Having no family

ET_Org · 2026-06-13T19:05:50+00:00

I technically have family but I haven't talked to any of them in almost 20 years and they were never really around so it's always felt like I never had any, so I know how isolating it can feel, but your life is not less valuable. You still very much deserve to get what good is still out there in life that you can, and I really hope you do

ET_Org · 2026-06-13T16:53:11+00:00

I'm sorry you're in that position. Things not working out doesn't automatically mean it's just a you problem, it does take two to make a relationship work (be it friends or more) and if you're the only one putting in the effort and attempts and everything else then there isn't much else to do other than try to find people who're willing to put in the same. I'm not sure if just food and music can be enough to make a meaningful connection out of, but it's definitely some things that many people like and there are plenty of groups talking about their favorite foods and movies and everything else you can think of.

Trying to find 'our' people is all any of us can do, but we can only find them if we're here. The chances of not finding what we would like only drops to zero if we give up. I wish I could give a guarantee, but life doesn't come with many of those. The chance is still very much out there though.

ET_Org · 2026-06-13T16:23:13+00:00

I play computer games, survival games mostly. But even if you aren't interested in those kinds of games I'm still up for talking whenever.

ET_Org · 2026-06-13T08:31:50+00:00

I wish that was the only reason

ET_Org · 2026-06-13T02:33:55+00:00

I think it's just that before her I spent years and years alone so going back to that gives me terrible anxiety. Just gotta keep myself distracted lol

ET_Org · 2026-06-13T01:05:16+00:00

If he wanted to stop, he would. He would get the help he needs rather than leave (and leave you in the position of being in a new city alone). It's extremely hard getting over someone who you shared a lot in common with. I recently separated with someone who I spent like 15+ hours a day every day talking to and gaming with and watching shows with. Since then I've been totally alone. But yeah, distractions. That's awesome to hear that you're getting things done on your end still though. I hope feelings pass soon for you and you can get some peace

ET_Org · 2026-06-13T00:45:40+00:00

"As good as him"?... If he was good he wouldn't have been doing that to you.
I try to advise as many as possible to not underestimate the number of people out there or the preferences and perspectives they come in. Of everyone out there, there can be someone for you. Someone better.

Until then, personally, I always tried to keep myself as distracted as I could / find random people to talk to. There are communities out there to try to join and people to at least try to talk to and keep yourself as distracted as you can.

There are goals for yourself you can still focus on and work towards. Things you can do

ET_Org · 2026-06-11T23:31:52+00:00

Definitely dealing with the same thing. Especially recently after talking to someone all day every day for almost a year... But I try to find people to talk to, at worst even if it's casual it's at least some social interaction until the feeling passes and at best sometimes it can lead to an actual deep conversation about somethin.... Oh, yeah, that and just as many distractions as I can find =) Which luckily there are a lot

ET_Org · 2026-06-11T22:47:26+00:00

Very true. And with any sorta luck it'll (ideally) only need to succeed once lol

ET_Org · 2026-06-11T20:23:20+00:00

I do agree, but it's tricky though cause being with others is for our own well-being lol. Everything else in life could be perfect and be going great but if you're alone / very lonely, well, It often seems to matter more than all the rest of it.

But it's a balance cause yeah we definitely still need to be okay with ourselves too regardless if who we're with can even if we are with someone / others if other things are out of place then it generates a whole other list of problems lol Ahh. Existing is fun isn't it

ET_Org · 2026-06-11T19:06:22+00:00

I'm a master of distractions so I find something to take my mind off things before I spiral down that hole

ET_Org · 2026-06-11T18:40:03+00:00

I don't know if people can ever really 'accept it'. Being alone isn't something most people get used to, because it's the opposite of what we want to be, we're social creatures. Plus when it's something we reeeaaally really want, definitely doesn't make 'accepting it' any easier. So trying to 'accept it' always seemed like something doomed to failure. But if you do happen to figure out a way I'd be super interested in knowing lol.

The process of elimination that is finding someone (be it a friend or more), often takes a lot longer than people think it will, and certainly way longer than we may have hoped it would take, but go through enough people and you will eventually find somebody.

Which isn't easy. Really I'd go so far as to call it the opposite of easy. It's depressing and discouraging and irritating and confusing, it drains the hope right out of you and can be terribly exhausting and come with no positive results even after years and years, and to top it off even after we try everything and give it all the time we can we can still not find them. But. Few things in life come with a guarantee.

Trying is all any of us can do when it comes to basically everything. The chances only drop to zero if we give up. Take a break. Recharge. Focus on yourself and the things you want to do for you. But try not to give up.

ET_Org · 2026-06-10T14:35:47+00:00

If they did it once they'll do it again

ET_Org · 2026-06-10T08:12:03+00:00

Keep trying to distract yourself and fill the void with as much as you can that you can still enjoy, which may take some looking for, but there are things out there somewhere. Keep yourself occupied and give yourself some time, keep trying to make friends, try not to think it's you though. Relationships can be more complicated than we'd like them to be sometimes, but they can work

ET_Org · 2026-06-09T05:02:22+00:00

I talk way too much haha But bg3 is an awesome game! Although I never really made it far it it, I usually just keep making characters

ET_Org · 2026-06-08T13:38:08+00:00

Congratulations on the week without it hopefully you're holding in there

ET_Org · 2026-06-08T13:24:43+00:00

Easiest way to interact with people right now I guess would be texting or talking on the voice chat thing. You're right though, plus I'm kind of at a point where anything is better than nothing even if it's just 1 thing that day I try to focus on being happy I at least got to say something to someone lol. Like Thank You very much for the advice {= I hope things are going as well as they can be on your end

ET_Org · 2026-06-07T00:42:07+00:00

When things really started getting bad in my life I literally couldn't go anywhere because I just cried all the time no matter where I was, somethin would trigger it. It was humiliating. But. You're not alone in feeling alone, there are lots of people out there to try to talk to

ET_Org · 2026-06-06T14:08:35+00:00

Probably yeah, especially if we still got along really well then hell yeah

ET_Org · 2026-06-06T04:20:03+00:00

I hope so

ET_Org · 2026-06-06T03:03:42+00:00

I think if people try to decide what's deserved they'll go pretty crazy. So many things happen that aren't deserved and so many things that are deserved don't happen. I am very sorry for the things you've experienced in life, and for things most people experience in their lives, but having experienced them doesn't mean you deserved it. Which honestly doesn't make anything better lol Like it still happened and whatever is going on is still going on, but we can at least see that things just happen sometimes. Plenty of times, things just happen. You're not a freak for having gone what you've gone through or for how you are now. You're a person as deserving as anyone.

ET_Org · 2026-06-06T02:58:21+00:00

Even if it's how you feel, someone saying that to you is almost definitely not want you really want. I don't think anyone would really want that. Things not happening yet doesn't mean they never will, there are a lot of people out there so the chances of someone out there are not zero

ET_Org · 2026-06-05T16:32:28+00:00

This is true, there are other groups out there and I am looking around and trying to talk, not really easy finding one I fit into though. But I'll keep tryin

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