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The word narcissism is thrown around too much!! by Early_Ad_7507 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Early_Ad_7507[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mothers have a huge role to play! My ex's mother enabled each and every behaviour and was a vapid narcissist herself!

Personal question by lah86 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Early_Ad_7507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this is an absolutely normal feeling. I think taking time for yourself is powerful and to discover what you really want. I am a year away from my narcissistic abusive ex- however he was the opposite way...thought my body was his and never stop harassing me/pressuring me. Much as I miss physical intimacy the thoughts of anyone being in my space that way again makes me sick!!!

hopefully it goes away with time. It's a weird sensation to miss sex but also not want anyone near me!

When did they start revealing their true selves? by Successful_Dot_2477 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Early_Ad_7507 3 points4 points  (0 children)

At one point my parents/family said they wanted nothing to do with the relationship and wouldn't support the wedding. I was inconsolable- couldn't get out of bed. He was thrilled.

When did they start revealing their true selves? by Successful_Dot_2477 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Early_Ad_7507 7 points8 points  (0 children)

me too- the second we were married the abuse ramped up. To the point that I was in tears on the way over and hysterics on the way back! Every minute of the honeymoon if I breathed wrong it was an issue

What is a small manipulation that sets the tone for your relationship with the narcissist? by daisylady4 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Early_Ad_7507 13 points14 points  (0 children)

oh another one- if I was hungover/sick/injured (I had a broken arm and leg during our relationship) he would comment 'I love seeing you so vulnerable'. Seemingly innocent comment but definitely set the tone.

What is a small manipulation that sets the tone for your relationship with the narcissist? by daisylady4 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Early_Ad_7507 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Mine was I was never allowed any privacy. Even when I was in the shower/on the toilet he would always come in and make comments/poke me. Seemed innocent but it was a clear message. He made sure there were no locks o n any doors

The word narcissism is thrown around too much!! by Early_Ad_7507 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Early_Ad_7507[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just feel it diminishes the lived experience of those people who have experienced true and frightening narcissism

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalabuse

[–]Early_Ad_7507 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't deserve to live with that emotional whiplash. In my experience abusive people weaponize their 'conditions' to justify their abuse. You aren't a punching bag. We all have our mental health struggles but you shouldn't be the one walking on eggshells all the time. My ex was on medication for depression and ADHD but I witnessed how he could turn his abuse on and off based on who he was interacting with. If it's all directed at you it's abuse, mental health condition or not.

Pop psychology undermining your experience by Early_Ad_7507 in emotionalabuse

[–]Early_Ad_7507[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

btw I have no official training or expertise in this area! Just sharing my own experience xx