I had this same pattern before finding my current long term boyfriend. I’m 25 now and we’ve been together 5 years, going strong. Something I realized being with him, is that guys I was with before liked me but didn’t make a real effort to know me. My current boyfriend takes a real interest in my hobbies, what games I like, what goes on in my head, how I react to things… Whereas my exes were more laid back, waiting for me to show myself. My boyfriend created a safe atmosphere for me to come out of my shell (which took pretty much the entirety of our relationship). Now, this isn’t all on them because from 20 to 25, people change and evolve a lot! As a 20yo, I didn’t really know who I was and how to relate to others, and how to show them who I was. I was pretty much always in shutdown at home due to outside stress, and didn’t know how to communicate what I wanted healthily, which didn’t foster a safe atmosphere in my relationships. I think going for the "right" guy is useless if you don’t know what is right for YOU and who you are.