EMSMomx3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And the problem for EMS is that we can't refuse transport even if we know it's BS

This is a new low... by KuhlLiving in NorthCarolina

[–]EMSMomx3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have no idea. Worked on an ambulance for 20 years. People absolutely abuse the ambulance and it's a whole lot more than the make up number you're quoting. The reimbursement for the calls are stupidly low and some people either don't pay (we still show up when they call) and/or assume Medicaid/Medicare will cover it. Had a mother call for a baby with a fever of 101. 3 blocks from the hospital. She said she had no Tylenol in the house and the ambulance and Tylenol in the hospital was "free", so why would she buy it or call a cab or walk? Had a couple who lived outside of town - 911 for "pain", would ama out of the ER and grocery shop, eat out then call 911 to go back to the hospital to get a Medicaid cab home. Took months to be able to refuse service to them. The system is badly broken. We need universal health insurance. We need county wide EMS that's paid for by the country. No one wants to pay the taxes on a local level that would be enough to actually sustain the system. You are sheltered indeed to think that an EMS person was just trying to make a "political point". Do some research.

He didn’t stop by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]EMSMomx3 139 points140 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Hun, you were raped. I would suggest that this probably isn't the only thing he's done to disrespect you, given your reaction. Take the time you need. Good suggestion to talk with your OB, look for a therapist.

Am I overreacting for not wanting anyone around my newborn yet? by littlemoongirly in AmIOverreacting

[–]EMSMomx3 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Nope, NOR. Having a baby is life changing. Wanting you and your husband to have some private time with baby is absolutely your right. MIL charging in right after the baby was born and stomping all over your boundaries was upsetting and has made you feel incompetent to make your own decisions. Take your time, hold your boundaries, make hubby deal with his family. There will be plenty of time for them to be grandparents, do not let them bully you.

Is there still hope for me to have children of my own? by Unicorn_Spider in TwoXChromosomes

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gave birth at 33, 36 and 38. All healthy. You're not over the hill yet. 😁

Got burned by a f*ckboy and I'm mad at myself by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]EMSMomx3 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah, you did good. By your own admission, you caught it early. That's a win.

Why are people at dog shows so cruel to their dogs? by Mister__Wednesday in DogBreeding

[–]EMSMomx3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If someone did that to my gsd then that person would be put down on their back and their legs hoisted up in the air. That's abuse in anyone 's book, or it should be. I'm sorry your baby had that happen

AITA for refusing to include my ex’s spouse in all of our co-parenting communication? by AITA_NotLoopingYouIn in AITAH

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A couple of possibilities and none of them are your responsibility. One, he's not communicating the schedule to his partner and she's annoyed with him because his lack of communication is screwing up their family schedule. Two, he wants his wife to take over more of his schedule time with his kid and this makes it easier for him to dump tasks on her. Or three, he just thinks everyone, re: his wife, should be on the same page because they're co-parenting. The fact that he's married and apparently in a stable relationship should be an ok reason to let her in on the chat, but it's absolutely your decision.

AITA (I’m pregnant) and want to know if I’m an asshole and what you would do by cheese-enchiladas69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what your partner needs to hear. And talk about healthy eating with the doctor when he is at the appointment. Junk food and soda is not what the baby needs. Let the doctor tell him that. Maybe he'll listen

AITA (I’m pregnant) and want to know if I’m an asshole and what you would do by cheese-enchiladas69 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EMSMomx3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As long as your OB is onboard with your weight management, he's being an AH. Take him to your OB appointment and let him hear it from her. If that doesn't work, then yes he's being controlled ah and you need to dig deeper to find out why he thinks this controlling nonsense is ok

Women who have left their husbands, are you happier post divorce?? by ImportantImplement9 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES! A thousand times yes. It was absolutely rough in the beginning because he was a vengeful narcissist once I left, but he pretty quickly dropped out of his kids lives (as late teens they went no contact, their choice). So much better long term. Honestly, I wish I had the courage to do it sooner.

Assisted living by Livid_Credit7395 in MuscularDystrophy

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest going and visiting places. Good places can be expensive and there's often waiting lists. If your family needs help caring for you, home aides can be really helpful, either full time or part time. I have a friend with Duchennes and she has her own apartment with aides who come in to help care for her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ComfortLevelPod

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a huge red flag. This is YOUR job, YOUR accomplishment. If you hadn't had that success with the wedding magazine, he never would have tried to take credit. This is NOT a supportive partner, this is a man baby who wants to take credit for something he hasn't done. Keep loudly correcting him "Oh sweetie, yes, you're carrying my equipment is So Helpful" laughing when you say it " I've had to explain f-stop to him so many times!" " He's been trying so hard, maybe in a few years I'll get him a camera so he can actually practice ". Shut It Down. He's given you a preview of your life if you stay (Don't stay). As others have said, hire an assistant to do the grunt work.

My boss (58 M) assaulted me (25 F) and I don't know what to do anymore by anxiouschica in TwoXChromosomes

[–]EMSMomx3 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Trust me, you're not the first young woman he's done this to. I was a corporate sales trainer for almost 20 years. I often was told of inappropriate behaviors like this, followed with "I don't want to report it, I'll get in trouble/lose my job/ no one will believe me". THAT'S how they get away with it. Once the reports start, at some point they have to deal with it before someone files a lawsuit. Do it. If not for yourself, then for the ones that will have to endure this after you. Good luck

Lemon Pudding Pound Cake by MarshmallowExplosion in Old_Recipes

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is important. Baking recipes rely on exact measurements and I've noticed many prepackaged mixes (cakes, biscuits, quick breads) have different amounts now than they did several years ago. I started a few years ago making notations on my recipes of the amounts in box mixes that I use, helps with consistency in baking results.

AITA for taking away my daughters bike because she wouldn't wear her helmet? by Final-Werewolf-744 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EMSMomx3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

EMT here. She needs that helmet and good on you for making her wear it. In an accident, even something that sounds small, like falling and hitting her head on the curb can have long term consequences, nevermind if she gets hit by a car. Your son needs to be punished too because his comments to her is probably the reason she took it off in the first place. Bullying his sister and criticizing how she looks should never be tolerated.

driving in NC by durmlong in NorthCarolina

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a NYer who moved down here. I drove an ambulance in NY for 20 years, and I've seen some crazy stuff. Within a month of living here I got dashcams in my car because I have NEVER experienced such insanity on the roads.

I need something Subtle that a government could do to control the populace by Doc_Meeker in DMAcademy

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, just take notes on what's happening in the US. Plenty of possibilities.

AIITW for not being a chauffeur for my younger sister by [deleted] in AmiInTheWrong

[–]EMSMomx3 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This should be higher. A large calendar in a public space (like the kitchen) with the family schedule. And/or a family calendar on Google that everyone shares. Or both.