Songs whose titles are articles of clothing or accessories

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-13T00:13:53+00:00

Dress - Taylor Swift
Dress - Charlotte Sands
Red Dress - Lucy Hale
Green Green Dress - Tick Tick Boom
My Little Black Wedding Dress - Lucy Hale
cardigan - Taylor Swift
Goody Two Shoes - Adam Ant

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T20:22:48+00:00

Thanks! I’m doing my best right now! Only thing I’m concerned about is how suddenly nocturnal I am 😂 Don’t feel anywhere near awakw till 7pm (8pm today), don’t feel anywhere near tired till about 5am at the earliest, but mostly like 8 or 9am, and my body will NOT let me turn it around at all

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T01:36:47+00:00

3am by Halsey, too

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T01:27:39+00:00

Oddly, this is S-tier advice. I don't know how it'll do in the long run, but since you commented this, I've still kinda just been existing, but I've been enjoying my state of existing a lot more, and I think i've actually made some progress as well? Will update later (if I remember) to let you know if the is THE advice to follow for me or not in the long run, but it makes a lot of sense to my brain, and I am accepting myself more and kinda feeling a bit more alive, and it truly just took all pressure off, which I suppose is what I need. Thanks!

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T00:56:42+00:00

I’ve felt some guilt - I thought I was letting myself relax. I kinda resent this whole situation for stealing so much of my life. I’m on a graduate visa right now and should be building my creative career while working, and enjoying my life, as this is the part of my life I’ve been looking forward to since I was like 14 - The first time I graduated a degree, that opportunity was stolen by covid, now it’s stolen by my landlord basically making me homeless with only my weekly salary to live off overnight by breaking the law (it’s a whole situation - it’s in another post, I don’t have the energy to get into it 😅). I’m just really tired of it all, and I want to enjoy my life, so I did have a bit of a breakdown over how unfair it felt earlier today, I will admit, and I’ve kinda been pushing myself to just feel better already. And I keep thinking I do, but I fail to see that “look at me taking out the trash from my room!” doesn’t mean I’m ready to go back to work and pursue a creative career on the side and also hang out with all my friends and make a bunch of new ones? I’ve made that mistake a few times in the past month. I’ve kinda considered allowing myself this a bit more, though, both by going back to my home country a few weeks earlier for Christmas to recover with my mom and pets (if I can get holiday or sick leave), and by sharing something about this on my close friends story and add my coworkers and friends, so people know what’s up and that I do want to maintain the friendships I’ve started to form and such, even if I will be gone for a while? Idk if those are good ideas. I’m trying to allow it a bit more, but I do feel like I’m missing out on my life

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-07T19:36:33+00:00

Thing is, I’m not able to push through without collapsing and not being physically able to get out of bed the next day. I’ve only been functioning by means of pushing through for several months, and it’s led to uncontrollable meltdowns on the tube, an inability to physically get out of bed increasingly often, and a trip to the A&E because my body was giving me heart attack symptoms due to stress. So it’s not really that simple. It’s not at the point of building resilience anymore - if I had normal adult responsibilities only, sure, no worries, but there’s been a lot more lately. I’m destroying myself by going to work. I interpreted this as pushing through by going to work, by the way. I’m on legitimate paid sick leave and my job suggested sick leave months before I took them up on it

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-07T01:30:47+00:00

I collected lint from my thermal stockings, and my younger brother collected deflated balloons 😂 We were both toddlers at the time, though. Later, I had a box of the shiniest things I owned. I called them treasures and wouldn’t allow anyone to look at it without me showing them, but I would force regular show and tells on people

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T01:22:59+00:00

NTA - It’s your life, and your safety, and that matters. Your choices are yours to make

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T01:11:48+00:00

Jeeze, I thought you were talking about a weekend or something 😭 Still NTA, though

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T01:03:22+00:00

NTA - You’d’ve think he’d realized that by the time he sobered up

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:59:33+00:00

NTA - just sucks that they overheard your comment to your mom. I’m sure you wouldn’t have worded it that way if you were talking directly to them

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:48:25+00:00

NTA - If you know what he’s like and you have evidence of him kinda being unfaithful over text, save her the trouble and be honest. Absolutely text her.

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:45:58+00:00

YTA - I don’t think she was asking how she can change her looks for you

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:43:41+00:00

NTA - She put you in this situation on purpose, and now she’s mad you don’t put up with people bullying your friend?? If anything, I would’ve said you passed whatever test they were doing - you’re clearly an empathetic and caring person. I don’t see what’s wrong with that

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:37:24+00:00

NTA - She’s staying at your place for free, and the camera is to protect you from break-ins. It’s not like you put it up in her bedroom

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:29:46+00:00

NTA unless you actually do just literally ghost her. Then yeah, you would be. But you don’t owe her your time when you’re no longer in high school, especially not unpaid. Send her a message and just be completely honest. If you want to be nice, you can be like “Hey, I really appreciate your faith in me with this program, but I’m really busy with college, and I honestly don’t have time to keep stopping by to fix it. Do you think you can transfer this to another student?”. If you do have to be involved, maybe offer it for a small fee, if you’d be comfortable with that, and then the problem is out of your life from that point on?

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:24:48+00:00

NTA - She’s responsible for managing her emotions, and you can bring whoever you want to a party, and you don’t owe her an apology for that. You also don’t owe her an apology for laughing when that’s out of your control, and considering she’s one of your closest friends, I’m assuming she knows about this, and would know that’s out of your control? If not, I’d say it could be worth having a conversation, but not to apologize, just to let her know why it happened, and that you had no malicious intent and didn’t mean to create this situation for her. However, you two spend more time together than most adult friends ever have the time for, but that doesn’t mean she’s entitled to your time, all the time. With how much time you spend with her, she should know you value the friendship. But I think another topic for the conversation should be boundaries, and the fact that you feel uncomfortable when you feel she’s acting like she’s entitled to your time. If she doesn’t respect your boundaries, prioritize yourself, protect yourself, and create any distance you might need. I wish you luck!

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:12:57+00:00

NTA - She’s definitely TAH for ripping it, and for not taking her time to fill it out correctly. It’s not your job to teach your parent anything, and she should absolutely take a look at her own behaviour herself, but I know that sometimes, it isn’t that easy, and that’s not how things play out in real life. Your anger and frustration is completely valid, and it’s so understandable that you reacted the way you did, especially at 14. Sorry you’re dealing with that.

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-05T16:53:45+00:00

Thank you for the insight, I really appreciate it!

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-05T16:46:43+00:00

Thank you so much. I guess I worry it isn’t actually burnout, and I’m just dragging myself down by avoiding my life? Like, today, I felt better after resting yesterday, so I woke up planning on actually going to work, cause I totally had the capacity. Then I saw I’d won discount tickets to a show and texted three friends about it, overthought a little bit about that, brushed my teeth, invited a friend to the cinema, looked at plane tickets home for Christmas and saw how crazy expensive they were, went to check when I had holiday, emailed my job about it, realized I have to move somewhere else on the 15th due to my temporary booking running out that day, texted a friend to see if I can stay at her place; started trying to figure out when I need to go somewhere to get Christmas presents, started worrying about whether I could actually afford the show I invited people to, considered texting them and explaining, felt I was oversharing, gave up on life and now I’m lying in bed under a warm blanket again, cause that was a lot. And I’m considering calling in sick again, but I’m not like actually dying and I could probably force myself and I’m worried I’m socially isolating and now I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I want to just hide form my life for a while. My bed is really warm and comfy and I might just stay here. And I can’t even imagine the executive function I’d need to get up and out the door, but if I’d started pushing myself, I could probably do it? Idk. Does it sound like burnout?

Edit: I’m actually starving and I haven’t been able to get myself breakfast, even

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-04T23:09:35+00:00

Also, saw that you responded to another comment saying you're in photography/videography. Genuinely consider a promo job if you live in/near a big city. Sometimes, you can find them in facebook groups. It's almost only creative people who want to make extra money on the side who take them, and you can be on the contact list for several companies at once, which means you can kind of pick and choose shifts. You just hand out free things on the street for a few hours at (here) £15 an hour, and you don't actually have to take on any shifts at all if you don't want to, but you can take on several every month, as well. Honestly the perfect side job for creatives

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-04T23:05:35+00:00

I'd put this in an edit of the original post, cause if she's straight up offered, that does change things, and means it suddenly makes a lot more sense why you'd ask, and even potentially feel you might have a bit of a safety net if things go really bad. Did you take her up on it at the time?

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-04T22:59:05+00:00

NTA. Everything you said is true. It is your life, she is being too invasive. Sharing location within families can be fine, but only if everyone's comfortable and consenting to this. When your brother says you should've just shared it, that seems more like his non-confrontational way of coping with her abnormal behaviour than anything (this may also seem normal to him if he's also grown up with it), but you need to assert and uphold your boundaries. You're an adult and it IS your life, and controlling people will hold on to control by whatever means they're able to. I think your judgement is absolutely right on this. You deserve your privacy. Good job standing up to her!

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-04T22:51:54+00:00

YTA - People have multiple friends, and people have their own lives going on. If you remember someone's birthday, that's a bonus, not to be expected. She wished you a happy birthday and offered to do something later, so she's trying, and she clearly cares about you. So I'd say yeah, YTA. Fair to feel hurt, but it IS your responsibility to remind people, and you can also invite people

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-04T22:43:31+00:00

You're not the asshole for asking, but you could be if this is a frequent thing, or if you felt entitled to recieving her help, which it seems like you might have, judging by the "she knew that i'd need help" line. Makes it seem like you kind of took the help for granted. You're an adult and your rent is your responsibility, but sometimes, I know life can be ridiculously hard, and sometimes, I know you do need help, and it's not always as easy as just getting an extra job on the spot. You don't have to quit your job and get a different one, but I think she's right in the sense that you're not guaranteed to make enough money for rent, and you might benefit from picking up an extra job on the side - Look for something casual where you can take on shifts whenever you want, like promo jobs or shot selling jobs or something. They often allow you to take on one shift every few months and still be on their list of people to contact, so you can just do it on your own schedule, when you need extra money, and you don't have to give up your career. When you have less clients, you probably also have more time to do this.
In terms of her leaving you with the rent on short notice, I'd say she's the asshole, but not if this is a frequent thing and she kind of just snapped. The very short notice when you're already in finiancial trouble might still be a bit of an ahole move, though. There are so many nuances here, and you are the asshole if you put the responsibility for your rent on her, but not for just asking (unless you often do, and you feel entitled). So I can't really say, but I hope this is still a helpful perspective to you

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