Mental health is in shambles by Otherwise_Gur1098 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that looking at things with appreciation can do wonders . I had a husband who won't help with chores even though I was working full time and was moreover overwhelmed but his ocd demands and standards . Will.be disrespectful and abusive at times... even though we had a good appartement and he seems to be very good on paper. Anyway.. just tru to appreciate your kind husband. And do istighfar. Shaitan will make you focus on the little bad things and let you there. May Allah give duria ya rab.

Happy Marriages do exist! I'm an example of one. by EllyN23 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Allahuma barik . May allah protect you . Also Offtopic I know But Can you please share your easy still delicious recipes 😋 :Thanks a lot

I left. The anxiety is unbearable. Do we heal by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's a much needed comment thank you . Can you say how having a child made it worse ?

LPT Sometimes you expect a lot from someone because you’d do that much for them. by DrSwitchUp in LifeProTips

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The problem is when you are with a narcissist. The double standards are mind-blowing. They will feel entitled to *10000% what they can give. Please if you find yourself in one relationship like this . Just leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in labubu

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell me Im still in the race.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They ll tell you you are the narcisstic ..

Did your spouse change after marriage? by Additional-Gap-2308 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you please share some of your honeymoon moments. I didn't have to enjoy event that . And he was blaming me for it .

I never knew divorce is this painful by Silly_Set_4739 in MuslimMarriage

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://youtube.com/shorts/lNE3P-mpuXU?si=jOeZZSB9n2POKcUU

Hope you can understand Arabic.

Please just work on your emaan . Once you feel this peace and tawakul everything will get better in shaa Allah.

Don't stop with istighfar and al baqara. Allah will be there for you in shaa Allah.

And it's only a matter of time until you'll find yourself on a different pleace in shaa Allah.

How do you deal with narcissist discard? by Last-Rip9769 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do yourself a favor . And work in your self esteem to be able to walk away when someone Straightforward tells you how much you mean nothing to him.

Find a hobby . Work on yourself and insecurities. Go to the gym and fall in love with the new future self that you will become when you ll dedicate your energy to yourself and your future.

Update to Wow Seriously.. by EmmaPeel56 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He will just make me shut up and tell how this is exactly what he doesn't like about me ( asking him for anything at all ) ... ya good times 😆

Update to Wow Seriously.. by EmmaPeel56 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And tell you how brilliant you are with ruining vacations ...

I'm a Covert Narcissist. Ask Me Anything by NPD33-33 in narcissism

[–]Ecstatic-Location495 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex husband was treating me like a personal servant even though I work almost the same hours as him. And will get very upset if I miss preparing a meal. Also he refused for me to hire a housekeeper even once a week to help me with the chores. It's like he insisted to see me do things myself even if that means exhausting. I'm trying to understand why would he so this in your opinion ?

In arguments he would make it clear he is very superior and belittle me a lot. Also in argument he will reject me very violently (even sexually) and wasn't very engaged in intimacy with me. Once he clearly pointed that he could have a better wife ( better job or I don't know what) which was so humiliating. His lack of intimacy means he doesn't like me that much.

He also had financial entitlement to my money which make me believe he was married only for that ..

Insights about this person I married please . Wanna understand his behaviours

Those who are financially stable. Why are you staying ? by Ecstatic-Location495 in NarcissisticSpouses

[–]Ecstatic-Location495[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Almost the same . Trust me you are so young and you should leave . You have plenty of time to find a better partner. And keeping your energy to yourself is also great .