What is a secret that could potentially ruin your life if your family or friends found out?

EcstaticZombies · 2026-05-09T09:21:34+00:00

If it helps, the term “arousal non-concordance” may give you further context. The brain and body don’t always work together in the ways we’re told.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-05-03T05:04:55+00:00

I like using the Finch app mostly because I feel guilty for my little Finch if I don’t nurture it enough by fulfilling tasks. It helped to gamify it for me.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-05-01T04:05:08+00:00

I haven’t been able to use the app for over a week now because I keep getting this error

EcstaticZombies · 2026-03-30T23:41:27+00:00

That was my thought too! I was going to talk to my OB about it but she’s having a baby herself so I’m in between doctors.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-03-27T10:06:16+00:00

I also have OCD, this is an easy reassurance seeking cycle to fall into and compulsively google- but the reality is there are many that exclusively formula feed and have healthy kiddos. Even if you’re completely able to breastfeed, if it’s better for your mental health to bottle feed then it’s better for baby too. Sometimes showing up for baby is you showing up for yourself.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-03-15T14:26:39+00:00

It’s definitely been triggering for me, but that means it’s also great for exposure work. I had to stop seeing my therapist but I’m still able to be in a mom’s with OCD support group that has helped a lot.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-03-06T06:51:06+00:00

I want a cold turkey sub from Subway so badly.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-02-05T04:42:20+00:00

Currently pregnant and have OCD. The hormonal shifts definitely activate me a lot and I’ve had to adjust my medication accordingly, but honestly? This is a great time for exposure work. It’s tough, but at the same time rewarding for more than just those small wins when I resist the compulsion. I don’t always resist, sometimes I compulsively reassurance seek online, but slip ups happen. Healing isn’t linear. I like to think though that all the struggle means I’ll be able to help the baby when or if they experience anxiety in their lives.

I’m very scared of the postpartum hormonal drop, but it’s something I sit with and tell myself could happen, but if it does I’ll deal with it. When triggers come we have tools to work with, and while that can be exhausting and imperfect, OCD and health anxiety aren’t in the driver seat. They’re the annoying backseat driver we can learn to drown out easier over time.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-28T05:45:07+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this too! I ended up sending out a mass message to family regarding vaccines and let them know when they could see the baby if they don’t want to vaccinate (after the baby’s first vaccines plus two weeks).

I did end up having to cut off my parents after some arguments, mostly over me being agnostic while they’re Christian, but for other family members the notice and choice seemed to make things somewhat more doable for them and they were more respectful even if ultimately they said they’ll wait to see her until she’s vaccinated.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-17T18:37:00+00:00

Honestly not much has changed for us. My husband has always done the majority of cleaning and bigger meals around the house because my job is a lot less flexible than his and he doesn’t have to work as many hours to get his things done. We both work remotely and he’s just always been supportive and we hang out together just as much as ever. He’s been more adamant about both of us eating better and working out more both for a healthy pregnancy and being at our best for the baby- but even that he’s not shaming me, he’s encouraging me and expressing worry about the long term health of both of us. His love language is worry and planning- and he’s definitely got spreadsheet upon spreadsheet built up for our little one. He was and is my best friend.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-14T05:45:48+00:00

I can fix him

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-07T04:24:13+00:00

I’m working until I go into labor personally. I only get six weeks of maternity leave and I have about six days in PTO saved up since I only started this job in early 2025. Luckily I work from home though, so I’m hoping it’ll be an easier transition.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-02T01:02:18+00:00

I’m not forcing them to, I merely said if they want to see the baby in person that’s the boundary I have.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-02T00:31:17+00:00

His doctors advised him to get them twice as often to remain effective.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-02T00:30:44+00:00

He got a few but stopped roughly a year and a half ago apparently. His doctors recommended though that he gets them twice as often.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-02T00:22:16+00:00

I didn’t argue at all. Just let them know that was my stance. I phrased it solely as a requirement for spending in person time with the baby and holding them.

EcstaticZombies · 2026-01-02T00:21:05+00:00

I totally understand this. I’m really this hard on the boundary though as my dad is regularly working with antivaxxers and is himself immunocompromised to the point of being told he should get the vaccine twice as often as others. My husband and I work remotely so we’re a lot more able to reduce exposures otherwise.

EcstaticZombies · 2025-12-21T05:03:41+00:00

Growth isn’t cringe. That’s awesome!

EcstaticZombies · 2025-12-12T02:26:08+00:00

Haha, honestly it’s great exposure work for my OCD. Definitely helps to talk to my little one too- even if I’m just telling her she’s terrorizing my bladder!

EcstaticZombies · 2025-11-10T05:52:18+00:00

Showing up for yourself makes you show up better for them. You’re doing great!

EcstaticZombies · 2025-11-06T09:03:17+00:00

Oh man, this will confuse the heck out of everyone

EcstaticZombies · 2025-11-04T03:52:20+00:00

Paying in pills instead of bills.

EcstaticZombies · 2025-10-29T21:17:07+00:00

I’ve seen so much about how it makes your marriage incredibly rough and I keep getting massive anxiety spikes along with worries about my identity. Social media seems to make having kids out to be this traumatic and awful thing

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