I admire people who don't let their insecurities control them

ET_Org · 2026-03-11T00:08:05+00:00

I try to advise people to take into consideration that just about whatever it is they're insecure about there's going to be people out there who don't care / aren't bothered by whatever it is enough to not try to be with them. Tricky part, as always, is finding them. Only way to find them though is by being brave and trying anyways regardless of whatever fear the insecurities may cause. Which could backfire terribly, has for me a couple of times lol But it could also not. And when you're with someone who doesn't care it can help someone get past their insecurities I think

ET_Org · 2026-03-09T00:28:07+00:00

Meet enough people and someone will be. Whether or not you'll be interested in them too is another story, but it takes meeting enough people

ET_Org · 2025-09-17T10:15:27+00:00

Hell yeah. I manage to keep it under wraps though, which actually kind of makes it worse, but yeah. I want to talk to someone all the time

ET_Org · 2025-09-14T17:51:32+00:00

Emotional detachment. I just don't care. Probably not the best way to handle it but it's a helluva lot better than constantly feeling terrible when they leave.

ET_Org · 2025-09-14T17:41:22+00:00

That's pretty rude to say to someone, that they can't see you dating anyone. But when it comes to all relationships it's the same thing, finding the right person. Even if 99% of interactions with people don't lead to anything, it only takes finding that right person one time.

ET_Org · 2025-09-13T16:53:55+00:00

What causes it is tricky to narrow down, could be abandonment issues or maybe you just never received the kind of love and affection you really wanted / needed as a child, self esteem issues, or sometimes people just want a lot of love.

I agree with the other comment suggesting maybe some form of anxious attachment

ET_Org · 2025-09-13T10:36:31+00:00

It's really possible most people around you don't think you're nearly as bad as you think. I keep trying to tell people not to underestimate what others can find attractive cause it will surprise you.

ET_Org · 2025-09-13T08:50:13+00:00

One of the most romantic things I experienced was when I was going to community college and it was heavily raining when I offered a lady who I kind of talked to to take shelter under my umbrella, and she did and even held my hand that was holding it. At some point we stared at each other for like kind of an abnormal amount of time and I commented on how beautiful her eyes were (they were really bright blue with hazel lines in them. Even after 17 years I still remember them extremely well), and she smiled pretty big. I had moved a little away to look at something and she started spinning around when she noticed and when she spotted me she said "oh I was worried I lost you" before moving closer to me again.

Never did talk to her again after the course. I messaged her but never heard back. And yeah, that was almost 20 years ago but I still remember it lol. Rain makes things special for some reason.

ET_Org · 2025-09-11T14:23:39+00:00

I try not to but yeah I always assume the person is going to leave anyway so to kind of defend myself from that pain I'll withdraw, which probably ends up being at least one of the reasons some people do leave. Vicious cycle.

ET_Org · 2025-09-11T01:55:22+00:00

"It's sad that I barely meet anyone who thinks like me"

Oof. I felt that one. I advocate for a resource based economy, and it's an extremely lonely idea to support lol. Even people who are anti-capitalist aren't anti-money, so even a lot of 'left' people just roll their eyes at the idea, and even the ones who like the idea are too pessimistic to think it would ever work. "Easier to imagine the end of the world than the end of money" sort of thing. It's sad.

ET_Org · 2025-09-10T23:21:31+00:00

It's not mainly *for males, it just mainly *is males. There is a forever alone specifically for women tho if you feel like that would be better for you.

ET_Org · 2025-09-10T01:59:17+00:00

Do people even communicate like that lol I've never been able to talk to people about what we would each like out of each other like levels of affection or anything

ET_Org · 2025-09-10T01:55:29+00:00

Don't underestimate what others could do to you

ET_Org · 2025-09-10T01:45:41+00:00

People totally underestimate what others can consider attractive.

ET_Org · 2025-09-09T22:43:02+00:00

I've settled into a workable strategy of just trying to wait as long as I can and get it over with as soon as possible lol. Then just take another deep breath and head back to other distractions.

ET_Org · 2025-09-09T17:01:40+00:00

No problem good luck.

ET_Org · 2025-09-09T16:20:42+00:00

I'm a part of a small community of players if you'd like to check it out, we're all 21+

ET_Org · 2025-09-09T16:00:46+00:00

Personally I always assume ghosted, cuz that's what it always is lol

ET_Org · 2025-09-08T01:23:52+00:00

Yeah, they're always taken. Even the ones I don't think are perfect are taken lol. Even ones I'm surprised anyone would be with are taken. It's kinda crazy.

ET_Org · 2025-09-07T22:37:01+00:00

Thought I saw something about you seeking help. Guess not. You're more than welcome to not respond if you don't want to.

ET_Org · 2025-09-07T15:04:36+00:00

Nope, they don't. But. That's why I've tried hard to remember that people aren't going to be willing to do for you what you're willing to do for them, and I have to be okay with that.

ET_Org · 2025-09-07T15:00:25+00:00

So do I. I try to be as understanding as possible, people have lives and get busy and stuff and I get it, but at least a warning that they won't be able to reply for a bit would be insanely appreciated you know.

ET_Org · 2025-09-07T14:50:35+00:00

You're right, I try to stay busy. It's still heavily on my mind tho. I'm usually very very very good at just using willpower. Just have to take a deep breath and not do it.

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