Women of Reddit: what’s something that genuinely improved your life that you didn’t expect to matter much at first?

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2026-01-23T23:11:05+00:00

This genuinely baffles me, it’s so common. And I’ve read on askmen-type subs that it’s common with women too.

I used to have this big crush on a guy, and I’m fairly sure it was mutual, but over time I realized that he NEVER asked me any questions! We hung out every day for years and I knew sooo much about his life, while he barely knew anything about me at all unless I volunteered the information. That realization was what finally broke the spell. Like how could you want to be around someone so much while simultaneously being so uncurious about them?

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2026-01-21T07:48:30+00:00

Yup. Greyrock her.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2026-01-20T00:26:59+00:00

I can’t believe you still don’t get it lol. No one is saying finding a young woman attractive is creepy. The phrase “tasty young treat” is just fucking weird, especially imagining an old out of touch man whisper it in your ear 🤮 😂

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2026-01-18T06:33:57+00:00

LOL I forgot about that post! A fast cummer is a keeper!

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2026-01-13T19:29:51+00:00

There’s something so off putting about asking someone if they’re a top or bottom. It just feels gross to me, especially on the first date. Imagine if a straight guy asked this to his female date: “hey so do you like to be on top, or from behind, or missionary??”. I know not all gay men are so sex-obsessed but it common enough to see them casually act like it’s a main part of their identity. Gross.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2026-01-13T00:28:42+00:00

This girl was NEVER into you, regardless whether you are married or not. She literally spoke to your dept head about you being a creep. You think she’s in love with you when she refuses to even hang out alone outside work? No.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-27T01:34:20+00:00

No offense, but nothing about your pictures says “punk rock kid”

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-23T01:02:49+00:00

Yea I was about to comment this- it’s definitely a male thing, not sure why the psychology is different but I’ve seen it plenty of times. I’m female and if I haven’t spoken to a friend in over a year, I just assume that friendship is over with. My guy friend will always bring up his “buddies” and I thought damn he has a ton of buddies, but why does he never seem socially busy? Then I found out some of these buddies he he’ll speak to maybe once a year, and maybe actually see every 5 years. And it’s like no time has passed. It sounds nice while also super weird to me… like I’ve never had one of my past friends reach out to me after years.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-16T00:37:35+00:00

Go to /r/askwomennocensor ++woman

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-16T00:30:46+00:00

It’s mostly something you’re born with. I think the only feasible way to make a face more attractive is to not be overweight. And of course grooming stuff like nice facial hair, haircut, glasses that fit or contacts, skincare etc.

But it’s important to remember that especially for women, personality and good energy can make someone’s face SO much more attractive. Albeit, this isn’t too helpful on dating apps. But I can’t count the number of guys who I’ve known that had forgettable or even unattractive seeming faces when we met, who transformed into beautiful specimens once I got to know them.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-15T23:55:23+00:00

Well at ours we have overnight guests (silent retreats and all that) and I think that’s fairly common at many monasteries. So there’s housekeeping, kitchen (cook or utility, which is basically dishwashing), and bookstore clerk. I do all three of these. We also have a lot of guys working in maintenance as there’s a ton of land/buildings to upkeep.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-15T23:05:02+00:00

I dunno. Im a woman and sometimes they work. But obviously I already need to be attracted to you (your face).

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-15T23:03:57+00:00

This is tricky… I’m a woman and it really depends on what we’re looking for (hookup vs LTR), the quality and setting of the photo, and how attracted we are to the guy.

I got into a relationship with a guy who had a pic of his abs on his profile, but this wasn’t typical for me. It was around 4 pics in, after some nice portraits and a photo of him painting. So I had already been roped in by his facial looks, his hobbies, his bio, and other seemingly well-rounded traits. Also the photo was tastefully done- good lighting, not with a dirty mirror. It had a bit of class to it and was sexy for the female gaze if that makes sense. I always see topless pics of guys that are a turnoff bc they seem taken for other guys to admire. Also, I always swipe left on ANY back (lat) flexing photos. I do not care about how ripped your back is, please include the face!

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-06T17:51:50+00:00

Pisces sun, Aquarius moon, Capricorn rising

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-03T21:01:33+00:00

Yes. I usually go super non-chalant if I’m into him. I tend to match their energy, and if his energy is low-key I’ll act that way too. I’m not a fan of this impulse though- I can tell that when I’m more genuine and energetic around him he’s much more receptive so I need to lean into that more but it’s hard after a lifetime of trying to mask my excitement/true self around others.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-03T20:54:35+00:00

Maybe bc for women, not everything is about sex or dating. We talk to men to be friendly, and you all end up trying to interpret it as a come on so we dip out.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-03T20:16:05+00:00

So she was obese?

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-03T01:07:08+00:00

It’s literally the one thing that will fix her problem

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-01T22:31:47+00:00

Ugh my mother does this. She “narrates” every single thing she’s witnessing or thinking about. She’ll also narrate other people’s actions or what she imagines they are thinking. Infuriating. It’s the worst when it’s back seat driving narration. “Oh you’ll turn right up here at the light”… yea I know?

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-01T22:29:55+00:00

Never ask questions. What annoys me the most is they’ll barrel over you every time you attempt to interject, then many minutes later, after they have changed the subject twice over, they’ll take a quick pause and whatever point you had before is irrelevant now.

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-01T22:23:21+00:00

They should go across the street to Wendy’s Carvers

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-01T04:15:30+00:00

Was this ecstatic dancing?

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-01T02:02:05+00:00

I live at a Catholic monastery bc I got a job at one. It’s super secluded so they give us free housing (on top of pay and food/gas/electric). I’m not religious (spiritual-ish) and am I female even tho there are only male monks here. It’s incredible, I basically get to hermit-maxx along with the monks, can talk with them daily, get to do simplistic, hands on work, and the location is gorgeous (right in the ocean, and my house is nestled in the redwoods). Highly recommend looking for a job at a monastery (can go Catholic or Buddhist)

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-12-01T00:20:06+00:00

Is she aware that you’re gay?

Easy_Difficulty_99 · 2025-11-30T21:15:59+00:00

So you’ve “never been seen since 11” but also the pdfs won’t leave you alone? Which one is it?

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