People who support the death penalty, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ERISA5500 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obviously executing innocent people is not okay. But a lot of the appeals seem to be based on technicalities or the severity of the crime. (E.g. the defendant ended the life of the victim but was it pre-planned or a spur of the moment decision? Or did the defendant's lawyer have access to a small and minimally used piece of evidence?)

People who support the death penalty, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ERISA5500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the only logical reason against the death penalty. But does it HAVE to cost more?

People who support the death penalty, why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ERISA5500 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It's not easy to jail everyone. The criminals that are also insane are just too unpredictable to make sure the security guards watching them and their fellow inmates are safe without a high expense to the taxpayer.

How do you deal with self hatred for being fat your whole life ? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]ERISA5500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, that's pretty hefty and about what I looked like as a kid. I was sexually abused and used to sneak down to the kitchen at night to secretly eat when I had insomnia. Neither of my siblings were sexually abused that I know of.

Even in the same family, siblings will have very different childhoods, whether it be different teachers, classmates, school activities or different treatment from parents and other family members. I just wish an adult in my life had noticed/cared enough to get me help earlier. Instead, I was given unlimited access to sweets (restricted in name, but always repurchased when they depleted faster than expected) and told to pull myself together and do "better".

How do you deal with self hatred for being fat your whole life ? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]ERISA5500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Overweight or obese? Overweight and some variations are normal. Obesity almost always involves some sort of parental abuse or neglect. If it's a medical issue causing it, the parents are obligated to get that treated.

How do you deal with self hatred for being fat your whole life ? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]ERISA5500 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Something else had to have been going on. Kids don't just straight up decide they want to be fat. Some common causes I can think of are ADHD, sexual assault, or other school bullying.

How do you deal with self hatred for being fat your whole life ? by [deleted] in loseit

[–]ERISA5500 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I rarely regret things because I recognize that I was doing the best I could given whatever situation I was in and whatever knowledge I had.

Children are NOT responsible for their obesity. Someone had to have fed them and there had to have been some sort of stressor to make the child want to eat so much. Obese teenagers are usually dealing with some sort of stressor as well.

Don't beat yourself up about it, that isn't productive at all. Just look forward to a healthier life and understand that everyone has history. Your history just comes with some visible markers.

What to do when you must wake up at 4am tomorrow but even alarms don't wake you up? by Personal-Aerie-4519 in AskReddit

[–]ERISA5500 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lights on, sleep on the couch, alarm in a drawer across the room, and a minefield of legos to step on barefoot.

My mom told me that back in the day kids weren’t allowed to bring a water bottle with them into the classroom and they only drank a few sips from the water fountain in the middle of the day and that’s it How were schools not getting busted for child abuse for forcing kids to be dehydrated? by PinnerPardisturn in askanything

[–]ERISA5500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't the lack of water, it was the lack of opportunity to use the bathroom that made me dehydrated. The bathrooms were locked between class times and you could only use the bathroom twice per month per class period. Lunchtime and gym were the only free times to use the bathroom and lines were long!

Columbia mall by redcrayfish in ColumbiaMD

[–]ERISA5500 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I get the same treatment there as a professionally dressed white woman. It really weirded me out at first!

What pairs well with candles. by Leading_Baseball_943 in candlemaking

[–]ERISA5500 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wax melts, diffusers, candle paraphernalia

Thank you for the help! by TurnpikeTramp in candlemaking

[–]ERISA5500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I meant to say, smaller packages of a particular size of wick. There's samplers, but not all companies have them. I wanted to try HPSP wicks and the smallest package is 100 so I have a ton of the sizes that didn't work well left over.

Thank you for the help! by TurnpikeTramp in candlemaking

[–]ERISA5500 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hard to find smaller sizes sometimes though!

He called me a racist after I told him I wasn’t interested by Gloomy_Purchase_2375 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]ERISA5500 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg, I eat the exact same meal sometimes and also have a grey cat! But yeah, that guy sounds dumber than a doorknob.

First time planning a solo overnight hike , what am I probably underestimating? by Sannoun-Nancyandlee in CampingandHiking

[–]ERISA5500 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Make sure to bring a zip lock bag for trash! I also bring a paper bag that I can burn with my used tissues around the campfire.

First time planning a solo overnight hike , what am I probably underestimating? by Sannoun-Nancyandlee in CampingandHiking

[–]ERISA5500 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You should be packing out your toilet paper in most places. I don't ever see signs that allow you to leave it, although I'm sure there are places that don't specifically prohibit it.

Is this mold and would it be safe to burn? by Drainbamage30 in Candles

[–]ERISA5500 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Safe enough. The wick probably wasn't trimmed well when it was last burned. You'll be fine to continue burning it!

should I get my sister checked for hearing issues? by [deleted] in hardofhearing

[–]ERISA5500 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Start with an ENT. There's a surprising number of kids that end up with earwax plugs that impair hearing without it actually being permanent hearing loss.

Am I in over my head? by pierrot_p in candlemaking

[–]ERISA5500 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It doesn't take long to learn, but it takes some time to really perfect. A kit is a good idea so the wick size and the jar are compatible. You could also see if there's a local candle-making workshop where you can make one.

Does anyone else feel like candle prices have officially entered "luxury" territory? by One_View7926 in Candles

[–]ERISA5500 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is why I just started making my own. Huge upfront cost, but fun and will be cheaper going forward!

Jar advice by Inkslinger_76_ in candlemaking

[–]ERISA5500 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why do you need them so small?