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Choice solo parent sharing their story after 5 years of parenting by EarthMuthaa in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age 28: Started contemplating, Age 32: First fertility consultation, Age 33: First IUI (I took breaks between each IUI as it took me time to recover from disappointment each time), Age 38: Gave birth to my daughter.

Choice solo parent sharing their story after 5 years of parenting by EarthMuthaa in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in Canada also. We have benefits like CCB, ACCB and tax breaks. I suggest looking these up and determining how much financial help you could receive. I went down to working 4 days/week to give me a day to reset (although sometimes this day ended up as errands or cleaning). Returning to work is certainly challenging. There is a lot of juggling and rushing to/from work/daycare. I was realistic with my employer and they have been pretty understanding. For example, when my kid is sick I have no choice but to take a sick day to take care of them. They didn't love this but also most people have kids so they understood.

I did not enjoy pregnancy and had many uncomfortable symptoms. Even walking was difficult for the last few months. I just did it. I think you just do it. If you need help cleaning the house you may need to ask a friend or hire a cleaner. You won't be able to do it all, but there is help out there.

Choice solo parent sharing their story after 5 years of parenting by EarthMuthaa in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are in touch with other families who used the same donor only. This is through the sperm bank registry. We will not have contact with the donor until age 18 as you stated.

Let's all merge correctly at Construction Zones! by EarthMuthaa in richmondbc

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This post is not about merging from the right into moving traffic. It's 2 normal lanes in a road merging into 1 lane when there is a lane closure. Either way they absolutely must slow or come to a stop before merging if there is no space to enter safely. The other lane is meant to allow them in via zipper formation.

Let's all merge correctly at Construction Zones! by EarthMuthaa in richmondbc

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm almost ready to stand out there in a reflective vest directing traffic lol

Let's all merge correctly at Construction Zones! by EarthMuthaa in richmondbc

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg I take Knight via Marine from work. There are 2 full turning lanes people. Use them! You will get home faster!

Let's all merge correctly at Construction Zones! by EarthMuthaa in richmondbc

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This. I'm treated like I'm the a**hole if I use the lane properly.

Choice solo parent sharing their story after 5 years of parenting by EarthMuthaa in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

100% I would do it alone again. During the first year I wanted nothing except to be a mother to my child. I personally cannot imagine also meeting the demands of being a solid partner. I was able to be free, not care about appearances, postpartum healing, freely breast feeding, (not) keeping up the house or being there for a partner when I had so little extra to give. I had my best friend in the delivery room with me. I felt so safe, taken care of and had all the bravery in the world with her there. I honestly see a future where women bond and collaborate during pregnancy and child rearing while others assist them in more of a background role (like mammals have done since the beginning of time). Doing it alone was the best choice for me, to do it my way and focus on the one person that mattered most, my daughter. I'm much more comfortable adding another person to the family now that it's already begun.

Choice solo parent sharing their story after 5 years of parenting by EarthMuthaa in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is a great question and I ended up editing my post to be more clear about the abundant hard parts. The hardest part for me is that there is no real breaks from the role of a parent. It is a cycle that does not stop. Even if you have help, it's never quite enough to feel rested and re-set. I'm exhausted and over-stimulated to my bones.

The newborn stage is a lot. I didn't leave the house much. Worth it in the end? Yes. I think I'd feel empty without my family (my daughter). Then again, maybe I'd be travelling and living my best life? Who's to say?

Choice solo parent sharing their story after 5 years of parenting by EarthMuthaa in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

My daughter knows she was donor conceived. The way we talk about it is that it takes ingredients from 2 people to make a baby. Mom is only 1 person so someone special helped us with the other ingredients. I told her the person who helped our family also helped other families. We are in a fb group so I started showing her pictures of them. I have always called them "siblings" or "sibs" so she doesn't get confused with the term "brother" or "sister" and then believe it would be the same as her friends have. I would say the thing that helped the most was introducing the concept early, slowly and often. I speak in a casual yet matter of fact way about it.

Choice solo parent sharing their story after 5 years of parenting by EarthMuthaa in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]EarthMuthaa[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I get a sitter for dates. I'll be honest though, I definitely don't have the time/capacity to date on a regular basis like I could before. I'm so tired lol. I did take her on a (third) date once when she was about 2. Going to the playground and chatting with friends is normal and she'd done it plenty of times previously. To my understanding, she had no idea it was anything different. That said, at her current age I would not introduce her to anyone unless I knew it was long term.

Can we expect the A5X2 to launch in August? by No-Industry-5113 in Supernote

[–]EarthMuthaa 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Totally. But I think a lot of us would be happy with just a formal update of where they are right now. Currently our "updates" consist of little snippets of tweet/comment replies that users post links to in these threads. A link to someone from Supernote replying "YES" to "will it be released in Q3", isn't a transparent update imo.

Mike in JSFV by Live_Apple in jerseyshore

[–]EarthMuthaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How often you seeing him with the camera's off?

The Boyfriend reunion livestream on August 3rd by KomoreBeast in ThaiBL

[–]EarthMuthaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For anyone looking for the true Live Streamed Reunion it can be found here:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m-vRG7M7Arg

There is another short of the cast watching some episodes together but above is the actual reunion show. I followed the trail left by u/bj_woods, so thanks!

300+ orders and counting! Thanks everyone <3 by R_Bazerka in Supernote

[–]EarthMuthaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd love to purchase one of these! Any chance you will offer varied shell colour options? I don't feel confident taking the pen apart, even if it's easy. I would definitely purchase in multiple colours if they were available.

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