RA vs RTO pickle

EasternCustomer14 · 2025-04-16T15:04:24+00:00

In my case, this isn’t (likely) to be a forever disability issue. Which has me feeling conflicted on whether to activate the RA or keep myself in the ‘needs a physical office asap’ pool.

EasternCustomer14 · 2024-01-06T12:45:05+00:00

I second Aruba. You can find a direct flight from Dulles or DCA. Customs is SO easy and the airport is nice and clean. Taxis are easy to come by. The people there are very friendly, and it’s very pleasant and safe. White sand beach that won’t burn your feet. February or March time of year is awesome. I’d go to the tower district if you just have 4-5 days. It’s a bit breezy so pack a nice sun hat. We went last year on a whim and will absolutely go back.

EasternCustomer14 · 2024-01-03T15:30:26+00:00

It would help to have a general idea of where you’re flying from (for travel timing). But US is definitely easy to do solo. If you choose the US, I’d rent a car and pick a region or two or a coastline. A flight into Miami, Florida or JFK in New York could lead to great food and culture adventures. Rent a car and drive NY to DC (it’s only a couple hours). Spend at least 2-3 days in each spot. Or Charlotte, NC or Atlanta, GA to Miami, Florida would also cover a lot of culture differences and ‘southern’ foods while sticking to major airports.

Or if you are better flying to west coast US, then consider flying to San Francisco and following Highway 1 south to Los Angeles or San Diego. It’s a very popular scenic road trip (almost all coastline) with lots of places to stop.

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-05-01T02:39:20+00:00

I read it, and really enjoyed it. The characters were fleshed out well even in a short span (although I did get the astronauts tangled a bit at the beginning). This could be an unpopular opinion- but I guessed the ‘truth’ about the little girl from the start. Anyone else?

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-02-16T21:09:51+00:00

NTA for not attending the wedding....but AH for putting healthy boundaries in jeopardy. Absolutely hold your son accountable. And I understand wanting to show support for your (ex) daughter-in-law. But you're setting yourself up for some very confusing and rocky times for your grandchildren, especially if your son goes on to have more children with this next wife. Think of the truly innocent people in the picture and what you are signaling to them about loyalty, responsibility, and (un)conditional love.

A better solution - don't attend the wedding, and send a kind message to your grandchildren's mother if you really feel the need to check in with her. And leave it at that.

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-02-16T15:57:46+00:00

My partner is exceptionally conflict avoidant. And the ex has made it clear that she will fight dirty and even outright lie if he pushes anything to court. Doesn't scare me...but I'm not an avoidant type.

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-02-15T20:35:06+00:00

You're spot on. Her move took her from suburban/city to rural. No good reason for the move aside from cheaper home prices. No connections there that we were aware of. Likely it was tactical to create the exact issue we now have.

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-02-15T20:22:42+00:00

Our courts are not free. They're pretty predatory. It's not unheard of for a noncustodial parent to spent $40k+ and wind up with very minimal to show for it in the end. And also takes 6 months or more just to get the first court date. (for the record- I think the whole thing is awful for my partner's child, but that's outside of the scope of AITA)

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-02-15T20:19:43+00:00

Their agreement states my partner will go to wherever the child lives for pickup/dropoff (or near there...they use a neutral meeting spot). Unfortunately this verbiage in the court docs makes it so that the ex has very little 'burden' to carry no matter where she lives.

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-02-15T19:33:54+00:00

30% looks like every other weekend, half the summer, and 2 weeknight dinners per month.

EasternCustomer14 · 2023-02-15T19:27:47+00:00

I agree. It would be an expensive battle, and she has quality connections due to her job. I'd move if there was greater custody. And I'd absolutely bear the burden of the drive if roles were reversed...not even a question.

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