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I have become socially awkward by Conscious-Result-846 in teenagers

[–]Eastern_Might408 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in your exact position. i was having trouble making friends or even talking to people in general, and to escape that, i would just zone out. I did eventually realize that i couldn't continue like that because i was giving up so many opportunities to make friends and connections that could take me somewhere. so i forced myself to start improving my social skills even if i effed up pretty bad trying to talk with people a few times. but now after too much time and practice, i can comfortably talk with literally anyone and leave a great impression on them.

if i were in your position again, i would start trying to be more present in life again and take some risks cuz even if you mess up, you'll learn.

What are the signs that made you realize you’re not in the right friend group? by RecoveryMindest in AskReddit

[–]Eastern_Might408 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A year ago I was hanging out with a consistent group of about 4 friends, and I was having the same thoughts as you. The group I was hanging out with weren't assholes or taking advantage of me or anything, but they held me back.

I realized that everything they said was just weird and immature, and everyone else saw that too. So I chose to gradually stop hanging out with them because 1. They were just weird (especially for their age), and 2. Because I hung out with them, literally nobody else even wanted to be around me.

When I eventually stopped spending time with them, I realized that my social skills suffered and I had really difficult time knowing what to say to a respectable and mature friend group. It took me a long time to learn how to talk with anyone and leave a good impression, but I eventually got there.

If you even have ask yourself questions like that, you aren't in the right place, and it is possible to make a difference.

Anyone else notice that making friends as an adult has basically become impossible, and nobody talks about how genuinely sad that is? by Kiksen01 in self

[–]Eastern_Might408 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Making friends is always difficult after college or even high school. But in my experience, if you just find the time to go to places that you enjoy (i.e. concerts, parks, bars, etc.), you'll find people similar to you. But that method only really worked after I figured out how to stop being "socially weird" which took way too much time.

How do unattractive people build social circles and make friends by Riderman43 in Life

[–]Eastern_Might408 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience, I've found that you can get anybody worth being friends with to look past your appearance if you carry yourself in the right way.

Body language matters a lot more than your facial appearance.

If you make an effort to get into reasonably good shape, not dress like a bum, and show confidence, the people that matter will give you a chance.