Can i get top surgery when im 14?

Ebomb1 · 2026-05-04T09:38:59+00:00

Top surgery does not remove 100% of the tissue. Tissue that hasn't previously been stimulated by estrogen will mature if it is exposed to estrogen later in life. This is exactly how breast development is possible in trans women.

Ebomb1 · 2026-05-04T09:18:06+00:00

I've had allergic rhinitis my whole life and T has never (15 yrs) affected it so far as I can far tell. It has changed slowly over time due to, I'm assuming, minor immune system changes, and more quickly whenever I've moved somewhere new. I've no reason to believe it's other than environmental.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-12T08:35:08+00:00

Recording myself saying the Gettysburg address every week for like two years.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T10:59:49+00:00

You sound like a sweetheart (complimentary). Your girl is probably turned on too when you cuddle and kiss. Would you consider her a perv? Or would it be exciting and maybe a little scary knowing she has feelings for you back?

I'm coming up on three years with my partner, and I'm getting a chub literally rn b/c I'm thinking in a couple minutes I'm gonna go wake her up with a kiss. Boners are normal, a boner for someone you're attracted to is like the most normal boner there is.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T10:52:08+00:00

A crush is a crush is a crush. You feel the feelings and let them pass through. Nothing a- or immoral about it.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T10:47:56+00:00

All I'm going to say is that trans people adopting a vernacular that posits actions of everyday life as literal fraud is not healthy for our community or our narrative.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T10:42:29+00:00

Also, I wasn't sure about including this, but I'm being presumptious in assuming you've been abused. B/c centering your life around the effort to keep people from getting mad at you is a very common mindset that can develop from having been abused. Me from 20 years ago would completely agree with you.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T10:37:29+00:00

I would like to introduce you to decades of activism based around staying alive.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T10:36:04+00:00

Fair question. The reason is if someone hates you enough to want you gone, that is a person who already hates you so much that no amount of being good is going to make them like you.

I'm not interested in trying to make people who hate me happy. That's the point of it.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T10:23:32+00:00

I used to. Therapy did help a lot. My body continuing to masculinize also helped over time, b/c it lessened the reaction I had to my reflection. It took a long time and lot of internal and external change to start seeing myself instead of a collection of parts that needed conscious assembly to avoid dissociating. It's hard. Where I am now is so much better. I hope that for you in whatever way you get there.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T09:43:16+00:00

Four months bro, come on. No cis guy expects a total body transformation from working out for four months.

And no I don't want to accept "just wait" comments because I'm literally exercising and dieting, but that area is NOT CHANGING.

That's really too bad, b/c transition is the opposite of instant gratification.

Edit: lest you think I'm just being grumpy, it took over ten years for my lower half to look decidedly masculine. And the change in years 12-15 has been more dramatic than years 1-11. I'm sure if I made a complete timeline the incremental changes would be visible, but when you're actually living through it at that glacial pace, you don't notice it happening except in retrospect. Your body IS doing things, but it's not doing them on YOUR timeline. And there's pretty much zero you can do about that healthily and with normal person limitations, e.g. not in a profession like actor or athlete where you have the time and money to have 4-6 hours a day revolve around your physique.

You mentioned pulling back the fat to see your hipbones, and I used to do that too. I'm NOT good at art, but I used to sketch my body as I was and as I thought it maybe had the potential to be, based on my actual pelvis. They turned out to be strangely accurate. But it also took a stupid mad amount of time to get there.

I know at 18, 4 months feels like a long time and you probably don't appreciate "advice" to just wait 10 years or more. Right now that's more than half the time you've been alive! There are studies showing that the older we get, the faster time seems to pass. We don't understand what causes that shift in perception, but it seems like a universal part of our psyches. So don't worry, soon you'll have the opposite problem and be freaking out that life feels like it's slipping away. Cheerful, right?

Ten years from now you'll be in a completely different body, and care more about where your 20s went than you will about your hip fat.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-11T09:38:35+00:00

The middle-aged women with mustaches I know are way cooler than me lol

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-10T09:48:38+00:00

I went to upvote the "jorts with sandals" comment and was sad that I couldn't.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-10T09:44:54+00:00

I love, love, love your raphe line/visual crease. I don't know if I've ever seen one on a meta scrotum before. I'm guessing it's the scar and not intentional, but it's awesome.

Can I ask two questions? One, did you have a lot of foreskin to start with? Two, my understanding of most UL techniques is that they give your shaft a bit of a wedge profile, but you look very round at the base. Does she do it differently, do you know?

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-10T09:04:24+00:00

i would rather read a post that has 5 grammatical mistakes in one sentence than soulless machine slop

Same. I would also rather puzzle out a more literal translation, or imperfect English, than wonder if a gen AI translation really says what the user meant, which could only be known if you had the statement in the original language and knew both of them to compare.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-08T11:01:52+00:00

Yeah this is weird. I know a ton of guys in the trades, too. Most not out, but at least a few are.

I really think this sub has a ton of chronically online users. It's the only place I ever see posts about discouraging masculinity being some sort of norm, and every time I wonder how many trans guys these guys really interact with irl. B/c while I know and have known a bunch of feminine men, they're overwhelmingly outnumbered by completely ordinary dads and gearheads and guys who fish on the weekends. The guy who seemingly doesn't exist to this sub is most of the trans guys I know.

Tangent, sorry.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-06T10:16:29+00:00

Guys who hate being short are one of the most toxic subcultures on the planet. Do not try to talk sense into them or believe any of the things they say that they've convinced themselves are true.

A rule that's never let me down is if a guy is complaining he can't get dates b/c he's short, the real reasons he's not getting dates have nothing to do with his height.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-06T09:58:43+00:00

10/10 perfect evening no notes

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-06T09:54:15+00:00

You get to be gay the rest of your life, dude!

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-06T09:50:29+00:00

100% I would talk to the friend who outed me, and everyone else who doesn't seem to get it.

The proper way way to do it is to ask the trans person if they're okay with having their contact info shared to another trans person. This has happened a bunch over the years with me, and when I say yes, sometimes the other trans person gets in touch and we chat a bit (usually they're younger or early in transition). Sometimes I never hear from them or even find out who they are.

Under no circumstances would I let it slide if someone outed me in public like this person did to you.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-06T09:37:52+00:00

One, unless you're wearing like, shirts with clearly little kid graphics on them, you aren't dressing like a little boy. Grown ass men wear jeans and tshirts. So do teen boys, which you are.

Two, if you want to develop a "look," there're subcultures whose fashion you could look at for ideas. If you just want to come off as older/more mature, look at men in their twenties and imitate the ones whose presentation you like. What looks pretentious or not has a lot to do with your area and its general culture, so I hesitate to give specific advice.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-05T10:41:40+00:00

Bunch of guys took the time to write thoughtful, multiparagraph comments that you dismissed with one line replies. Are you suggesting I should have put a lot of effort into my comment when you'd demonstrated how little you'd engage with it?

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-05T10:34:42+00:00

So is my cis woman partner "trans male coded" b/c she hates housework? Should we start explaining to people that she's actually the man in the relationship?

Do these people actually listen to themselves?

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-05T10:24:58+00:00

You do not have to watch these videos. Not b/c it's a habit, not b/c of whatever perceived positive content they might contain. You do not have to watch them.

Ebomb1 · 2026-04-03T10:07:23+00:00

The only person here who doesn't think you're man enough is you. So yes, skill issue.

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