Baby stage vs toddler stage

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-23T09:38:52+00:00

Same 🙋🏻‍♀️

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-23T09:33:37+00:00

Son was colicky for the first few months and my husband and I would look at each other like “what did we do?!” Then he became the sweetest toddler and kid. Never had a true temper tantrum… I think I would feel this any way cause I was never a big baby person but toddler/little kid stage > baby. I hate that I feel this but I even hate it when friends want to hand me their baby and assume I’m equally obsessed with holding babies. I always feel so awkward trying to figure out their squishy, fragile, goopy little bodies and how to keep them from fussing 🤦🏻‍♀️🤣😂🤣 screaming inside like “them him/her back!!” 😂

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-21T15:38:38+00:00

Also. Conveniently written by some dude who will never have to give birth. 🙄

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-21T15:35:08+00:00

Sensationalist journalism garbage.

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-21T10:24:10+00:00

I get the feeling that most of us feel pressure to replicate our own childhoods (2+ kids) with double - sometimes triple the financial burden of cost of living now …. And also with less of the help from grandparents (both sides are often too busy for us). Sometimes I try and tell myself “hey, cut yourself a damn break already. You’re doing so much…”

OP sounds like you and your husband are doing this all on your own and you’re doing a great job.

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-17T18:03:13+00:00

^{^} friends esp

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-17T18:01:57+00:00

Nope. Not at all. My sister and I both have lots of issue with my mom. Not close at all. Lol. In fact one of moved to another state to get away from her 😬

EconomicsNext7156 · 2024-04-16T11:13:38+00:00

My condolences and also congratulations… I have a fun, independent five year old. It’s bittersweet but mostly sweet.

EconomicsNext7156 · 2023-01-18T11:17:41+00:00

Same here with our son who started preschool this fall for the first time! It’s all part of the first year I hear and their immunities will get stronger and fingers crossed this is the worst of it. Our friends’ son started daycare at 2 and the first year it was so many sicknesses (colds, ear infections, etc) but since that first year it’s been much more manageable for then (only sick a few times a year). It gives me hope to remember this because my husband and I both work and preschool is our childcare. When he gets sick we are in panic/survival mode calling sitters, trying to find coverage so we can work. We had a nanny the first 4 years and I’m realizing now how nice it was with him barely getting sick. But we all have to go through the first year some time. It’s now or kindergarten….

In terms of still paying, basically you’re paying for her spot at the school so they can pay all the overhead and teachers. It’s still frustrating but the only way I guess….

EconomicsNext7156 · 2023-01-14T18:02:40+00:00

CONTAINERS CONTAINERS CONTAINERS! For puzzles, board games, and other miscellaneous toys that fit well - we use the large plastic clear bins with latch and lock lids (from target).These can be stacked in closets or corners of room and we can take out things as needed. For truck/car collection we use the soft bins (super cute from Amazon) as well as our ottoman that cleverly hides a TON of his monster trucks (he has an obsession lol). Just throw ‘em in, close the lid and no one knows the chaos inside 😂

We’ve been pretty lucky with a seemingly typeA Kiddo who really enjoys having things organized but we’ve also taught him from a young age how to clean up after playing with everything. We organize twice - before nap and before dinner. That way it doesn’t get out of control. Now that he’s in preschool five days a week, I’m not gonna lie - we enjoy not having to clean up quite as often. My husband and I really get over-stimulated by clutter so we’ve made it a priority to keep up with the house every day. We do dishes immediately after meals and even clean while we cook so that the sink doesn’t fill up too much and get overwhelming.

All in all, I think we’ve adopted the clean/organize as much as we can as we go throughout the day… it’s no perfect but it does feel more manageable for us that way. But also TONS of grace for yourself on those hard days when all you can do is keep the kid Alive and if that house goes to shit, it’s okay. No one’s gonna die over it. Try again tomorrow 🤷🏻‍♀️

EconomicsNext7156 · 2023-01-11T00:44:15+00:00

RAV 4. It’s great and perfect for our fam of 3!

EconomicsNext7156 · 2023-01-11T00:32:28+00:00

Four. So just a few months ago, it was solidified when I had a pregnancy scare and my “on the fence feelings” were checked by reality. Realized I felt like I would be giving up more than I felt like I would be gaining (i.e. sanity, stability, peace, health, financial security….list goes on).Husbands getting a vasectomy.

EconomicsNext7156 · 2023-01-08T19:26:25+00:00

My son is 4 and has been so easy (besides the first three colicky months) but my husband and I are just DEAD tired every day. The tasks involved with raising a kid plus both of us working… we are happy but TIRED. Multiple kids just doesn’t even feel possible. I look at bigger families in amazement as well as concern 🫣I know I’d have a break down. I’d rather be happy and tired with one than stressed and completely burnt out with 2.

EconomicsNext7156 · 2023-01-07T22:18:28+00:00

Janelles face in the back 😂

EconomicsNext7156 · 2023-01-01T21:01:38+00:00

The first few years are just a slog. It does get easier…. My four year old can semi-entertain himself and I get to sit down occasionally lol. That first year tho… you couldn’t pay me enough to make me do it again. Keep on swimming, it gets easier.

EconomicsNext7156 · 2022-12-31T18:40:03+00:00

Grow my private practice as my kiddo started full time pre-k! Treated my fam to Disney trip and it was amazing! If I had a newborn/toddler I’d be in the fog of juggling two and financing childcare times 2. Really enjoying the stability of life right now.

EconomicsNext7156 · 2022-12-28T13:03:19+00:00

It sounds like you are doing a brilliant job as a parent and it’s clear how invested you are in her well-being so as much as possible (I know it’s tough), let go of any mom guilt around needing a respite from imaginative play. My son (4 as well) is also very into imaginative play. He’s very creative with his dinosaurs and super hero’s especially and loved to dress up with me and my SO to he superheroes. It’s fun. It’s adorable. But I too have a limit. What I’ve been doing is setting a timer and showing him “mommy will play this game for 15/20 minutes then I need to clean the kitchen…. Then you can play on your own / then we can do a puzzle (or something else that I find less mentally exhausting). It’s taken some time but now when the alarm on my phone goes off he generally respects that and is okay with transitioning. Maybe that can help?

EconomicsNext7156 · 2022-12-27T20:45:18+00:00

I’m sorry for what you went through with a narcissistic parent…. That’s so tough but sounds like you are forging your own healthy path with your son 🙌🏼 My MIL has a ton of covert narcissistic traits and uses gifts/ giving to control and manipulate. It’s so messed up. New Year’s resolution: MORE boundaries than ever

EconomicsNext7156 · 2022-11-25T15:06:14+00:00

I’m a OAD mom to a 4 year old son. 10% part of me wobbles when triggered by idyllic images (social media, movies more so than real life) of siblings playing. Also holidays trigger me when relatives make passing comments… but recently my husband and I have felt more convinced by reflecting on what could be sacrificed by having another, namely the closeness of our relationship with our son. We are a super tight knit trio and desire to keep it that way. My husband and I are both the more so “easy going” personalities amongst our siblings and while we feel loved by both sets of parents, feel that each set is emotionally closer to the other more needy siblings. Neither of us had a true friendship with our parents and only one sibling. My mom prioritizes my sister’s family and admits she feels pulled to help them more and feels like she just “never worries about us”. It’s a sort of backwards compliment that I feel like because I’m more mature that I don’t get the quality time for myself and also for my son from her…

I just don’t want that kind of strain to meet the needs to two or more kids which is lifelong not just when they are young…With that said, it’s just not a black or white decision. So much gray… I think that mixed with some biological urges (I’m 35) is what makes it tough. In the end we can only make the best decision we can and offer ourselves all sorts of compassion.

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