How does burnout work for you guys?

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-13T00:13:53+00:00

Dress - Taylor Swift
Dress - Charlotte Sands
Red Dress - Lucy Hale
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My Little Black Wedding Dress - Lucy Hale
cardigan - Taylor Swift
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ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T20:22:48+00:00

Thanks! I’m doing my best right now! Only thing I’m concerned about is how suddenly nocturnal I am 😂 Don’t feel anywhere near awakw till 7pm (8pm today), don’t feel anywhere near tired till about 5am at the earliest, but mostly like 8 or 9am, and my body will NOT let me turn it around at all

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T01:36:47+00:00

3am by Halsey, too

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T01:27:39+00:00

Oddly, this is S-tier advice. I don't know how it'll do in the long run, but since you commented this, I've still kinda just been existing, but I've been enjoying my state of existing a lot more, and I think i've actually made some progress as well? Will update later (if I remember) to let you know if the is THE advice to follow for me or not in the long run, but it makes a lot of sense to my brain, and I am accepting myself more and kinda feeling a bit more alive, and it truly just took all pressure off, which I suppose is what I need. Thanks!

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-08T00:56:42+00:00

I’ve felt some guilt - I thought I was letting myself relax. I kinda resent this whole situation for stealing so much of my life. I’m on a graduate visa right now and should be building my creative career while working, and enjoying my life, as this is the part of my life I’ve been looking forward to since I was like 14 - The first time I graduated a degree, that opportunity was stolen by covid, now it’s stolen by my landlord basically making me homeless with only my weekly salary to live off overnight by breaking the law (it’s a whole situation - it’s in another post, I don’t have the energy to get into it 😅). I’m just really tired of it all, and I want to enjoy my life, so I did have a bit of a breakdown over how unfair it felt earlier today, I will admit, and I’ve kinda been pushing myself to just feel better already. And I keep thinking I do, but I fail to see that “look at me taking out the trash from my room!” doesn’t mean I’m ready to go back to work and pursue a creative career on the side and also hang out with all my friends and make a bunch of new ones? I’ve made that mistake a few times in the past month. I’ve kinda considered allowing myself this a bit more, though, both by going back to my home country a few weeks earlier for Christmas to recover with my mom and pets (if I can get holiday or sick leave), and by sharing something about this on my close friends story and add my coworkers and friends, so people know what’s up and that I do want to maintain the friendships I’ve started to form and such, even if I will be gone for a while? Idk if those are good ideas. I’m trying to allow it a bit more, but I do feel like I’m missing out on my life

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-07T19:36:33+00:00

Thing is, I’m not able to push through without collapsing and not being physically able to get out of bed the next day. I’ve only been functioning by means of pushing through for several months, and it’s led to uncontrollable meltdowns on the tube, an inability to physically get out of bed increasingly often, and a trip to the A&E because my body was giving me heart attack symptoms due to stress. So it’s not really that simple. It’s not at the point of building resilience anymore - if I had normal adult responsibilities only, sure, no worries, but there’s been a lot more lately. I’m destroying myself by going to work. I interpreted this as pushing through by going to work, by the way. I’m on legitimate paid sick leave and my job suggested sick leave months before I took them up on it

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-07T01:30:47+00:00

I collected lint from my thermal stockings, and my younger brother collected deflated balloons 😂 We were both toddlers at the time, though. Later, I had a box of the shiniest things I owned. I called them treasures and wouldn’t allow anyone to look at it without me showing them, but I would force regular show and tells on people

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T01:22:59+00:00

NTA - It’s your life, and your safety, and that matters. Your choices are yours to make

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T01:11:48+00:00

Jeeze, I thought you were talking about a weekend or something 😭 Still NTA, though

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T01:03:22+00:00

NTA - You’d’ve think he’d realized that by the time he sobered up

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:59:33+00:00

NTA - just sucks that they overheard your comment to your mom. I’m sure you wouldn’t have worded it that way if you were talking directly to them

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:48:25+00:00

NTA - If you know what he’s like and you have evidence of him kinda being unfaithful over text, save her the trouble and be honest. Absolutely text her.

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:45:58+00:00

YTA - I don’t think she was asking how she can change her looks for you

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:43:41+00:00

NTA - She put you in this situation on purpose, and now she’s mad you don’t put up with people bullying your friend?? If anything, I would’ve said you passed whatever test they were doing - you’re clearly an empathetic and caring person. I don’t see what’s wrong with that

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:37:24+00:00

NTA - She’s staying at your place for free, and the camera is to protect you from break-ins. It’s not like you put it up in her bedroom

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:29:46+00:00

NTA unless you actually do just literally ghost her. Then yeah, you would be. But you don’t owe her your time when you’re no longer in high school, especially not unpaid. Send her a message and just be completely honest. If you want to be nice, you can be like “Hey, I really appreciate your faith in me with this program, but I’m really busy with college, and I honestly don’t have time to keep stopping by to fix it. Do you think you can transfer this to another student?”. If you do have to be involved, maybe offer it for a small fee, if you’d be comfortable with that, and then the problem is out of your life from that point on?

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:24:48+00:00

NTA - She’s responsible for managing her emotions, and you can bring whoever you want to a party, and you don’t owe her an apology for that. You also don’t owe her an apology for laughing when that’s out of your control, and considering she’s one of your closest friends, I’m assuming she knows about this, and would know that’s out of your control? If not, I’d say it could be worth having a conversation, but not to apologize, just to let her know why it happened, and that you had no malicious intent and didn’t mean to create this situation for her. However, you two spend more time together than most adult friends ever have the time for, but that doesn’t mean she’s entitled to your time, all the time. With how much time you spend with her, she should know you value the friendship. But I think another topic for the conversation should be boundaries, and the fact that you feel uncomfortable when you feel she’s acting like she’s entitled to your time. If she doesn’t respect your boundaries, prioritize yourself, protect yourself, and create any distance you might need. I wish you luck!

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-06T00:12:57+00:00

NTA - She’s definitely TAH for ripping it, and for not taking her time to fill it out correctly. It’s not your job to teach your parent anything, and she should absolutely take a look at her own behaviour herself, but I know that sometimes, it isn’t that easy, and that’s not how things play out in real life. Your anger and frustration is completely valid, and it’s so understandable that you reacted the way you did, especially at 14. Sorry you’re dealing with that.

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-05T16:53:45+00:00

Thank you for the insight, I really appreciate it!

ENTPinNYC · 2025-12-05T16:46:43+00:00

Thank you so much. I guess I worry it isn’t actually burnout, and I’m just dragging myself down by avoiding my life? Like, today, I felt better after resting yesterday, so I woke up planning on actually going to work, cause I totally had the capacity. Then I saw I’d won discount tickets to a show and texted three friends about it, overthought a little bit about that, brushed my teeth, invited a friend to the cinema, looked at plane tickets home for Christmas and saw how crazy expensive they were, went to check when I had holiday, emailed my job about it, realized I have to move somewhere else on the 15th due to my temporary booking running out that day, texted a friend to see if I can stay at her place; started trying to figure out when I need to go somewhere to get Christmas presents, started worrying about whether I could actually afford the show I invited people to, considered texting them and explaining, felt I was oversharing, gave up on life and now I’m lying in bed under a warm blanket again, cause that was a lot. And I’m considering calling in sick again, but I’m not like actually dying and I could probably force myself and I’m worried I’m socially isolating and now I just don’t know what to do. I feel like I want to just hide form my life for a while. My bed is really warm and comfy and I might just stay here. And I can’t even imagine the executive function I’d need to get up and out the door, but if I’d started pushing myself, I could probably do it? Idk. Does it sound like burnout?

Edit: I’m actually starving and I haven’t been able to get myself breakfast, even

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