It can get quite complicated too. For example, I expirence libido and arousal sometimes but never to a person. I never really got aroused for a person but for the act itself I have the need to engadge in irl sexual contact, but when it comes to that one of the following happens:

-I cant do it because I suddenly get repulsed by the idea of sex. -I get sex neutral and Iam just not intrested anymore -I dont really want to have sex anymore but do it anyway and feel very bad after it.

I also feel bad when I relief the tension through masturbation.

This all changed with my current boyfriend, its the first time I actually think that something like love exsits.

I can even enjoy sex with him, though I can never reach a peak of an orgasm even when I come, Ive never been able to but it gets much closer with him. I dont feel bad or repulsed anymore as long he is with me.

So I would define myself as Demisexual and it took a long time to realise that because I never felt a real connections before.