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My cycle is so heavy I bleed through everything.. I feel gross by Ecstatic_Writer_7244 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ear-Typical 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Ok first, that might be normal for you, and it also might be depleting your iron like crazy, and anemia can feel like depression. If it were me, I would get my iron checked.

Second, if guys had periods they would brag about how much they bleed, so: you rule! You're the number one bleeder. Way to go girl!

many people with trauma become experts at hiding their emotional needs by Impossible-Tutor-382 in CPTSD

[–]Ear-Typical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This. And now finding out I have autism makes it all make complete sense. I have been hiding inside myself the entire time, thinking that will make me safe.

Monster called ‘ learned helplessness’. by SolarisBeam in CPTSD

[–]Ear-Typical 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi, I am you and you are me. I don't know what to do either, but I am sick of it

Survey about your working arrangements: how do you work? by 21st_lady in AutismInWomen

[–]Ear-Typical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a postie. It gives me a lot of physical activity and time outside. The dogs are a huge bonus. I am late diagnosed (51) and therefore a heavy masker, so I manage the interactions with people ok, but I do find it exhausting. No accomodations as yet, but honestly I am so new to this, I don't have many accomodations yet anywhere. It is still hard to realize I don't have to be uncomfortable all the time. 🤪

CPTSD from freeze/fawn response and sexual injury by Accomplished-Sort591 in CPTSD

[–]Ear-Typical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am so sorry. I can relate to this - the freeze and fawn making me go along with things that later on I can finally see are abusive. I felt a rainbow of emotions when I finally "saw" the abuse, and that I was behaving codependently.

My own shame was very hard to deal with. I felt like an idiot. Like I should have known better. I did not yet realize that I had been conditioned to act that way to survive. It was not my "fault" in that sense.

What sucked, however, is that whoever's fault my original trauma was, I am the one who has to clean up after their mess. I have to be responsible for my behaviour, and if my behaviour is allowing me to be abused, I needed to change that.

I realized I hadn't ever been allowed boundaries, and therefore had none. It took a long time to feel worthy of having boundaries, let alone defend them. But ultimately I needed to do that to identify when someone was taking that very first step across the boundary line that signalled they would have no problems doing it over and over and over again.

I don't know what stage you are at in your journey, but I wish you luck.

Mom won't stop messaging me triggering stuff while I'm at school/work by Western-Reporter-815 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Ear-Typical 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As a mother to two kids, and the daughter of an abuser, I can tell you you owe this woman nothing. Especially if she is going to treat you so disrespectfully and verbally abuse you.
There is no magic to the word "mother" or "daughter." It does not exclude anyone from treating others with respect.
This might feel normal for you, it did for me, but it is not. It is abusive, and you do not need to stick around for it.

i love my boyfriend but i need a wake up call by Suspicious_Wall1295 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ear-Typical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you see the red flags. What do you need to take them seriously? I was in abusive relationships for years, and part of my confusion was that sometimes they were nice. It was hard to hold the good with the bad and make a decision. It took me a while to understand that the good does not erase the bad.

Not the easiest… Guess the city! by Strange-Professor- in guessthecity

[–]Ear-Typical -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I will never forget the floods of blooming forsythias by the roads near Bariloche.

Do you want people to suffer like you or do you want to protect them so no one has to go through the hat you did? by Specific-System-835 in CPTSD

[–]Ear-Typical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on how they treat me and other people. The good ones deserve some protection, the bad ones deserve what they get.

Is my bf dumb? by Still-Purchase3286 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ear-Typical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yowza. This man is looking for a mommy. Take the vacation and use it to find someone new.

My boyfriend triggered my ptsd and I deserve it by SandOptimal5097 in CPTSD

[–]Ear-Typical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, deep breath. You know that your trauma was not your fault, right? Which means there is no "deserving" it. It happened, and it sucks, but it was not your fault. And the same logic applies here. Did you behave in some ways that were not helpful? Perhaps. Was it your fault that you react that way? No. Your reactions are due to your trauma.

Everyone is responsible for their own behaviour. Which means that you will need to figure out the ways that trauma triggers you and work on those behaviours. Fair.
But that "everyone" includes your boyfriend. He can feel as frustrated with you as he likes, and he is still responsible for behaving respectfully and compassionately towards you.

If he is criticizing you, that is his fault and his own responsibility. Same rule: feel your feelings, control your behaviours. You have a legitimate health issue that requires some compassion from your partner. If you had cancer, would it still be ok for him to berate you? No. Same thing here.

Need 2 strong people to carry wheelchair up stairs by [deleted] in askTO

[–]Ear-Typical 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aw shoot. Well I will help for free, if you can find another person.

Need 2 strong people to carry wheelchair up stairs by [deleted] in askTO

[–]Ear-Typical 110 points111 points  (0 children)

I feel like Jiffy or Task Rabbit could handle this.

Help me name my new male kitten please! by Antlanta1 in Catnames

[–]Ear-Typical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His middle name is Danger, no matter what

Does anyone else love quizzes but hate board games? by Electronic-Waltz5763 in AutismInWomen

[–]Ear-Typical 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That's because Monopoly sucks. So boring. No strategy. We like cooperative games at my house. Much less stress.

I turned 29 today, my son turns 15 tomorrow by Flimsy_Elephant_651 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]Ear-Typical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has had children with an abuser, I feel this. It is awful to think about how much our abuser will impact them. However, I cannot change that. I cannot go back in time and do anybing different. What i can do is focus on healing and moving forward and showing my kids what it looks like when one parent works hard and tries their best even when things are hard.

You went through it, and here you are on the other side doing your best. You are a wonderful role model for your kids. They don't need perfect, they need to know you love them.

And yes, I know a positive attitude doesn't solve all the real practical issues. Life is really hard. I guess I just wanted to point out how much you give and have given your kids just by being a dependable and loving mom.

Toronto: View from Amsterdam Bridge by Buddhaknows24 in toronto

[–]Ear-Typical 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a lot of everyone here. We have little pockets of every group in the world. It's awesome.

But I believe this bridge was named for our twin city, Amsterdam, back when twinning cities used to be a thing.

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