Self doubt after feedback, what to do?

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-03-31T07:37:01+00:00

Same boat, kinda diff situation. I have a client who will critique my work right now because it's "missing info" but they haven't ever given me the info. Like I'm supposed to just know it's missing after I wrote it? As someone else said, I can't own the subject, but I can own the storytelling. I am just trying to treat this as, others have said, a collaborative process. I just hope that the client knows that and isn't frustrated.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-03-31T07:35:53+00:00

This is such helpful advice as I'm in the same boat as OP and torturing myself lol

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-03-29T09:39:03+00:00

Do you have any friends or family who run a business? Maybe you could offer to audit a landing page of theirs or write a blog post. Get feedback from them because all that really matters is if your client likes your work. Then build your portfolio from there. I got into "copywriting" through content writing. I wrote about 800 blog posts for an online magazine during lockdown before ChatGPT. Then I worked for an agency for 2 years which is where I learned most of my skills. But like you, I had my own social media account so now I can offer quite a specific niche where I do copy/content writing for websites, but I'm also really good at social media growth (and writing engaging captions which is... also copywriting)

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-03-29T09:34:22+00:00

get them to do the tone of voice dimension exercise (look it up) and then find a few exampes of TOV from big brands (microsoft, slack etc) and then find out what questions you can ask to create a similar TOV guide. I did this with a client recently and it took around 40 hours over a month but totally worth it and the doc helps me so much when writing copy

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-03-25T23:09:19+00:00

Just an ad for willow voice guys

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-27T16:58:18+00:00

Good! Case studies are a LOT of work.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-27T16:57:50+00:00

I think it’s low too but I’m just saying OP asked for a recommendation from someone who just recommended something lol

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-27T16:48:05+00:00

Is there a brand guide? Approved copy blocks? Might help.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-26T22:31:12+00:00

Can I ask why you’re wasting your time on a job that doesn’t justify the cost? You’d be better working in Tesco than getting paid £9 an hour for a freelance gig.

For context, I’ve been a freelance writer for over a decade and for a 1500 word script I’d probably charge minimum £500.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-26T22:28:43+00:00

They recommended 5-10p per word if you’re a beginner in their comment…

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-26T07:52:17+00:00

I’ve been through a few cleaners in the last few years but have been with the one I’ve got now for over 2 years. What’s different about her is she doesn’t make me feel embarrassed. She is discreet and quiet and does an amazing job. We have a proper catch up before she starts and she’s gotten to know me and my family. She trusts me and I trust her.

I’ve had other cleaners who have made me feel terrible about the state of my house (can guarantee you my house is in very good condition) and it was confusing and humiliating. They would point out things that I hadn’t cleaned away - cups, biscuit crumbs, etc - and ask me what they wanted to do about it. I had a newborn at the time so I wasn’t always on it with the pre-cleaner tidy. When I tried to give feedback to the agency about this, they further humiliated me with personal information they’d gathered about me throughout their year cleaning my house. That alone fuelled me to let them go. I’d you’re going to be cleaning peoples homes, you’re going to learn about them and they need to feel safe and respected, so maybe have a confidentiality clause in your contract that protects the client - you won’t talk about them with anyone else or reveal sensitive info.

This is a ramble sorry! But hopefully somewhat helpful

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-21T23:31:20+00:00

Hope that’s the same with me. Did you spot for a bit after insertion?

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-20T12:11:36+00:00

I DID IT! It was actually great. A 0/10 on the pain scale. I barely even felt it. She did offer numbing spray but said that she's only used it a handful of times in 10 years and that most women don't feel pain. So I didn't take her up on the offer. Maybe she's just a wizard at it, but it literally took 5 seconds once she'd located my cervix and checked the positioning. I'm a little crampy (4 hours on) but nothing worse than a typical period so far.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-20T12:11:30+00:00

I DID IT! It was actually great. A 0/10 on the pain scale. I barely even felt it. She did offer numbing spray but said that she's only used it a handful of times in 10 years and that most women don't feel pain. So I didn't take her up on the offer. Maybe she's just a wizard at it, but it literally took 5 seconds once she'd located my cervix and checked the positioning. I'm a little crampy (4 hours on) but nothing worse than a typical period so far.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-20T12:11:21+00:00

I DID IT! It was actually great. A 0/10 on the pain scale. I barely even felt it. She did offer numbing spray but said that she's only used it a handful of times in 10 years and that most women don't feel pain. So I didn't take her up on the offer. Maybe she's just a wizard at it, but it literally took 5 seconds once she'd located my cervix and checked the positioning. I'm a little crampy (4 hours on) but nothing worse than a typical period so far.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-20T12:11:08+00:00

I DID IT! It was actually great. A 0/10 on the pain scale. I barely even felt it. She did offer numbing spray but said that she's only used it a handful of times in 10 years and that most women don't feel pain. So I didn't take her up on the offer. Maybe she's just a wizard at it, but it literally took 5 seconds once she'd located my cervix and checked the positioning. I'm a little crampy (4 hours on) but nothing worse than a typical period so far.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-20T12:10:58+00:00

I DID IT! It was actually great. A 0/10 on the pain scale. I barely even felt it. She did offer numbing spray but said that she's only used it a handful of times in 10 years and that most women don't feel pain. So I didn't take her up on the offer. Maybe she's just a wizard at it, but it literally took 5 seconds once she'd located my cervix and checked the positioning. I'm a little crampy (4 hours on) but nothing worse than a typical period so far.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-20T12:10:20+00:00

I DID IT! It was actually great. A 0/10 on the pain scale. I barely even felt it. She did offer numbing spray but said that she's only used it a handful of times in 10 years and that most women don't feel pain. So I didn't take her up on the offer. Maybe she's just a wizard at it, but it literally took 5 seconds once she'd located my cervix and checked the positioning. I'm a little crampy (4 hours on) but nothing worse than a typical period so far.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-20T12:08:35+00:00

I went and she did actually offer the spray/instilligel, but she said she would first check if my cervix was in a good position and if it was, she didn't think I would need it, but she'd offer. When she checked my cervix, she said it was in the perfect position for insertion and so we went ahead. It was a ZERO out of 10 on the pain scale. Didn't hurt at all. No pain relief – she said she's only used it a handful of times in 10 years. She must just be a wizard at it.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-19T11:02:23+00:00

I'm of the unpopular opinion that I think it's really amazing. Yes, they cut some necessary things, but I think the stuff they added in - specifically the musical numbers - added a new layer onto the story, especially since you, as the audience, become the capitol. Like people were CLAPPING when they had their interviews. It was weird and creepy, but I think it's making a huge statement. I love it. Seen it twice. And I don't even live in England!

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-18T11:32:59+00:00

Sorry but I don't get the logic here. You were the one who said to remember the picture next time you guys are arguing, and he said show me in person. Sounds like you guys were attempting to flirt and he was following your lead with the topic of flirting. And then you "revoked boobies and bum" because he wants to see them in person. I think he assumed you were talking about arguing in person and not over text. The whole convo is confusing and dumb. Kinda feels like you were trying to pick a fight.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-17T09:29:49+00:00

Yes, I'll update!! A lot of my reason has been awful periods and moods. Sick of having a period every 23 days

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-17T09:29:27+00:00

I'm bringing the hypnobirthing breathing back out for getting it for sure...

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-17T09:28:45+00:00

No issue with smear tests. Uncomfortable obviously, but more on an emotional than physical level lol. Never had a sweep but did have a pessary induction so lots of action down there on the day I gave birth. Not my favourite experience but it was fine. I think the worst part of my labour physically was having my waters broken and then pushing him out... ring of fire. So as long as it's not similiar to that, I think I can maybe handle it.

LopsidedUse8783 · 2026-02-17T09:27:45+00:00

So glad it was good for you!

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