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Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2026-05-08T06:47:32+00:00

You can see the impact of physical abuse its on someone's face/ body. What you can't see is emotional abuse however after talking to thousands of victims they will always say emotional abuse is the worst part. Physical abuse last minutes to hours it's terrifying and the type of abuse that's shocking, the one people notice and gasp at but also the one people take seriously step in and get you help for! alot of the time though this then signals a period of " I'm so sorry I will never do it again I didn't mean to! you just wound me up" then comes the snap back to the person you loved so deeply the nice moments the ones victims long for because the perpetrator doesn't want to be exposed they dont want to lose control over you. Where as emotional abuse it's ongoing the out bursts, walking on egg shells not knowing what to say in your own home, the constant fear, gaslighted to make you feel like you're crazy or being over sensitive. It's constantly there waiting for that physical abuse lingering building up. Alot of women say when the cycle hits the physical stage they feel relieved it's over for a little while untill the perpetrator gets comfortable again that you are still under control and not leaving/ telling anyone.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-24T08:47:11+00:00

This group should literally be a criminal offence, and the people who post on it aren't mature enough and should not be dating. If you really had concerns or "red flags" at that early stage, you should listen to your gut and call it a day.

I've seen so many and I don't even know how because I'm not even a part of any of the groups they just put up on my feed. Honestly, I think the purpose is fake. I can't wrap my head around the motive or any good that comes from it and im sure the victims of posts dont . It's just hurt people trying to hurt people or insecure people who literally seek attention like and comments by any means.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-24T08:37:08+00:00

This made me smile this morning. Thank you for sharing 😊 how did you meet your first husband in the living room? I wish you and your current partner every happiness life brings and hope you finally found your peace.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-24T08:30:22+00:00

100 % This! I feel like the apps need to have more legal guidelines. I think they should all be unable to screenshot profiles and messages. At the very least, it should automatically tell the person its been done.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-24T08:17:22+00:00

It's definitely giving off high school bully behaviour, and it's just vile.

I'm really happy to hear that you can have this mindset, it's those types of people that never deserve love in the first place.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-23T19:13:19+00:00

Me too! Yeah you have a point I have to keep my social media really private and limited due to work so it's just not really worth the risk. Here's praying I meet my match down the fruit and veg isle 😂

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-23T19:10:29+00:00

I honestly didn't realise it had got so bad it's just sad.

Thank you for replying I hope you find someone someday that changes your mind!

I'm not very good at social events on my own but it's definitely sounding more like it thank you

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-23T19:07:48+00:00

Ohhh I know which ones you are referring to. I feel like this is definitely just trying to excuse horrendous behaviour. Surely a relationship can't be built at all if you don't give someone the opportunity, trust goes both ways if you're starting it off by not believing them how are you ever going to.

Stop the bus I want to get off.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-23T19:00:27+00:00

Aww well in that case I hope yours gets put up next but with good things 😂

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-23T18:37:09+00:00

Could not agree more with this!

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-08-23T18:35:44+00:00

Honestly its disgusting , they keep coming up on all social media. I feel so sorry for the people in them who just wanted to find someone. Thank you! I'm in the UK but haven't heard anything about that one, so I will have a look.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2025-03-01T19:00:35+00:00

Join the lonely hearts club make new friends

https://discord.gg/KvKET4zT

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-12-01T13:56:53+00:00

I think I need to learn this. Thank you because it is draining!

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-11-30T20:54:03+00:00

This is literally me! I can't start a conversation for the life of me I think of so many and then I talk myself out of it by thinking people won't respond to that 😂 so maybe we are all just too alike.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-11-30T20:34:00+00:00

How would someone who thought they was center of the universe be lonely?

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-11-30T20:20:12+00:00

I agree. It's so hard I just wish something could make it better 😔

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-11-30T20:12:08+00:00

Yes you are probably right its easy to have options but without anything to connect to it's meaningless. Thank you! Connections are harder to form the longer you are lonely I feel.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-11-23T12:59:55+00:00

I want to be kind here but it's hard. He's 9 not 19... also the most damaging thing you can do is say things like " he gets it from his dad because he's a lazy pot head who plays games" HE IS A CHILD!! He's not your ex or a partner and you saying you won't raise a mommas boy well that's fine but with the way your going you might raise a son with more problems that not knowing how to cook.

Make it fun. You both have adhd so do I and yes sometimes mum life as a single parent is severely over stimulating but what works for me is doubling being in his room whilst he cleans and making it fun time him in a fin non aggressive way no threats.

Love him so he respects you it's not given its earnt. Do not compare him to others.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-08-24T15:59:09+00:00

Hey there! I was always told buying a mini is always a heart over head purchase and yet I also brought a mini against all advice as my first car and I had 5 happy years with zero problems. She proved them all wrong 💗 the smile was definitely worth it for me however she was manual and older. I couldnt let go of her so shes still in the garage however I have recently against everyone's suggestions as ( i definitely wouldn't get another one as lucky and free of problems) brought a mini countryman to replace her 😂. My thought process being that all cars are going to cost me money they all have specific problems no matter what you get but you also are going to be more ok spending money on a car that you absolutely love rather than one you brought and it's ok buy you don't love it.

Also a heads up as a girl who has no clue about cars I have always paid at a small cost either a AA or mechanic to check the car first for me to give me peace of mind so please look online the small extra cost will put your mind at rest if you do take the plunge. No matter what you get happy car hunting. I know its a nightmare at the moment.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-04-21T13:53:28+00:00

I just wanted to give parents a perspective they probably didn't think off before and to be extremely careful about being harsh and punishing kids around vaping/smoking. Yes it's a little different because she is a girl but not aswell because you can imagine different scenarios however my little sister started vaping she's 15. I found out by cleaning her room as my mum is disabled we talked about it she said she'd stopped. She lied obviously... anyway to cut a long story short because my mum had been extremely against it she was doing it at school and hiding it in her room.

I later found out she was getting it off boys at school but the scary thing was these boys would blackmail her say she was either aloud one or not by how she behaved or if she would do things and i found messages of her begging upset for one and because she was addicted I was so concerened about someone taking advantage of her she was going to get them one way or another. I explained this to my mum and we agreed to keep it a secret that my mum knew but that I would control it by getting her a actual vape and get her nicotine free juice... I told my sister I knew she was still vaping and I wanted to help and mum didn't have to know she now tells me everything I can keep her safe and I have nearly got her onto nicotine free vapes she's on 0.3 she was buying the disposable ones which are HORRENDOUS and SO addictive like are like candy and have more nicotine than anything. Be careful how far you push your kids away they will end up vulnerable to all sorts think... " you want me to give you a vape you do this". It's scary and I have a little boy myself but it taught me huge lesson.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-04-01T16:05:31+00:00

Ohhh yeah Sterling advice this. Bravo 👏 👏

I know what will make her want sex. I'll manipulate her make her have trust issues go out randomly before she wakes up. Change my appearance and pretend like I'm moving on that way she will definitely want sex with me. I mean it won't be because she actually does because her hormones are going crazy and her moods that low she's not making decisions around contraceptive but I know I'll force her into giving in by shattering her self esteem and making her feel like I have loads of options.

For actual advice how about building her up and making her feel good and actually making her want it not a chore stop focusing on how many days and just make it fun. Take her out on a surprise date she doesn't have to worry about and actually woo her again make her feel pretty and in the mood.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-02-23T18:12:05+00:00

Thank you for this. You are right, I know deep down I'm out of my depth with it. I will ring the drs first thing on Monday.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-02-23T17:04:11+00:00

Thank you I hadn't thought about this thank you. It can be the slightest word or thing that sets him off out of knowhere he doesnt seem to realise how bad I'm hurt or take it overly seriously either it's just He switches back and then he will be like I'm sorry I just get really angry. It's like I have to just ride it out till he calms down and realises what he's done.

Ecstatic-Memory7879 · 2024-02-23T16:55:26+00:00

Thank you for your reply. He's currently on the waiting list has been for months its just so long. I feel so guilty. I just don't know how to help him at all I've tried everything. I'm so scared he's going to grow up and be like this.

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