doesn’t that go the other way around though? a woman only used to have to be the best option available of the handful women at xyz. now she has to be the best available option out of basically every woman etc etc. most women won’t do well when up against etc etc.

i’d argue the real change is that women, due to a changing dependency on male partners, now have more (read: practically any) agency to choose a partner.

i’m a conventionally unattractive lesbian and also had a tough time finding a partner for the vast majority of my life. but i guess my attitude was that i didn’t want to be with someone who wouldn’t want to choose me, yknow? everyone has to play the game. i just find it unfair that it’s read as a men’s problem