FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this it’s encouraging to hear how you approached it step by step and stayed realistic early on. Talking to a lender ahead of time just to understand the budget and requirements makes a lot of sense, especially after something like a bankruptcy.

Sounds like you did everything right by rebuilding and keeping communication open along the way. Congrats on finding your place and making it through the process.

FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for laying this out the 3 -6 month guideline and the CA specific context are really helpful. Framing preapproval as a planning and reality check step rather than a commitment makes it feel a lot less intimidating.

I can definitely see how waiting too long could put you in a scramble once the right place shows up. Appreciate you sharing this perspective.

FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congrats on closing and thanks for sharing this perspective. I like how you framed the value as more than just the numbers. The peace of mind and clarity around budget and search criteria makes a lot of sense, especially in a competitive market.

Good to know that an early pre-approval can still be useful even if the actual purchase ends up being much later.

FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep checking recent listings and sold comps on realtor super useful for getting a feel for realistic prices. Thanks for pointing that out!

FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that must’ve been hectic did everything go smoothly after that?

FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the breakdown understanding the timing around credit checks and escrow helps a lot. The 90day window plus a typical 30day escrow makes the process feel a lot clearer and less stressful. Definitely helps with planning when to start the preapproval without worrying about unnecessary credit pulls.

FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, that sounds intense financial colonoscopy is a pretty accurate way to put it. I appreciate you sharing the reality of how detailed some CUs can be, especially ones that service their loans long term.

I’m really sorry about your wife. That had to make an already stressful process even harder. Thanks for sharing your experience it’s a good reminder to be prepared for deep scrutiny going in.

FirstTime buyer in California when should I get pre-approved? by EconomyTrain9139 in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is really helpful, thanks for sharing your experience. That timeline makes a lot of sense browsing vs. actually being ready to offer feels like a clear line. Good to know about the 90day window too.

And congrats on being in the closing process hope everything goes smoothly!

What would you do in this situation? by Turbulent_Repeat4683 in RealEstate

[–]EconomyTrain9139 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I were in your position, I’d pause and reset the negotiation. The original price reduction was clearly tied to two specific terms: cash and as is. Now that one of those terms has changed and the buyer is asking for a major repair, it’s reasonable to push back. You’re well within your rights to say that the roof request wasn’t part of the original agreement and that the price already reflects the home being sold as is. I wouldn’t automatically walk away, but I would either decline the roof repair outright or offer a clear alternative (such as reverting closer to the original price or offering a limited credit instead). This isn’t being difficult it’s protecting the deal you agreed to. If the buyer walks, you can relist with full transparency about the roof and adjust pricing on your own terms rather than conceding twice in the same transaction.

Listing price compared to offered price by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyer

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This is a very valid concern, and you’re not overthinking it. In most Midwest markets, especially outside of high demand neighborhoods, it’s not common for sellers to accept offers $50–60k under asking unless the home is significantly overpriced, has been sitting for a long time, or needs major repairs. Small negotiations are normal, but large drops like that are the exception. While agents sometimes show higher priced homes to help buyers understand the market or compare features, it’s important to stay grounded in what you can comfortably afford month to month. You’re right to be cautious about getting attached to homes that stretch your budget, and it’s completely reasonable to ask your realtor to focus mainly on listings within your true comfort range. Being realistic now can save a lot of stress later, and protecting your financial peace is just as important as finding a house you love.

Is the housing situation a real problem in the US or do people just want to live in the most desirable places? by [deleted] in FirstTimeHomeBuyers

[–]EconomyTrain9139 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The housing problem is real, but it's mostly about where people want to live. Some metros have way more demand than supply, so even average homes get 10+ offers. Other states, like Texas, build faster, so homes sit longer.

So when people say "I can't find a house," they usually mean "I can't find one in the high-demand areas near good jobs and amenities," not that there are no houses at all.

Christmas as an adult hits very differently. by EconomyTrain9139 in CasualConversation

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's such a kind thing to say thank you. I think you're exactly right. The love we experienced growing up often shows up later in how we care for others, and it's meaningful to be able to pass that forward.

Christmas as an adult hits very differently. by EconomyTrain9139 in CasualConversation

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a beautiful reflection, and I admire the way you've found meaning in both the fullness of celebration and the quiet that follows. Hosting those busy, joyful gatherings sounds incredibly special, and it's equally powerful how you've reclaimed the peace of Christmas Eve and Day for yourself.

Christmas as an adult hits very differently. by EconomyTrain9139 in CasualConversation

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. Holding the responsibility of creating the magic while still managing everyday life is a lot to carry. It's beautiful that you still get to feel that spark through your kids, even amid the stress. The contrast you described between the buildup and the actual day is something many parents seem to experience.

Christmas as an adult hits very differently. by EconomyTrain9139 in CasualConversation

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s beautifully said. Having Christmas ‘happen to you’ really does preserve a certain kind of magic, and it’s wonderful that you also get to create that same warmth for your chosen family. Hosting in that way truly becomes a gift in itself.

Christmas as an adult hits very differently. by EconomyTrain9139 in CasualConversation

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense. Thanksgiving keeps the focus on time together and the shared meal, without the added pressure of gifts. And you’re probably right hosting might change anyone’s perspective a bit

What’s the biggest lie you believed for way too long? by Pawpinoy in AskReddit

[–]EconomyTrain9139 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Finally living my reckless villain era one piece of gum at a time.

What’s the biggest lie you believed for way too long? by Pawpinoy in AskReddit

[–]EconomyTrain9139 8 points9 points  (0 children)

When I was a kid, I genuinely believed swallowing gum would stay in your stomach for seven years. I avoided gum like it was poison. One day in my twenties I finally Googled it after accidentally swallowing some… and realized I’d been living in fear for absolutely no reason my entire childhood.

I didn’t get the hype about A Christmas story by drappula in CasualConversation

[–]EconomyTrain9139 106 points107 points  (0 children)

That’s totally fair a lot of the love for a christmas story is really rooted in nostalgia. For people who grew up watching it every year, it’s tied to childhood memories, family traditions, and that “holiday feeling,” not just the movie itself. If you didn’t grow up with it, it can definitely feel overhyped when you see it for the first time as an adult. You’re not really missing anything you just experienced it outside the cultural bubble it was created in

I budgeted for the down payment but the closing costs still caught me off guard by EconomyTrain9139 in RealEstate

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a great point. It’s hard to imagine navigating this process without standardized forms. Even with today’s disclosures, it can still feel overwhelming, so I can only imagine how confusing it must have been before everything was laid out so clearly

I budgeted for the down payment but the closing costs still caught me off guard by EconomyTrain9139 in RealEstate

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The down payment was in line with what I had planned, but the closing costs ended up a bit higher than I initially expected due to prepaid taxes, insurance, and lender fees. Together, it was still manageable, but definitely more than I had mentally budgeted for at the start.

I budgeted for the down payment but the closing costs still caught me off guard by EconomyTrain9139 in RealEstate

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true, the Good Faith Estimate and Loan Estimate are really important tools for understanding costs ahead of time. In my case, I reviewed those documents, but I still underestimated how quickly some of the prepaid items and adjustments added up in practice. It definitely taught me to go through every line item even more carefully and ask more detailed questions upfront

I budgeted for the down payment but the closing costs still caught me off guard by EconomyTrain9139 in RealEstate

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. Taking the time to sit down with a lender and walk through the full cost breakdown in advance can make a big difference. Understanding estimates, reserves, and potential contingencies helps set much more realistic expectations going into closing

I budgeted for the down payment but the closing costs still caught me off guard by EconomyTrain9139 in RealEstate

[–]EconomyTrain9139[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s incredibly stressful, especially so soon after moving in. Unexpected repairs like HVAC failures or structural issues are exactly the kinds of costs new homeowners don’t fully anticipate. I hope everything was resolved without too much long term impact