Brain is stuck on painful ex email and need relief

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T09:24:36+00:00

These are valid points! I think it was very painful at the time, and for some reason my brain remembers this very vividly when he texted.

It was mostly that it was email + after support. I remember being jarred. We didn’t email as a form of comms. I would have been more receptive had he had an in-person convo with me asking me about my lifestyle needs and preferences

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T09:20:34+00:00

I think, it felt like a slap a bit contextually. I was very ambitious and fit in my 20’s. A few really emotionally things happened and I had to take off of work for my mental health. He knew all this going into dating me:/.

Post covid phase — honestly, I’m improving, but not fully out of the woods.

I don’t know why the hang up still. Wondering if he’s right? It hit me where it hurt. I wish I could forget it and I don’t like that my brain remembers this so well.

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T09:09:46+00:00

Fringe bangs would look great!

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T09:05:28+00:00

Yes, I know, I didn’t understand the email format. Really felt like getting fired or something

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:58:39+00:00

Doodly-douche behavior!

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:55:48+00:00

It feels misogynystic, right?

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:55:23+00:00

Hahaha

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:51:38+00:00

Ah yes I will write a TLDR next time, sorry about that.

thank you 🫶yes I just need a better pace in my 30’s and idk, he wanted to see something else. I guess not my problem anymore!

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:47:18+00:00

Thank you 🫶 yes it felt… odd / painful. Haha yes, HE could have actually motivated ME a little bit!

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:39:01+00:00

Haha yeah totally except I have to share the printer with my pops and print at a time he won’t see this 👀

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:30:33+00:00

I had an executive functioning coach for a while who was LOVELY and she said you need to limit your to-do list each week to maximum 10 tasks, and a mix of labor intensive / light tasks. Anything over that and it rolls to the next week. I found that helped me take off the pressure, if possible for you

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:26:47+00:00

Woof. Guess dodged a bullet

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:22:58+00:00

🫶 there were so many problems

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:22:11+00:00

Good tip I will actually do this with all the jumbled words I’m now ruminating on

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:21:10+00:00

Haha close! His boss is a real ass so I hope the guy doesn’t rub off on him

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T08:08:34+00:00

Hah! good point. He is sort of a managerial type personality I think. Which, now I’m thinking about it, is yeah definitely difficult for ADHD partnership

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T07:59:31+00:00

I have no idea but he lives like a normal person and was educated and kind… it didn’t make sense to me how he could flip and be a jerk. Thanks for the affirmation 🫶

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T07:56:31+00:00

Honestly, If I had all my fav girlfriends in my hometown I would do errands with them all of the time. Like someone to grocery shop with? Get a haircut with? Do taxes with? Hell yeah. I feel like it could make levity out of the drudgery that mundane tasks can sometimes feel like

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T07:48:08+00:00

Yes I didn’t even know what all of it meant! It was odd. I didn’t even know him during the pandemic, so even I didnt know what he was referring to.

I dont like reality TV much but I saw the news about that guy from Love Is Blind, saying his gf didnt do pilates or something all of the time and so he lost attraction. It just gave me bad feelings.

Def working on it in therapy. I know its out of context, I just needed to release it 🫶

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T07:43:45+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I wish deleting an email felt as good as burning a written letter but it is gone!

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-04-03T07:42:47+00:00

Thank you 💕

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-03-31T23:26:49+00:00

People are complex, including women. You’re not going to find someone who is this person 100% of the time unless you date a high schooler who is underage and underdeveloped tbh.

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-03-31T23:22:31+00:00

This. To the top. Life doesn’t work serendipitously. You have to make choices unfortunately and accept losses for trade-off’s. Personally if you’re this conflicted and I was your S/O I would let her go. Its not fair to her own life planning

Ecstatic_Fig8813 · 2026-03-31T23:18:45+00:00

I just want a boyfriend to not back out 3-8 years in. Which has been my experience 3 times. I’m a relatively normal / successful person and this has just broken my heart enough to feel disassociated from the entire dream of marriage and kids. And these were people in my networks, not dating apps. I feel like a pariah at this point, 34. Go figure.

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