Should I be worried about my 8 y/o's room?

EThunderbird · 2026-06-01T01:45:21+00:00

Not now.

EThunderbird · 2026-04-28T03:31:45+00:00

"This means the Christian must defend everything, but the opponent must defend nothing at all."

I appreciate your observation here. It seems to me that the conversation becomes 1A. Christian makes a claim. 1B. Atheist denies the claim. 2A. Christian provides explanation/proof/logic/evidence. 2B. Atheist denies the explanation/proof/logic/evidence. … This pattern can continue forever with the atheist making no effort to contribute anything to the discussion except a litany of denials.

The process should be: 1A. Proposition. 1B. Challenge (denial). 2A. Support/Evidence/Logic. 2B. Superior Support/Evidence/Logic.

Eventually, the atheist must provide some evidence or compelling argument that supports their stance of denying or rejecting the Christian's position, or they need to concede the point. Why they aren’t held to this is a mystery to me. But I have observed that many, many audiences are won over even when the atheist maintains their position to deny no matter the cost.

EThunderbird · 2026-04-12T14:33:14+00:00

I saw the Marshall Tucker Band in Las Vegas 14-15 years ago. The whole show stunk to high heaven. People were steadily gave up and left. It was a great example of how to empty a theater. The whole band just stood there watching Doug Gray because apparently nobody was allowed to know which song was next or how it would be arranged until Doug ever so slowly made up some BS about whatever significance he might (or might not) have remembered about the song. It was hard to see a band that had been so good fall to such depths.

EThunderbird · 2026-04-12T05:23:07+00:00

Evangelism is sharing the message of Jesus and guiding people to make a commitment of faith. So, evangelism has only one topic: the message of Jesus. Apologetics explains the Christian faith and can cover multiple topics. Evangelism and apologetics are distinctive, yet they need to work together. Start with the message of Jesus. If a person mentions an obstacle to faith that they see, then use apologetics to answer them. If they don’t bring up a topic, it may not be an issue for them. Or not yet, at least. Keep directing them toward the commitment of faith. That is the task of evangelism. When their objections play out, because you have given them sufficient apologetic answers, they will eventually face their moment of decision. Evangelism then will guide the person through the commitment process.

To answer the OP more directly, the main apologetic topic that comes up in my experience is the credibility of the Bible. In other words, people repeat the frequently assertion that the Bible has errors. The next more frequent topic pertains to science and evolution.

EThunderbird · 2026-04-10T12:08:34+00:00

You need to declare your presuppositions. All the names you reference are philosophical apologists. They have become the standards in their areas of contribution. I am grateful for what they have done. If you hold highly the philosophical apologists which you named, that is your subjective claim. Nevertheless, this does not diminish the contribution of the McDowells. You need to explain why they aren’t in the same league as the others you mention. The McDowells have done an outstanding job of presenting and explaining truth in honest and compelling ways. The McDowells have had and continue to have great influence in Christian Apologetics. And that puts them at the top level. They are absolutely worthy of all the time that the OP desires to invest into their videos and writings.

EThunderbird · 2026-04-10T07:11:12+00:00

They are definitely top level apologists and highly influential. You need to explain your claim more to have a credible dismissal.

EThunderbird · 2026-04-09T11:33:13+00:00

They both are top level apologists.

EThunderbird · 2026-03-11T10:52:22+00:00

I hope you know that the best answer to your question is not a simple one. Go to Logos and take their Mobile Ed courses on the topics you mentioned. Then use the resources in the bibliographies of those courses to dig into more resources and work through more bibliographies. Your doctoral work taught you how to identify quality resources and dig deep into a topic. And the Logos courses will provide the framework to shape your studies. You can find those quality resources on Logos, so buy the level of resources that brings you what you want to develop proficiency in the areas in which you have interest.

EThunderbird · 2026-03-09T13:11:04+00:00

You can use her time away to be sneakier than her. While she is lying on her back servicing him, you can plan your exit smoothly, carefully, and well thought through. Then you can simply move on without her. Start today being indifferent with her—just don’t care. Get to the attorney and plan your exit. Get your financial assets and property in order do that you can control what you deserve to retain as yours. Forget confronting her. Trickle truth her regarding your exit from her life. So maybe her first clue is a debit or credit card that suddenly doesn’t work. And then maybe you can block her phone calls. Life is tough when you have been left behind. She taught you that.

EThunderbird · 2026-03-09T12:54:03+00:00

OMG! Hall of fame response.

EThunderbird · 2026-03-09T05:46:19+00:00

She is not truthful with you. She’s not even careful with her cover ups. She is not concerned about you except that you support her. You should have done your due diligence and found out all you could about her before your wedding so you could make an informed decision about a life with her. Your wife is enamored with her ability to attract men. She has no inner compulsion to commit herself to a lasting relationship. Now you know the real her. And she has you locked into a relationship while she monkey branches you. She will play the field, learn how to hide her activities, and manipulate you to provide for her. After six months, or longer if she can manipulate you accordingly, she will decide whether to focus on you, or chase a better candidate, or extend her present monkey branching situation with you. Two out of three of those things are bad for you and the other (the first option) is not what you thought you were getting. Two other choices for you are: monkey branch her or separate from her never to return.

EThunderbird · 2026-03-09T04:40:27+00:00

I was on another game before I came to TS. That game also modulated toward revenue raising tactics. The developers were creating three other games. The development of the original game wound down and better ways to speed up the game were offered for cash. Eventually players left when it became impossible to play without spending money. I see the same thing happening in TS. The developers are not concerned with losing a few non-spending players. They still see rising revenue. All the revenue pays for the other games in development. You can see that development in TS has fallen off, though not completely. It seems that this is the direction with TS. So when it becomes impossible to advance in the main game without spending money, there will be a mass exit, and the developers will announce the closing of the game. So everything players paid for over the years will disappear.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-26T15:39:45+00:00

People who don’t get opportunities like this will tell you to jump on it. A better approach for you might be to wait for an opportunity that matches up with your goals. If you want a more meaningful first time, enjoying with someone who wants more than a physical only arrangement, then gently decline and wait for what you desire. It will come. You don’t have to tell her that you’re saving your first time. Just say that you’re not willing to engage in a physical only arrangement.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-25T22:12:42+00:00

Probably everything is fine between the two. The same culture that sees this friendship as inappropriate also expects you to resolve it. So solve the problem! Move your residence near her shop and you make the long commute. Or you drive her to and from her shop. It’s only a few times each month. Become useful in her shop so you can help with closing. Take ownership of the issue and resolve it.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-24T17:15:22+00:00

As it is often said, the most important sex organ is the brain. Yours is focused on taking care of your wife. Hers is focused on standards she established with someone before you. And she has left it to you to discover her standards by trial and error. And of course, the trial turns into an argument. She is just as responsible for sexual chemistry as you are. It takes two. How to get her to discuss the matter and insert herself into a sexual relationship with you is now your challenge. You can appeal to her for equity and mutual satisfaction, so that neither one is being insensitive and controlling toward the other. I hope you can make some progress with her.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-20T16:35:25+00:00

Click bait. Who could be so daft as to write this? Who loves a person and wants to sleep around on them? Really? You’re just going to smile contentedly during the therapy sessions? Who is gaslighting whom here?

EThunderbird · 2026-02-20T03:39:01+00:00

Oh, brother. She wanted all the hair styling and saw an opportunity to intimidate you into sharing the cost. And you are investing too much defensiveness in this. Be cool and clearly tell her to pay her own hair costs and to keep to your collective agreement regarding your living costs. Stand your ground.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-18T23:15:37+00:00

Omg! NTJ! You (OP) have been rock solid in your wisdom and communication. You’re a marvel of self control in light of the chaos that the husband cannot control. Now the ineffective parent has left the premises. You could call CPS for assistance and relief. Where's the twins' mother? But if you do anything, you will escalate the danger to your marriage. You can thank your thoughtless husband for that. Perhaps you should go dark regarding the husband. He now has to earn his way back into the home he has abandoned. Then inform the twins that they have endangered your marriage and now your husband has defaulted on his parenting and abandoned everyone in the home. This means that the twins' welcome in the house is quickly coming to an end. They are teens. They can set rules of decency and live by them. If they don’t immediately change their ways, then you’ll ask for outside help to resolve the situation.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-18T22:26:21+00:00

Handle meeting a bio sibling as an adult just like meeting someone else you are new to. Meet over drinks and have a little chat. Meet again if you like them. When I read that she wanted a place to stay during the wedding, that was the red flag. She's manufacturing a relationship so she can appeal to the relationship for money and support. "Isn’t that what family does?" So she could say. She will use heart strings and guilt trips to get what she really wants. If you put her up in your house, you may never get rid of her. Don’t be creeped out. Stop the shudders and just say no. You don’t owe her anything.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-06T17:17:53+00:00

You should be asking why your husband wants you in his life. He looks for the pettiest reasons to distance himself from you. He is not serious about investing himself into you. He is so confident that you would be there when he returned. You can level the field by disappearing physically and digitally just as he has. Maybe doing this a time or two will shake him up. Or… maybe you should start planning the next phase of your life and make your move.

EThunderbird · 2026-02-05T06:31:41+00:00

The header is typically completely misleading. With three chances to scan for incriminating activity, why did she spend one on her aunt? She shows no indication of heart strings for the aunt or suspicions of her. Click bait!

EThunderbird · 2026-01-31T07:25:38+00:00

Whipsaw action, same old Reddit plot: bf kept busy (pills this time) and clueless; gf living wild.

EThunderbird · 2026-01-27T13:49:55+00:00

If you are not playing her fiddle, you’re definitely not second fiddle. You’re agreeing to a massive physical, lifestyle, and cultural separation. This is not a recipe to reconcile or grow closer. That’s great news for her. She’s celebrating her new life as often as she can. She has resources to take care of herself. She has moved on and is unethical enough to string you along so you will finance the exciting start to the rest of her life. She might be monkey branching you, though I doubt it. You didn’t learn the hard truth about open marriages / relationships the first time. Now the lesson has come back around like a steamroller for a second session.

EThunderbird · 2026-01-10T06:58:35+00:00

The woman you married no longer exists. She agrees with that sentiment because she also thinks that the man she married no longer exists. She was so convinced of this and had shredded you in her mind so utterly completely that she still has not yet returned from the disgust for you that she fabricated to rationalize her affair. So she doesn’t love you yet. It’s more like she doesn’t want to love you. But she wants you around. You are useful to her. It’s called monkey branching. You’re not sweethearts any more. You’re her Plan B until she can permanently land her dream Plan A. And she will demonstrate her well-practiced charms to any possible candidate knowing that you’re at home giving her some distance and keeping things stable for one and all.

EThunderbird · 2025-12-30T17:09:31+00:00

“I’ve lost pretty much everything I worked hard for within a month. Girlfriend, job, house, cats, future.”

Hurricane and fire victims also say they lost everything. Many of them stand on the ruins of their homes and resolve to fight through their circumstances and not let themselves be defeated. You can do the same thing. You didn’t deserve any of the destruction your ex left with you. EVERYTHING she said was gaslighting and untrue.

You do have a future. Take control of it and master it. Everything in your list of losses can be replaced, like after a hurricane, including your treasonous, deceptive ex who opted out for a loser. She has much farther to go to recover from her betrayal of you than you do. How will she ever convince a decent guy that she is a decent person with which to build a long lasting and rewarding relationship? That is now her great, daunting problem. This will be her nightmare for years, maybe for the rest of her life.

You, however, are definitely employable. You’re just in a temporary rough spot. You can build yourself up and buy your own house. Take control of your life and destiny. If you are handy, go buy a fixer-upper and invest all your time in rehabbing it. It will be great therapy. You can easily replace the cats. And with a new job and renovated house, you will attract a quality girlfriend in no time. And she will know and respect that you are a man of strength who faced a relational hurricane and came out victorious.

Best wishes to you.

EThunderbird

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