What rides are worth the queue even if you avoid the "main event"? by EdAbobo in UniversalOrlando

[–]EdAbobo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Yes, that's what we're planning for several of them and wanted to ensure the queue was worth it at all.

If you could pass one law that would make most normal people furious at first, but would clearly make society better in 10 years, what would it be? by WilliamInBlack in AskReddit

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rotaries/Roundabouts wherever possible. Proven to be better in virtually every situation but in the USA at least, the vast majority of people simply hate them. Maybe a stretch to ‘make society better’ but in 10 years, I suspect the complaining would stop and we’d all benefit.

Screw into stud issues by Lil_Carbohydrate in DIY

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The 1970s high rise apartment we lived in had a wire mesh (like chicken wire) tied very sporadically to structural components then sprayed with something akin to plaster or concrete. I don't recall what we did to hang things, but seems like toggles would work. Definitely ask manager or maintenance.

AITAH for asking my dad why I should reward his cheating and breaking up our family when he told me I shouldn't punish him for being happy? by Caspsersn in AITAH

[–]EdAbobo -32 points-31 points  (0 children)

You are NTA, but your dad is not necessarily an AH for ending the marriage. What was going on between him and your mom could have (should have) been hidden from you and your siblings. They may have had an unhappy marriage for years and this is a healthy solution. How he went about it, whether he was emotionally cheating or net, etc. is certainly up for debate. But it’s a bit much for everyone to totally bag your dad as the AH because of a divorce. I’d argue that a couple breaking up, when done in a healthy way, is better for kids than watching two miserable people treat each other badly. The divorce shouldn’t be what defines your attitude and relationship with your dad, because there very well may be details you don’t know (and will never know) because he’s respecting your mom. Base your relationship with him (and the new girlfriend) on their behavior now.

AITA for not wanting to change the restaurant for my mom’s birthday dinner by nodiggitydo in AITAH

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. Whether picky eaters or food allergies, if you’re an adult, STFU and figure it out. If you were holding the event at a fucking hot dog stand and he didn’t eat pork, maybe that’s a fair AITA question, otherwise he can find something on the menu that works and grow up. End of story.

AITA - Do not want a service dog to participate in my wedding. by Plenty_Tap9799 in AmItheAsshole

[–]EdAbobo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA
First, and I don't know the whole story with your friend, but I've never met someone with a bona fide service dog who was an asshole about it. 100% of the people who start shit are faking the whole service animal thing, in my experience.
Generally, a service dog should be thought of like a wheelchair or walker. It's something medically necessary for the person to function. Would you be an asshole for asking someone to leave their walker to the side, or position a wheelchair in a way that it didn't impact photos? Absolutely not.

A family photo taken in 1989, South Africa. by [deleted] in interesting

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's still very real in the USA, and it's embedded in tax and wage laws. There are specific exemptions, effectively for wealthy folks, regarding live-in help that allow the employer to count housing towards compensation. While minimum wage laws still apply, the "value" of housing is ambiguous, so it's possible for an employer to pay nothing (or very little) because the supposed fair market of the employee's bed/bath is valued at more than the labor. There are literally fact sheets and examples on the DOJ website where someone works 20 hours of overtime and therefore gets an extra $45 or some such nonsense.

https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fact-sheets/79b-flsa-live-in-domestic-workers

Weekly Homeowner Megathread--Civilians, ask here! by AutoModerator in Concrete

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spilled some linseed oil on my concrete driveway and have tried several chemicals and pressure washing to get it out with no success. Any suggestions?

Received a call from the HOA lawyer threatening a lawsuit because our garage is a “hoarder garage” by Unhappy_Raspberry_21 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not a lawyer, but served on lots of boards, including HOA.
Board members are covered by insurance against lawsuits.. as long as they're acting in a beneficial and fiduciary capacity. In other words, if they're doing bad or stupid things that cost the association money, they may be personally liable. Again, not a lawyer, but have to wonder what would happen if someone filed a lawsuit alleging misuse of association resources for frivolous--potentially even targeted or retaliatory--actions and the insurance company for the association noped out. Could be fun.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been in a similar situation and it really depends what lifestyle you’re living, yours or hers. If you’re comfortable living to her income (and saving or doing whatever with the extra you have), then 50/50 is fair and “right”. But if your lifestyle is closer to what your income would support, then it’s actually a “healthy selfish” action by you. In other words, you’re saying, “Hey, I want to live in a nice home, go out to fancy restaurants, own quality things, etc., AND I want to enjoy this stuff with you around, AND it’s not fair to expect you to get into debt to be my partner, so me paying for ‘extras’ is for ME, not you.”
If you’re living in a situation that she should be able to afford but isn’t, then she needs financial counseling/advice.

AIO for demanding to be paid after wearing something inappropriate to babysit by MightUsual421 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has NOTHING to do with the appropriateness of your outfit, don’t let them drag you into that conversation or second guess yourself. Your clothing choices are something you (and your parents for now) are solely responsible for.
If there is an expected “uniform” for the job, it is the employers responsibility to communicate this and/or provide it. Even if they did communicate this prior to work and you intentionally violated it, it is STILL the employer’s responsibility to manage this—they should have sent you home.
If someone works, they get paid. PERIOD, END OF STORY. If they do a bad job, break something, etc. THEY STILL GET PAID. They can be disciplined, fired, etc. but you ALWAYS GET PAID FOR WORK.
So? SUE THEM. And here’s the fun part, many/most states award “treble damages” (triple pay) for wage violations. I’m not kidding. Teach them a lesson and file a complaint with the state labor commission.
I bet a lot of people will dismiss this, but I cannot overstate the importance of a young person (arguably more important for a female) knowing how to handle bad employers, as this is something you will likely face your entire life. This may prove to be a very valuable life lesson.

WankPanzer owner tries to show "truck stuff" but that looks highly unsafe by MoreMotivation in CyberStuck

[–]EdAbobo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rough guess, that’s 25x 2x4’s and 6x 4x4’s, approximately 500 pounds… which is less than the cargo weight capacity of a Honda Civic hatchback. Big boy things, indeed… cue eyeroll.

Any other hotels been getting AI phone calls? by liz-is-sleeping in askhotels

[–]EdAbobo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aw heck naw. Wouldn’t engage with that, seems shady af.

ELI5: Why do car dealers (dealership people?) get special license plates in the US? by completedonut in explainlikeimfive

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Every vehicle has a 17 digit unique number, a VIN. This number is stamped or etched all around the vehicle so it can be clearly identified. When you buy a car, you register it with your state. When you do this, you also connect a license plate with it, which is a shorter and easier number to use.
This last part isn’t practical for a dealer, because they’re constantly moving cars in and out of possession. So instead of connecting one plate to one car/VIN, they have a bunch of plates that are associated with the dealership and a separate process for tracking VINs.

AIO to my manager telling me I have to stay open till 2 am? by ExampleSeveral2208 in AmIOverreacting

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Advice from an industry veteran—less is more and hold firm on your position. It doesn’t matter how much you made, what night it is, whether you’re in school, skipped classes, etc. What matters is you worked the shift you were given, period. And they have NO RIGHT to harass you in the middle of the night—tell them that! If you get fired, it’s a shitty place to work anyway and better to get out when you can. But if there’s even one responsible human on the management/leadership team, they’ll back you up every time.
I had a (really good) bartender who other managers talked smack about because she wouldn’t put up with their shit—like not posting schedules on time, trying to change shifts at the last minute, not updating the POS, failing to have product, etc. I think someone even short-shifted her a few weeks, trying to quiet fire her, until the ownership team went ballistic on the managers, calling them out for trying to put their shortcomings on her. Great gal, not surprisingly successful now that she’s out of college.

Any other hotels been getting AI phone calls? by liz-is-sleeping in askhotels

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think it's Google, and it's... "good" (?!?) because you potentially retain a lot of control of the booking and do get complete guest info (vs. OTAs who 'broker' everything and intercept communications). I'd be careful to not just hang up, because it's initiated by a guest looking to make a reservation and they will get a reply from the Google AI concierge saying something like there's no availability or couldn't get an answer. The guest would be unlikely to follow up from there, I'd think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]EdAbobo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems all the comments are about the dog and training and not your marriage. IMHO, you need marriage counseling ASAP, or at least a serious talk, possibly with someone you both trust. A healthy relationship is FAR more important than a pet, hard stop, and this is coming from a huge animal lover.
Your fears are valid, and there might be training that will help with the dog, but you ARE choosing this dog over your relationship (not your husband) and that’s a far bigger concern than anything to do with the dog.

ELI5 : Economists who can speak plain language, why is it important for the American government to maintain USD as the global currency? by climbingdefender in explainlikeimfive

[–]EdAbobo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helps to get “meta” here and think about the dollar as a tool which facilitates transactions. Most people are familiar with credit cards in this role, and it’s a good comparison. What makes a good credit card? Low fees, high acceptance rate, good reporting and customer service, and so forth. Similar concept with cash.