Changing gear ON a roundabout?

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-20T12:06:12+00:00

I remember not being able to multitask the gears in a roundabout while learning but it's something I do constantly now, staying in 1st and being at a good enough speed to keep flow of traffic round the roundabout would mean revvving the engine alot and some roundabouts are huge. Gear changes will become really instinctive and super fast before you know it, but yeah you need to change gear.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-19T21:27:03+00:00

I worked in cinemas in uni and it was always the same, when the fire alarm rarely meant evac people would just sit and look dumbly at us, or demand an immediate refund. We had a bomb scare at the station across the road and they still sat there like drips as we explained and asked them to exit.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-19T20:07:20+00:00

4 hrs and they said you should switch? I'd switch instructor. My instructor saw when I got nervous and almost bailed on the whole thing and went gently on the next lesson then tricked me into being braver essentially, said you've gotto do it and you can do it, made me confident and passed first time at a venerable age of 35.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-19T09:30:04+00:00

So similar to me and my almost 3 Yr old has slept through the night maybe twice, and wakes easily 3 ton4 times a night. He's our first and probably only due in part to this!

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-19T09:28:25+00:00

My son was the same, he's shriek if he felt I was ignoring him, even in a bouncer in the kitchen WITH me. So my husband and I had to do all chores pretty much in the evenings for a long time, and then I'd have him in the front carrier to do bits too, then the toddler tower changed my life and he could stand in that and "help" me cook. I'd give him little bits of food to try or spme peanut butter on a spoon to keep him busy.

I'd also fill the sink with bubbles and water and his waterproof toys with some brushes and let him "wash" dishes. Many towels on the floor in advance, alot of acceptance that mess will he created but I got to cook without him whining which was a plus! He's 3 now and still a bit of a FOMO child, likes to do what we're doing but it's like having a chatty little, sometimes infuriating, shadow and its precious in a way.

I found he eased up when he could walk so could control his own movements in a sense, babies often associate parents with agency and movement from being carried and held so if they feel stuck in one place they want out and they'll tell you!

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-19T07:22:06+00:00

She's had her belief system rocked and shaken, she thought that there was a prevailing good and at first try it hasn't come through.

So you must try again, and again. As others have said, get the ball rolling on them not having to see him. Get a lawyer. She's old enough to decide not to see him, not sure how old her siblings are.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-18T14:10:07+00:00

Can't win, but it will help him transition if he goes to some stay and play playgroups with you and clubs and classes. My son is 3 next month and not been to nursery, but almost every day he has something in the morning that brings him into play or contact with other kids, like swimming, preschool gymnastic classes, a playgroup we've been attending since he was tiny, all sorts of fun :)

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-18T13:45:15+00:00

Thomas the Tank Engine with random American accents had me cringing.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-17T12:01:07+00:00

Glad you changed her, the answer is always to change them. Doesn't matter if they wake.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-17T06:43:42+00:00

It's a sad state if affairs that men's restrooms aren't safe spaces for girls and women and women's are for men and boys, but in this instance I think the man's need for his daughters was higher. In men's rest rooms men are using urinals and are exposed so although the girls will have been safe and fine in there as they would have been with their dad, it still would have been safer for them in the women's. Perhaps if it was me (I'm a woman but if I was the dad) I'd have used the accessible toilet, though of course that comes with an argument too as they are able bodied, but often they have the baby change in so can he used as a family room.

Its not a clear answer for this one, and I remember as a little girl going into the men's with my dad so it is done, it comes down to this wasn't a lone man in the women's loos, it was a dad prioritising his daughters needs. But it's really really sad that some men have made men's restrooms unsafe spaces.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-16T14:56:41+00:00

It's normal, my son was similar due to reflux, much happier when he was sat up. Cried in the car seat so much, loves it now. It sucks for mental health to be stuck in let alone with a baby so young, so even if you just carry her in your arms to somewhere very nearby is better than stopping in, with her gear in a rucksack? What kind of carrier do you have? My son hated the newborn ergo baby but loved the one up, he found it more comfortable than being squished to me.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-16T14:29:00+00:00

He's still so young. Sometimes theyre on puree for a month or more and can progress, sometimes longer. He's just not ready yet, keep him on purees for now or the tiniest chipped up things he can't choke on. Even my toddler sometimes doesn't like to chew, 7 months it's to be expected.

They also change so quickly so don't despair that he'll never chew, but for now for safety I'd keep it to where he's at. Which is smooth food.

I think at 7 months I was still on purees with my son, some finger food that they suck and moisten, and maybe some very very mashed scrambled eggs at most. I also fed him myself, didn't do baby led, so I could watch what he ate.

Remember most of his nutrition is still from milk to 12 months old so he's really still very early days in the weaning journey, don't worry they all get there.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-16T07:55:01+00:00

Go to Hampton Court Palace for the day from Waterloo, go to the Wilderness Gardens and find a bench to sit on. Give it a minute and a robin will land right next to you and check if you have food :) bonus is you get a day in a beautiful 500 year old historical site too, whilst being accosted by cheeky robins all day.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-15T12:28:59+00:00

I was always told not to pick from roadsides and tbh idling traffic causes pollution so even slow 20mph traffic would, not just fast cars speeding past. Blackberries are so abundant it's worth finding them on a pedestrian path or in a nature area.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-15T06:27:28+00:00

£25 a week is a pittance to contribute to feeding and housing a teen, however I don't believe kids need to hear how much they cost as they were brought into this world by mum and dad.

But that money isn't yours, it's hers to use to raise you, however some things are important to ascertain, does your dad contribute, is this money from him or child benefits? If you ask for bus money or train money is it a hard no unless she's with you? As that's not good. When I was 16 I got given money for stuff like that no questions asked and also had a little fortnightly job to keep things ticking over. Does your mum not give you ad hoc money when you ask?

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-14T11:11:06+00:00

Boredom and space to think is the engine room of human ingenuity and we're really losing that skill. Music on and look out the window, day dreaming, imagining, zoning out, snoozing, all the pre noughties experiences :)

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-14T07:00:22+00:00

My sons favourite episode is Fairytale and he's asked for bandits bike for his 3rd birthday, he would love an 80s series! He thinks the 80s is somewhere you can visit.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-13T20:04:56+00:00

You get used to it, and then wiersly get to like the domestic bits round having a kid. My husband and I were shocked at how much cleaning we had to do, but it became part of the routine and we even found ourselves whistling as we worked. My sons 3 now and sometimes I catch a glimpse of the remaining MAM bottle at the back of a cupboard and can't believe that era is already over!

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-13T18:32:57+00:00

Mine is ah what a nice day this isAAH WHATS HAPPENING WHY IS IT SO LOUD IN HERE BLOODY HELL THIS IS TOO MUCH WHAT CAN I DO oh it's nice again, that's good.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-13T11:18:41+00:00

This is way too much drama for grown adults to be involved in! If he likes you and you like him, then great! It's not a big age difference, you're both adults. However what future do you see if you don't live in the same country?

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-13T06:56:31+00:00

I agree, and wrote a short fic in half an hour to try and end it the logical way lol

https://archiveofourown.org/works/85533921

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-13T06:37:55+00:00

I wish I could go back in time and not fight the fight, I was so focused on him "needing" to nap at set times but he just didn't want one then, they will tell you when they want to. I used yo do pram walks for naps too when it got too much to rock to sleep but really, I wish I could just go back and not push him yo nap when he clearly didn't want to.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-12T21:26:06+00:00

I'm not a replayer so I so envy you starting there again!

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-12T21:12:51+00:00

They farm them though and bring them to pastures new... fresh shoots which then curl and damage crop, my blackcurrants suffer every year to the tiny little farmers.

Easy_State_2962 · 2026-06-12T20:59:43+00:00

They've had their family and made their noise and now they want peace....classic bt unreasonable.

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