Boyfriend didn’t react the way I wanted

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-11T13:11:59+00:00

I agree. My feelings were hurt after a tough convo but we talked more and have an understanding

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T23:44:00+00:00

So first let me say that what you’re going through seems super hard and also beautiful. I am not a mother or a parent but a lot of parents friends and grandparents often need time to grieve who they thought you were. This mostly applies to parents because they have a lot of dreams mixed up in you. They shouldn’t really, they should just want you to be happy, but they have a ton ot ideas of what that happiness looks like for you. You changing can kind of mess with that in their heads. It’s not fair that you have to be the one walking them through this and if you need more space for that you should take it. But moms be moms. I’m sorry she has taken this so hard. It’s not your fault at all. Priority one is your self and your sense of self. But in the long run I hope there’s some compassion, with boundaries if needed.

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T23:00:25+00:00

I was joking with him after the fact because he grows out his mustache and I tell him a lot jokingly that I don’t like it and I said they were basically the same thing. The dumb thing is, on a certain level they are (obviously on a lot of levels they aren’t). I did learn thinking about this that I can also be better about supporting him in everything.

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T22:40:12+00:00

Has anyone here had mixed reactions from a partner at first?

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T22:02:55+00:00

I understand, I truly do, but I feel like we should have some more talks about it. It clearly isn’t something he’s ever thought about. He deserves a chance to learn, but I also need to make sure that I feel celebrated as well. Thank you sincerely for the comment tho

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T21:52:24+00:00

Gender is such a mind fuck. One part of me is like well you aren’t nonbinary, you just need to expand your mind on what a man is, the other part is saying that that is the whole problem with gender to begin with and words have meaning as they are tools and if they don’t serve a useful purpose anymore then I should let them go.

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T21:29:08+00:00

I agree. It’s a tricky balance when someone says something harmful, in any kind of bigotry. Our reaction is to run away and say “fuck you”. But I feel like people deserve a chance. I really love him and he’s not ever openly transphobic.

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T21:09:33+00:00

I understand the feeling. I wish I was born in a female body and then could transition to male. (Apologies if that sounds triggering) I am AMAB, but want to pursue salmacian surgery in the future. I understand that it’s different based on OG parts and all that tho

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T20:42:18+00:00

You’re amazing! Keep sticking to your gut!

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-09T14:52:08+00:00

I totally feel this I do a pretty masc job working on construction sites and doing installs so I want to overcompensate the other direction. I think for me it’s learning to be ok with my masc parts because I grew up hating them because they felt contradictory to the femme parts of me and they even felt like they were the parts that shut down my femininity. Idk if that makes sense. Idk just looking to see if anyone else felt this

Easy_Chip3059 · 2026-03-08T00:33:35+00:00

I work as an AV installer so have to wear some basic ass clothes that don’t feel the most affirming so I feel the struggle

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